When looking forward to something and it’s cancelled

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Just had our babysitter cancel on us for tonight and really needed a night out with DH. Have been looking forward to it all week and have been on a diet and saved up my points for tonight to have a nice meal and glass of wine.

we’ve been having a tough time lately (life, redundancy, bad health in the family) and so it feels a bit like it was going to cheer us up but it isn’t now,

the source of the problem is once again someone else in the family who has form for causing problems by just being an irresponsible baby and not an adult, and because of this we now can’t go on a much needed way to relax unwind and be together

last weekend we had an opportunity for a babysitter but husband decided to stay in with his sister so I went out with my big bro. he had a minor cold and I was a bit miffed he couldn’t just come out but he said he didn’t want to get worse, as he has a busy job and we have small children

im feeling bitter that I haven’t had time with my husband properly for ages, I literally feel like crying and I know it’s a bit silly. Rant over

YANBU to be disappointed. Can you have a nice takeaway (or M&S Dine In meal) and a glass of wine at home instead?

So the babysitter is a (irresponsible) family member?

Oh that is gutting. Are there no other nearby family that could help?

But now you know, you cannot rely on that person, no next time do not include them in your planning.

So the babysitter is the irresponsible baby / not an adult and has wrecked your plans?

Why would you want someone like that babysitting your kids?

Use the evening to talk to your husband as this marriage doesn’t sound healthy. A date night would have just been a plaster

last weekend we had an opportunity for a babysitter but husband decided to stay in with his sister so I went out with my big bro. he had a minor cold and I was a bit miffed he couldn’t just come out but he said he didn’t want to get worse, as he has a busy job and we have small children

so I don’t imagine your husband is disappointed about the turn of events tonight?

No but their immature actions has caused their sibling not to be able to sit

No see above reply :)

going to try but once the kids are asleep they inevitably wake up so it kid our ability to relax hence needing to go out

A little but not as much as me

Still have your date night! Just go lockdown style 😁

Sad when we have a huge village who all want our kids for the photo opp but don’t want to help us when we need a babysitter on a Saturday once in a blue moon. But they’ll come to Santa and have the cuddles and photos

going to be getting in touch with a professional babysitting agency I think. Ridiculous if you knew the size of village we have locally

I like your thinking xx

Oh.

Can you expand on why her siblings actions (what did they do?) affected your babysitter?

Without knowing the reason for the cancellation we can’t determine if you feeling bitter is reasonable or not.

Put a stop to their involvement when it doesn’t benefit you.

Kids, like dogs, are not just for Christmas!

And he wasn’t bothered last week

Put kids to bed and say the pair of you need to talk .

Is there no one else you can contact and say, 'Oh MIL, Auntie, Uncle, Grandad - Janet has let us down last minute for babysitting tonight. You couldn't possibly step in could you? We've got a restaurant booked and were really looking forward to it?'

I'll be honest - if I had a massive village like you suggest I'd work my way down the sodding list asking everyone. I'd put ALL the blame in my sob story onto the unreliable babysitter.

And if no one can do it, well fine. But you know where you stand in the future don't you. Don't invite them to join you for the fun bits.

Pet related

Just pay for a babysitter, like most people!

The sibling had a commitment
and the sibling has bailed
and here you are bitching this other family member that you clearly despise

anyway…. Sounds like date night would have been a plaster. Use tonight to talk to your DH about the marriage

It’s a dog training issue. I didn’t realise how bad it was but the dog has injured someone , not fatal but scarred for life on a limb, not the face by

So the person meant to be baby setting had an issue where their dog has bitten someone enough to scar them, and has, following this incident cancelled on you? I can understand. If there a nice person they’re probably very upset that someone has been injured by their pet, and 2 now their pet is a biter might need to be put down?

No, I think it’s the sibling of the dog owner who was supposed to babysit?

Oh ok, sorry couldn’t really follow it. They’re probably looking out for their sibling then. Still think that’s fair enough, albeit understandably disappointing for OP

Sibling of the babysitters dog has injured someone not a bite but as a result of being unruly, the babysitter now has to have the dog it’s a bit of a long story but that’s all I can share