AIBU to avoid private physio for daughter because I fancy the guy?

[Patheticcrush]

My daughter has a health issue for which she has been receiving some physio. Unfortunately during that time I have developed quite a crush on the physical therapist. Thankfully, the free service came to an end which was a bit of a relief because I am married and so I believe is he. We said goodbye at the end of term and I went back to my life.

This happens to me from time to time, as I believe it does in many long-term relationships. I’ve never acted on any fleeting crush, love and fancy my husband, though we don’t have sex as much as we’d both like due to being really fucking tired.

Anyway I have some money set aside for private therapy for my daughter and he emailed me to say he was leaving the free health service and going freelance. He passed on his contact details.

I have not replied because I don’t want to be in the same room with him! It would feel like crossing a rubicon. But daughter would benefit from more physio and really liked him. I have to find someone else don’t I?

AIBU?

Oh sorry that was typed as nice and empathetic!

Quite.

Ok, so I’m mental, immature, and should never have kids. Thanks, mumsnet! Really helpful stuff as ever.

Freudian slip, imo 😂

I doubt whether reading any bodies views on this will change my own strongly held belief that marriage means Forsaking all others. So in my opinion looking towards a person outside your marriage, as in what you describe as a crush, is being totally disloyal to your spouse.

Everyone is entitled to their own views and if you see your crush as acceptable in your marriage then fair enough. Presumably you are equally happy for your H to develop feelings for and hanker after another woman?

Op I’m sorry I don’t want to derail your thread but I am howling at the replies to this.
there are loads of private physios. Find a new one and save the fantasies for when you’re on your own hahaha

It seems a shame to make your daughter do the work of building a relationship with a new physio. You're the adult, I think you should be the one to make an effort to ensure you maintain a distance from this guy.

Think of it as practice for other occasions on which you have to remain detached/professional and ignore strong personal chemistry. There are quite a few professions where having to excuse yourself from a case or a client because of a crush would be a severe handicap (probably fatal to long-term success) and you would have to learn better self-control. Your daughter deserves the same effort.

😂

🤣 Freudian slip? Nude would certainly help you determine if the crush was reciprocated.

@Patheticcrush Why can't your husband take your daughter? Your problem should have been resolved by doing that in the first place if you think you are going to develop feelings for a man whose job it is to help your child.

He works full time and it was during office hours. I work two days a week so have lots of flexibility the rest of the time. My husband more than makes up for it, though.