To ask how often you encounter snobbiness?

[Thatuglywasp]

Before moving in with my partner I lived in a studio flat alone, in a perfectly good area. Not a very luxurious, well-to-do millionaires' row by any means, but not run-down or dangerous either, just perfectly normal, near to a big shopping area, hospital, just completely average.

Saw a friend and her husband and he said 'Oh that's not the best area of that place' when I said exactly where I lived. The friend then gave me a lift home at around 7pm and parked on the street. She asked me if I could walk her back to her car as she'd seen a man walk down that road and was 'scared'. Just a normal-looking man, walking down the road, no reason whatsoever to assume anything untoward.

They live in an area where footballers and real housewives' cast live so anywhere else probably seems like slums to them, but it was ott! I lived there for a year and had no issues whatsoever, I found the area very convenient.

I have a car from the 2010s with a 1.4 engine, it obviously hasn't got all the latest tech but it's a very reliable car known for its durability and is a good size, smooth, never had any problems with it only the usual servicing brake pads etc.. recently someone found out what car it was and said "Oh I assume that's only used for shorter trips then as it can't provide much comfort".

I didn't say anything but laughed to myself, they must think any car before 2020 is some sort of flintstones vehicle that will crumple if it leaves the postcode area, and newer cars eject champagne and canapés from the dashboard and some sort of business class experience.

I think people sometimes just say these things without meaning to be harsh, just stereotypes or comparing to their own lifestyles. I just roll my eyes internally, does anyone else have this?

Quite frequently, when people find out what I do for a living (farming)! Bonus points if they have seen (and smelt) me in my work clothes. Some people are funny about where I live ("THAT'S not a village!" No, it's not; it's in the middle of nowhere with very few houses, no shops, etc. and I prefer to live there than in town or a village). Very few people come into my house, as they are usually appalled that it is very basic and DIY projects take forever around work.

Also, people get sniffy about my wild hair and lack of make-up or stylish clothes, and my tiny car (which, OK, looks like a tip, as dog hair gets everywhere). Fortunately, cows do not care about what I look like, or what I drive, which is why I find them easier to work with than people!

Oh for sure it was always the other poors saying snobby stuff to me. I didn’t really know any adults who were middle class as a child apart from my aunt who was “very posh” (owned her home and had a stocks and shares ISA). When I had kids I was so worried to put them in second hand stuff but now I’ve met rich people (real rich people, not the ones with big financed cars on a council estate) they’re all bragging about their vinted finds!

Personally I've never encountered snobbishness.
The only snob I know is my sister who has nothing to be snobbish about.

I believe that.

Years ago where I used to live, I was told by a very excited woman at a toddler group, how lucky we were to live in the catchment area of X school as it was the only school in London with no council estate in the catchment area 🙄

I work in the community and spend a lot of time in deprived areas… not much phases me nowadays and I’m supposedly “posh” because I’m pretty well spoken… (I’m not, I’m from a working class background). I also push the trolley back from Aldi when I do a big shop as I don’t drive, I couldn’t give a shit what anyone thinks of me tbh! I don’t judge others, kindness and manners cost nothing, neither does a smile or saying hello!

My SIL (who is a multi-millionaire because of my brother), was raised in a a very deprived area in a council flat. However, she is the worst snob ever. We had a huge argument because she makes comments about people who look scuffy, but I take particular exception when she complains aboutservice staff who have poor/missing teeth. It f*cked me right off because she would walk right out of restaurants if that was the case. She has clearly lost sight of how much these things cost, dental work is eye wateringly expensive, and to refuse to go to a restaurant and be served by someone for having missing teeth is just so ignorant. As if people on those wages can afford that! Grrrr.....

Another relative is an education snob. Basically anyone without formal education is an idiot to them. Including youngsters. I couldn't disagree more.

I love them all but sometimes people can be dicks.

Yes and I grew up in a council estate myself and had lots of horrible comments. I couldn't care less what people think now but as a child it really got to me.

This type of snobbery is just laughable to me.

I grew up around very, very wealthy “old money” people. Scruffy as hell, old beat up cars and yes, some of them had really awful teeth 🤣

Yeh - and her and DB are proud of her behaviour. Like shes a cut above because she will just walk out when servers don't meet her lofty standards.

Dick.

I bet they have a good laugh at her behind her back. How rude of her.

I was being snobby to myself yesterday. I think I hid it well. I was on a playdate at another mum's house. I really like this woman. She's 20 years younger than me and her aesthetic is Kardashian-aspirational. Lots of neutrals and grey. Those leggings that your bum eats. Lots of filler and botox. Baby showers. Almost sexualised clothes for her little daughter. Tiny little handbag dogs. I am very different from this. I took a homemade cake and I wear Birkenstocks. A lot! I read the Guardian and I wear Hush. I can see myself here. I am a bit arty and probably a bit of a twat. Anyway... I was feeling snobby about a lot of this woman's life, but I was also thinking she was great and her taste in soft furnishings may not match mine, but her decency does. We also laugh together a lot. I would guess, financially, our two households are fairly similar. It's a snobbery of aesthetics rather than cash. However, if I am honest, I can't imagine us becoming very close friends, but that may be the age difference rather than me thinking she has naff taste.

Hahaha this happened to me all the time when I was younger. When out with a group of friends and we happened to call back to someone’s house, I was never allowed inside, I had to wait at the door as I was from the council estate.

I also had a sleepover at my friend’s house and in the morning her mum said to me ‘Natalie told me where you live this morning, had I known I’d have never said yes to you coming over but you’re actually the most well behaved and polite guest we’ve ever had, you’d never guess you lived there!’ Erm thanks I guess.

I also found it funny that when I went out shopping on a Saturday with friends that lived in the posh 5 beds in a lovely part of town, they always shoplifted! I was mortified, I just left the shop as I was always told by my mum if that ever happened, I’d always get the blame as I lived where I did.

I’ve been treated awfully because I grew up on a council estate.

And then we have the old money snobs popping in too. Hello!

Yep, 100% agree with this.

This sounds like new money talking to me rather than snobbishness.

I encounter cultural snobbishness because I’m American; it used to hurt terribly but after 20 years I don’t care anymore.

Oh for heavens sake. I knew them - I am not one of them (sadly, I’d like the money!) . I went to a very good school with lots of them and picked up the accent to fit in, but I am firmly working class. When I lived in West London, our wages were topped up by housing benefit. We got priced out, I had a mental breakdown after a horrible health issue, and then bought a house on a council estate in Dudley, where my husband is from, so we could have his family to support me. I wish I was old money, while I like my home and my friends, I’m not too keen on living next door to a weed dealer.

I was merely pointing out that some snobs are just rude. They have no idea that the people they aspire to be wouldn’t be impressed with their new Range Rover.

I can remember my niece coming in from school asking if she could invite a friend round to play.

My sister's response - "I'll have to find out what her daddy does first" 🙄

I don’t spend my time with people like this so not very often at all. I remember my police officer friend being like this. She said in police training they’re told to look out for tracksuits, trainers and taxis so she would constantly be vigilant and certain anyone wearing a tracksuit was up to no good. I went on a night out with her once and she was surveilling people in Wetherspoons. She then had an affair with her married sergeant so I used that as an escape route and haven’t spoken to her since.

Isn't that just her joking about trying to find a rich man? I'm confused.

Never. I hear a lot of inverted snobbery though

My husband was dissed as a child for being from a council estate

I used to work for a multi millionaire (on Kent's rich list) she was a lovely old lady, very old money. However she would make her husband and herself nespresso or something nice and I would get instant coffee (she probably thought it was all I was used to). A down to earth young couple who were not poor by any standards who i also cleaned for let me help myself to their coffee machine and cakes

Snobbery is so classless, isn't it😂