To ask how often you encounter snobbiness?

[Thatuglywasp]

Before moving in with my partner I lived in a studio flat alone, in a perfectly good area. Not a very luxurious, well-to-do millionaires' row by any means, but not run-down or dangerous either, just perfectly normal, near to a big shopping area, hospital, just completely average.

Saw a friend and her husband and he said 'Oh that's not the best area of that place' when I said exactly where I lived. The friend then gave me a lift home at around 7pm and parked on the street. She asked me if I could walk her back to her car as she'd seen a man walk down that road and was 'scared'. Just a normal-looking man, walking down the road, no reason whatsoever to assume anything untoward.

They live in an area where footballers and real housewives' cast live so anywhere else probably seems like slums to them, but it was ott! I lived there for a year and had no issues whatsoever, I found the area very convenient.

I have a car from the 2010s with a 1.4 engine, it obviously hasn't got all the latest tech but it's a very reliable car known for its durability and is a good size, smooth, never had any problems with it only the usual servicing brake pads etc.. recently someone found out what car it was and said "Oh I assume that's only used for shorter trips then as it can't provide much comfort".

I didn't say anything but laughed to myself, they must think any car before 2020 is some sort of flintstones vehicle that will crumple if it leaves the postcode area, and newer cars eject champagne and canapés from the dashboard and some sort of business class experience.

I think people sometimes just say these things without meaning to be harsh, just stereotypes or comparing to their own lifestyles. I just roll my eyes internally, does anyone else have this?

My sil pretends to be very posh and part of the "old" town where we live. It comes from her husband's parents having owned a manor house that rotted about their ears.

She regularly tries to put me down for my background...or did till I pointed out that the last time I passed the street I grew up on their was still a railway station at one end and an industrial estate...the last time I passed her's there was a hooker at one end and it didn't feel safe to go to the other

I don't think she really cared tbh.

@FreddystarrateMyhamstersaying you’re well spoken implies your accent is superior and accented people are badly spoken. Just say your actual accent - RP, standard southern, Public School Sociolect, Estuaryspeak etc.

😂😂😂 I suggest you have a wander round some shabby graffiti’d industrial Italian/ Portuguese/ Spanish suburbs, or the outer suburbs of Paris or Marseilles.

My response was along those lines!

My mil is so so snobby. Shopping in Aldi would mortify her. Shes never set foot in a charity shop. She clutched her pearls this week at the thought of me posting my cards with a second class stamp. She used to buy a new car every three years without fail and even though she can no longer drive she still has a new car on her drive because she doesn’t want the neighbours thinking she can’t afford one. She’s hilarious but actually really kind too

If you have a preference for eating in a branch of a chain restaurant to avoid loud uncouth families does that make you a snob?

I’m not being snobby. My dh grew up here and has the local accent as does my youngest child that was born here. It’s Black Country and I quite like it.

I didn’t mean anything shitty by “well spoken”. It’s just a turn of phrase, there’s no need to jump on it. I’m not implying that people with Black Country accents don’t speak properly.

I do speak like Kate Middleton. Aside from when I am pissed, and then my Cornish accents comes out strong (lived there as a child).

At a Christmas party a couple of years ago, friend A was banging on about how brilliant her new estate agent was. Friend B said “you’ll have to give me the details, we’re looking to sell soon”. Friend A replied - “oh they wouldn’t deal with you, they only handle properties valued at over a million”. 🙄

Ironically friend B sold very quickly & friend A’s house is still on the market.

I often find it’s the people whose circumstances have changed later on who are the snobbiest. Like people who came into money later in their lives and didn’t have much education or wealth themselves growing up .

I don't know if you're joking, but it's true for me!

I'm not snobby in a materialistic way, but I do judge others (in my head) about their manners on the daily. I don't live in a well off area but I do think 'oh Christ' at some of the families round here, because they don't seem to have good standards.

People might say that having standards is not snobby, but it is when you are using others as a yardstick. I find myself often saying to myself 'thank God I'm not like THAT,' while it's definitely true that people would say that about me.

You mentioned minor C list celebrities.. I wouldn't worry about their opinions. It's not real snobbery, it's more like intense insecurity forcing them to say ridiculous things to remind people how rich they now are. Like why they tend to wear clothes with 'designer' names written in large font, bold, capital letters so the people in the back know for sure they're not poor now.

It's also a sign of poor manners so further proof they can't be real snobs because they're not actually posh themselves.

Real snobs wouldn't behave like that to your face, because they pride themselves on having enough class to do it in private.

I do sometimes. I ignore it when it's directed at myself but I always speak up when it's directed towards any child. I really can't stand it when someone is snobby towards a child.

You should’ve said ‘are they? They don’t look it!’

We’ve recently moved to the posh bit of Glasgow (humble brag) and people can be a bit snobby. DH has always said being snobby is an English thing (??) but since we’ve moved here he’s admitted some Scottish people can actually be really snobby as well so tbh I feel a bit smug about being proven right.

From strangers/ acquaintance, rarely

from friends… pretty much never!! I think you need better friends

When I was a kid I was poor and I vaguely remember some comments from adults about how they would never put their kid in second hand clothes ect. At the time I just thought “alright you mug miss out on the bargains then” but looking back it’s weird to say that to a child and a bit snobby. Now I’m a grown up I do sometimes look back on some adults and how they treated me and I just think they’re mega weird for it.

A few years ago I was at a party and a man asked me what I did for a living. He replied “How interesting! “ and drifted away when I said I was a cleaner. Obviously cleaning is not a job most intelligent women choose! I ‘may’ have accidentally displayed my Mensa card later….

Recently my son was playing with his friend. Another neighbour approached me afterwards and said I might not be aware but that child was from a council estate and might not be a suitable friend. Just ridiculous.

See, I’ve found things like second hand clothes to be the other way round.

When I lived in a very affluent area, everyone would scrabble to get to the second hand uniform sale at the schools. They would always haven their children in hand me downs, we would pass them through friends children for years.

I now live in an area that’s the complete opposite. I naively tried to set up a second hand shop at the school when I started volunteering. Immediately shut down by staff who told me that no one would have second hand stuff here, people have tried it before and no one wanted it.

They even put the lost property out at the end of term, all sorted into sizes for free, hardly anyone goes for it. It would have been like flies round shit in West London for free uniform.