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Pulled over by the police with blue lights flashing because I BEEPED at them!

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BeepedAtPoliceCar · 30/08/2026 22:26

Long but I've tried to make it easy to read!

Tonight, I dropped DS at work and on the way back had just started moving off from a large roundabout to go straight across it. It was 7pm and the road is an A road, not a residential area.

I had noticed a police car coming down from the opposite side of the roundabout (no lights flashing) and assumed it was going straight across as it had no indicators but it turned right towards me so I had to stop.

As I moved onto the roundabout after it passed me. I beeped. A short tap to say where the hell are you going. I had also had to stop. I was moving when I beeped. This is important.

I assumed it was going to take the same exit as me but it It then continued round the roundabout again. Still no indication. So I did another short beep. The direction he was going in was to our local police station about 2 minutes down the road.

Yes it was in frustration as there are many idiots who don't indicate in my area and I've had many near misses. It's pretty shit the police are driving like that as well and it was also a hazard to other road users.

Maybe the driver wasn't aware his indicators weren't working?

Anyway I drive on but see in the my rear mirror a police car speeding up the road behind me, lights flashing, in the bus lane. The speed limit is 40 and I was doing that so he must have been doing 60 at least as he caught up with me in seconds.

I immediately knew he was coming after me.

The car came alongside me and the driver wound his window down, as did I, and shouted at me to pull over now, pull over now. He looked apoplectic with rage!

I pulled over in front of him in the bus lane and he drove behind me, bumper to bumper. I have never been stopped by the police before and got out of my car to go to speak to him (oops lucky it wasn't in the US!).

He's screaming get back in your car now, get back in your car now!

So I get back in and luckily had the presence of mind to start videoing on my phone as he came over. I asked for him name and badge number which he fired off so fast I couldn't catch it. He refused to repeat it. Refused to tell me which police station he was stationed at. He said I had contravened the highway code for beeping inappropriately and would be getting a penalty ticket.

I admit I was a bit argumentative (not rude) and said he only stopped me because he was pissed off I beeped at him and the police should know better.

He then said they were looking for a 'criminal' and were on police business so didn't have to indicate (no lights except when they came for me!) and they also didn't know where they were going. He also said he didn't need to indicate unless he was exiting the roundabout.

I asked him why if he was looking for a criminal, he decided to go after someone who beeped at him for not indicating.

He said I was stationery when I beeped so that is a road traffic contravention. I was moving so I asked him why he was lying. He then stated he'd need to do drug and alcohol tests.

I asked if he was joking and what basis did he have to suspect I was driving under the influence. He said because my behaviour - beeping at him - was 'bizarre' and I was driving dangerously, then asked if I was refusing? So I had to do them. They were clear obviously.

I said I would be making a complaint as I believed he was abusing his power because he was pissed off I beeped at him and 'how dare he bully members of the public'.

He then said MOVE NOW because I was in an active lane (bus lane where he forced me to stop) and if I didn't move now I'd get another ticket for failing to comply with an instruction from a police officer. I said 'who do you think you're talking to'.

I was very WTF and asked him to repeat the law I had broken and told him to give me the ticket so I could challenge it in court, so he said he did and I would get it in the post.

Two tickets - £130 and 3 points.

I then drove off. He didn't come behind me so I can only assume he went back round the next roundabout in the direction of the police station and the looking for a criminal was rubbish. In fact he said it so sarcastically, I think he meant looking for someone to book!

I have video of most of the interaction and he comes across very bullish and rude, especially when he was shouting at me to 'move now'. Literally no more than a minute until I did but he still said he had given me a ticket.

I did tell him I was putting the video on TikTok and would be making a complaint.
Quite shocked about this, and on reading about challenging the tickets in court, it seems that you can end up with a criminal conviction if you lose!

The lie about me being stationery when I beeped (which I have on video) should be easily disproven by their dashcam. Would they have to give me this if I challenge it?

Sadly I don't have my own. I ordered one ages ago, kept forgetting to set it up and it was on top of the bookcase at home!

WIBU?

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ButtercupYellow26 · 30/08/2026 22:39

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TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 30/08/2026 22:39

That's not right you got 2 tickets and 3 points. You could talk to a solicitor if you wanted

ShakyBake · 30/08/2026 22:39

It's an unwritten rule you shouldn't actually look directly at a police car let alone sound your horn at one. I winked at one once and was tasered and stripped searched and blame only myself

LuckyHazelFox · 30/08/2026 22:39

You never bring yourself to the attention of the police. You did and now you're having to pay the price.

wizzywig · 30/08/2026 22:39

Utter pompous behaviour from you op. You beep to say wtf and then have a problem with them coming right back at you with the same.
You said why did they come after you if they were looking for a criminal? Maybe they were asked to call the search off?
Putting it on tik tok. Go and complain to the proper authorities.

BeepedAtPoliceCar · 30/08/2026 22:40

Gealach · 30/08/2026 22:38

I think this is hilarious. I can’t believe you beeped at a police car! Twice!!

i would imagine he shouted at you getting out of the car because he didn’t ask you to get out of the car, and he doesn’t know if you are dangerous ect…

He was abusing his power though. Have no idea a complaint would go.

I know!

I immediately thought to myself as I got back in the car 'shit, if I had been in the US, he'd have probably shot me!'

I thought he wanted to speak to me, so I'd go to him!

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BeepedAtPoliceCar · 30/08/2026 22:38

Why though?

They're supposed to uphold the law not target people for pulling them up on bad driving, which could have caused an accident if I had sped off without looking properly as many of my fellow road users seem to do.

Who's fault would it have been if there was an accident.

He also stated on video, you only need to indicate on a roundabout if you're exiting.

Not what the Highway Code says.

But what reason did you have to beep?

anyway… even though I don’t agree with the beeping, I would still report his behaviour towards you as it sounds way too aggressive https://www.policeconduct.gov.uk/contact-us

Contact us | Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC)

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Livingthebestlife · 30/08/2026 22:41

Oh my lord, 2 beeps and then getting out of the car 😂😂 they must have been looking at each other wondering what the hell was happening.

TheFairyCaravan · 30/08/2026 22:42

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 30/08/2026 22:38

My dad got pulled over, on the slip road to the M5, many moons ago because apparently my mum looked at one of the police officers in a funny way!

Grin did she look at him funny though?

It was probably her resting bitch face!

Gealach · 30/08/2026 22:42

@BeepedAtPoliceCar

to the best of my knowledge there isn’t a reason needed for alcohol and drug roadside testing,

He thought you were off your head on something because you beeped at him! Technically you shouldn’t beep to call people out on poor driving. You should only use it to prevent collisions or alert people to your presence.

Hyperbolically · 30/08/2026 22:43

Complain about him, complete prick. Some of the women saying you are silly may have forgotten about Sarah Everard. I haven’t.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 30/08/2026 22:44

Hyperbolically · 30/08/2026 22:43

Complain about him, complete prick. Some of the women saying you are silly may have forgotten about Sarah Everard. I haven’t.

This.

nocoolnamesleft · 30/08/2026 22:45

You beeped at a police car! Twice! And then got out of the car! I'm not surprised they thought you were on drugs!

CandidRobin · 30/08/2026 22:46

BeOchreDog · 30/08/2026 22:29

What on earth would possess you to beep at a police car once, let alone twice!

Entitlement lol

Blackbird2409 · 30/08/2026 22:46

Yep, I’m a pretty brave driver (when others are doing 65 in a 70 just because there’s a police car, I’ll overtake at 72 quite happily) but sounding your horn at them is just asking for trouble lol. This whole story sounds a bit far fetched 😂

Minasama · 30/08/2026 22:47

Surely beeping a police car is a stupid thing to do? Beeping it a second time is clearly going to land you in hot water. It isn’t normal behaviour so would need to be investigated.

I think you need to understand who has the power here. I’m quite annoyed that you wasted police time in this way and don’t seem to regard yourself as having done anything wrong.

Terrayn · 30/08/2026 22:48

In these situations, if you want a quiet life then it’s important to remember who actually holds the power.

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Btc76 · 30/08/2026 22:49

You lost your temper, OP. So did the police officer.

They were trying to catch criminals. You were looking for an altercation as content for your TikTok account.

The officer acted like an idiot. So did you, OP. Either pay the fine and accept the points, or take your chances in court aid hope a soft-headed magistrate or prosecutor is on shift. Either way you acted like a fool and deserve everything you get

godmum56 · 30/08/2026 22:50

Redrosesposies · 30/08/2026 22:36

I fairly sure the highway code says that the car horn is only to be used to indicate to other road users "I am here" (or some such) not, as many believe "you are driving like a wanker".
While most of us understand your frustration, you were being unreasonable to get yourself in that situation in the first place.

this....I mean its all a bit play stupid games isn't it?

LovelyLassie · 30/08/2026 22:50

Thats no reason to beep at a car twice, not sure why you beeped at all.

however it sounds like the man was an arse. There was some research a while ago that discovered police officers are twice as likely as the general public to be abusive to their partner at home. Im sure there are some great police officers around but sadly many also abuse their power.

is it worth sending the video to his superior?

LuckyHazelFox · 30/08/2026 22:50

Yes complain about beeping at a copper, being argumentative and getting out of the car, which can be seen as confrontational. Telling him you're going to put it on Tik Tok, embarrassing. The whole encounter is recorded by them so if you want to listen to the hyperbolic brigade on here, go for it.

PrincessofWills · 30/08/2026 22:51

I flashed several times at a police car and gesticulated for them to stop which they did. I explained I was lost and urgently trying to get to the hospital and they said follow us and led the way.

Sadly I can honestly say it's the only good interaction I've ever had with members of the police . . . in over 60 years.

beigepaints · 30/08/2026 22:51

I find it quite refreshing that you had the gall to beep not once but twice.

He obviously has his ego hurt

SaySomethingMan · 30/08/2026 22:51

BeepedAtPoliceCar · 30/08/2026 22:40

I know!

I immediately thought to myself as I got back in the car 'shit, if I had been in the US, he'd have probably shot me!'

I thought he wanted to speak to me, so I'd go to him!

Not if you’re not black…