AIBU to think hotel breakfast in pyjamas is not acceptable?

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AIBU yo think that adults should not arrive at the hotel breakfast in their pyjamas?

we’re staying in a city centre hotel. Nice place- nothing fancy, with breakfast included.

thus morning, 2 young women (prob early 20’s) came down to breakfast wearing short pyjamas, barefoot- clearly just out of bed. They were loud, and not overly polite to the staff either- “where are the plates” etc. just brash and abrupt.

Im generally not a fussy person but this sort of thing feels like a lowering of standards to me. I don’t think we saw stuff like this 10-15 years ago.

AIBU to think that this is not acceptable?

What an insult to Dolly.

To be fair it’s not really about the hygiene aspects - just judging their laziness
I’m on holiday somewhere hot at the moment and we are mainly eating breakfast in swimwear with a cover up of some kind
If I was staying in premier inn I would get dressed

Well, I’m in the “you need to get dressed” camp, but even I can’t see how it’s any dirtier than people’s day clothes which have been in hospitals / tube / public toilets etc etc.

People wearing their pyjamas at breakfast is downright DISGUSTING! I am surprised some people are condoning this behaviour. The state of this country, there is no self pride anymore, what a sad state of affairs.. Sort yourselves out!

I’ve never done it but I’d absolutely love to ! I would love to wander down and eat and then get dressed back in the room afterwards. I always think it’s a pain to get dressed and done up and it’s not relaxing. I often avoid hotel breakfasts for this very reason! And prefer to have a lie in and go out for food after. I wouldn’t do it but I can totally see why one would!

You don't have to get done up.
I put on yesterday's clothes, have breakfast then shower etc afterwards.

Yes and if you’re specifically shoving pyjamas on to go to the hotel restaurant just shove jogging bottoms or leggings and and a t shirt and do it, no one needs to get dressed up, you just need to get dressed.

even though some contrary people arguing this, I assume as they enjoy it, we all know it’s vanishingly rare and the overwhelming majority of people know you get dressed to dine in restaurants or go to the supermarket , basically you get dressed to go into public spaces.

I also don’t see the hygiene issue, for me it just looks slovenly and like the person is clueless how to behave in public, surely they must look around and see everyone is dressed, so that should give them a clue.

it doesn’t offend me though, more a little like second hand embarassment for them.

I think that’s worse, sorry! Swimwear is for the beach/pool/spa only. Even when leaving the pool you should be changing into proper clothes.

Perhaps it boils down to a depressing feeling of people just not being arsed with life. Which perhaps is irrational. But nonetheless just that feeling of lots of people not bothering to do a good job anymore.

As I detailed previously, you have a very easy fix.

When comfy casual clothes wear out, don’t throw them out, but put them aside. When in a hotel, take them and wear them to bed rather than pj’s. You can wear them multiple nights, so you only need one set, two if over 4/5 days.

Get up in morning, feet out of bed into hotel slippers, go to loo, wash hands, and head straight out the door to breakfast. People who have nothing better to look at or think about will be overjoyed that you have come to breakfast ‘dressed’. Then go back to room, have shower, do hair etc and put on clothes for your day.

Bonus being if you know you will likely have a ‘new’ set of worn out comfy clothes you can wear to bed before your next hotel stay, don’t even take them back with you, bin them and lighten your return luggage and save your own bin at home (obviously after your final breakfast🤣).

Everyone has to look at such a chavvy scumbag and know that the hotel they booked thinking it was nice is the sort of place chavvy scumbags hang out.

This.

You've no idea what they do with the rest of their life though. I frequently used to slob to my local newsagents in my PJs, unshowered, for a packet of fags of an evening. At the time I had an intense high-level job involving working on projects with the UN and international travel, was studying for a qualification that involved even more international travel and volunteering on conservation projects. I largely WFH now on strategic policy projects and don't bother to get dressed properly most days. If you'd passed me in the street you could easily have assumed I was a no-hoper on benefits.

But don't people just love to jump to conclusions and judge others.

No, I'm sorry, it's slobby and slovenly. I've always lived by if you look well kept and respectable, you feel a lot better about yourself. Standards are standards in my opinion.

That's my whole point! I'm not disputing it's slobby but if someone feels relaxed and comfortable being a slob, what's the issue? It has no bearing on what they might be doing with the rest of their life or their values. People can be lazy in some areas but not others

Aye, fair comment as far as that kind of situation's concerned.

It does have an impact if they’re sitting next to me at a hotel breakfast. If I’m eating in a restaurant I expect other diners to have got dressed.

Ok, so it's not your preference but it doesn't really impact you does it. Sometimes I see people wearing things I think are awful but other than having an opinion, it has no impact on me and my enjoyment of whatever I might be doing at the time. Unless they smell or are sharting on your breakfast I fail to see how it affects you.

I sort of agree, it’s of course slobby and solvenly, even if you’ve showered and put fresh ones on, that’s how it looks, or basically clueless of how to dress in a restaurant or public place.

it doesn’t really impact others, but no one really wants to see others in their pyjamas in a restaurant, they just need to avoid looking at them. Although most will be side eyeing them and judging them,

it is thankfully rare though, most people know they need to get dressed to go into a restaurant, and do so.

as a society we have etiquette expectations. You don’t go shopping down Tesco in a thong bikini as it’s hot. You don’t wear sparkly hot pants and a boob tube to work in the office, and getting dressed to eat at a public venue, be it a hotel restaurant or Starbucks, is just one of those etiquettes.

no one needs to get dressed up, but you do need to get dressed. And thankfully 99.9 percent of people do.

I know. I’m the same. We turn up for house viewings looking like chancers rather than people who could actually afford the house. People have no idea. My clothes are filled with holes. It doesnt reveal anything about my professional background or finances.

I guess I’m just responding on a thread saying I think it’s a bit crap to wear pjs to breakfast in a hotel. That’s my opinion and taps my values and the values of most other people on this thread. I guess it taps some deep concern about the state of the world and mental health. Not the particular people wearing pjs per se. Perhaps it’s generational too. I’m over 40.

Wouldn't do it myself, wouldn't care if anyone else did it.

Weird to think it's particularly unhygienic. The human body doesn't get dirtier overnight than walking around all day, yet no one seems to think unwashed people in restaurants for dinner is "disgusting".

Feel free to apply your standards to yourself.

What I live by is that if you don't look down your nose and judge other people, you feel better about yourself. It works!

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My nan was horrifed by people eating while walking along the street and thought it was the height of moral decline!!"

I am 72 years old and I share your nan's horror at people eating while walking around. I was thinking about this last time I went to the nearest 'big' town.
i have no idea why it offends me so much, unless it's the voice of my Edwardian elders in my subconscious. 😳

I never, ever eat walking along the street unless I have been on a night out, had a few/many drinks and can't resist the lure of cheesy chips. Thinking on, even then I'm likely to find a seat somewhere.

i often feel I no longer belong in this society...

I am sure the people arguing this, most of them wouldn’t dream of going out to a restaurant to eat in their pyjamas, they just want to argue.

but it’s getting a little silly when posters start hurling abuse at people for having standards, when the standard is as basic as getting dressed before you go out.