Not to post on threads when the OP posts once and disappears

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people have lives, I get that. But after several pages not to have come back is just rude.

I think in most of these cases, they are either trolls looking to get people frothing so they can sit laughing at all the comments (whatever floats their boat, I guess).

Or it’s that they don’t like the answers they got, so they just don’t come back.

Well they're arses

(Had to come back 🙄😁)

Maybe there should be a red flag posted at the top of the thread after a day 😁

I agree.

Especially, when it’s a long post asking for help or opinions. Why bother if you’re not going to reply?

Imagine, asking a question in real life and then just walking away. It would appear rude.

Yep, it's rude. I always watch if the OP has come back before reading a thread. You try to give advice and put time and effort in so it's very rude not to come back. In some cases I'm sure it's because the OP doesn't like the answers. It has happened to me but I still come back because the whole point is getting different povs or you can just stay in your echo chamber. The thing I like about mn is that people can be honest whereas irl it's harder to tell someone when you think they are wrong.

One post wankers. Especially when they post at night, it's normally a wind up.

For longer threads, if there are a number of responses on the first page but none from OP I'll check if they've replied. If they haven't I'll move on. Otherwise you just end up reading a load of responses saying the same thing and it's boring.

It's been happening on Style and Beauty too recently, like advice on dress for a wedding or something and days later, loads of helpful suggestions but OP never comes back.
Baffling. Yes, apparently no-one uses the word baffling in real life. Well I do! (That's another thread, sorry...😂)

Excellent suggestion.

I tend to read all the OP’s posts in the thread to see if there’s an update or clarification, especially if it’s a long thread (though tend to avoid those as really what can I add). If there isn’t then less likely to bother reading it all.

Love one post wankers

I also don’t understand why some of these threads attract hundreds of replies, many simply repeating what other people have same.

Maybe if we could see the reactions we would simply react to posts we agree with.

I was a “one post wanker” once (love the term!).
I posted looking for advice on a specific situation with my elderly mother. Then got loads of replies all along the theme of “your mother should care for herself/pay for her own care”. Given that I’d been clear in my opening post that I love my mother and was choosing to help her through her old age, it was just not helpful and I didn’t bother to reply. People are so quick these days to post a snap comments with their opinion, before taking the time to consider what might help the person who created the thread.
I have had other threads though where I’ve taken the time to post thank yous even if nothing more to add.

Rage Bait
Trolls
journalists looking for an easy story
Political agitators

I understand.

People replying with criticism without reading the OP are plain rude. Especially when it’s a sensitive subject.

I suggested a second number next to the thread title for the number of posts by the OP. If there's 500 and 0 you could see straight away they haven't been back.

Yup, I like this idea

Ops have lives too. Maybe they are busy (kids, work, other commitments) and haven't had a chance to return to Mumsnet in a few days. And sometimes within a few days there can be 400+ replies. No one has time read and respond to all of that.

It depends how long it is since they first posted. Anything under an hour or two and you can give them the benefit of the doubt. Some threads take on a life of their own with other posters arguing amongst themselves😂

When it's a potentially contentious or 'OMG you're never going to believe this!' topic, I do give them a bit of a side eye though.

When it’s a troll posting something outrageous to get people frothing I can sort of see the logic.

When it happens on Style & Beauty I have to exercise all my powers of mature restraint and rising above not to explode with fury. It’s so bloody rude!

Why make people waste time considering all your perceived limitations and seeking out best options and linking with careful advice - if you know you don’t actually give a toss?

Sometimes I assume they’re just scraping for content for their own TikTok / Insta / whatever platforms. The words ‘rot’ and ‘hell’ come to mind.

The rest? I have no idea what motivates them. 🤷‍♀️

I can confidently tell you that very few journalists to come to Mumsnet for a balanced opinion any more
Sadly it's a bit of a laughing stock

Yes I've starting doing 'see all' and if there's one post, moving on.

You don't need a flag you can see from the OP if they've posted more than once

OK, you have to open the thread to see that but you do t have to waste any time reading the OP

People do have lives offline with work, families and other responsibilities. And may be reflecting on what has been said.