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Falling over Vs having a fall

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BuzzyWeeThing · 15/08/2026 08:45

I fell over while at work. It was a bad fall, I was carrying things so I did not put my hands out fully to protect myself. I landed on my face. My DP was phoned and was told I had ‘had a fall’. I’m 45 and fell over, I’m not elderly and had a fall. Word got round work and I’ve had messages saying they’ve heard I’ve had a fall. Grrr I’m feeling old now.

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BibbityBoppityTwo · 16/08/2026 02:47

I’m also in my 40s and would be mortified if people told my family I’d “had a fall” 😂

A guy of a similar age at work had an episode related to his diabetes and a colleague mentioned that he’d “had a turn” and he got very upset at the phrasing.

CypressMoon · 16/08/2026 06:14

Ialways thought 'falling over' is when you trip but get back up easily - maybe a grazed knee or palm, twisted ankle or torn clothes, whereas 'having a fall' sustains an injury which lasts - torn ligament or sprain or cracked bones. The kind where you can't get straight back up due to shock or injury.

6ate9 · 16/08/2026 09:19

CoffeeCantata · 15/08/2026 14:35

Another topic, but it shows how tiny variations in language matter.

My friend had a rather precocious daughter who answered the phone and said 'Mummy's on the loo!' She was mortified.

'Mummy's IN the loo' would have been OK, but ON the loo - too much information somehow!

Maybe it implied being there for a long time, straining away, while reading - but it was a bit unsavoury.

On the loo does sound worse! It conjures up someone going for a poo. In the loo, sounds so much better!

PestoPastaLife · 16/08/2026 11:28

I think it’s just about the seriousness of it. I’m a teacher and I might say “ooh that was a nasty fall” if a child had fallen over in the playground and ended up bleeding, rather than just a bump/graze.

It’s an Event, rather than just a thing that someone did. The verb elevated to the status of noun, if you will.

EmmaB1309 · 16/08/2026 14:13

I don’t think there’s any difference between the two phrases actually.
But for some reason ‘had a fall’ does feel synonymous with old age.
There’s also ‘I fell’ which seems like something a child would say!
Weird.

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