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BBQ party tonight

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Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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HoraceCope · 15/08/2026 18:09

Mrcollinswave · 15/08/2026 14:37

I agree she probably shouldn't use the bbq this weekend, due to not being able to relax and potentially upsetting the neighbours, but why would she get indigestion? I've never had indigestion from a bbq and will definitely be using mine again once this heatwave and wildfire risk is over! I'll be doing it in the pouring rain! 😆

i meant from the stress Grin

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 15/08/2026 18:25

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Um, neither. I actually was agreeing with you.
My first paragraph was sarcasm aimed at the posters and their buckets of water that'll apparently put out a fire on dry grass before it takes hold🙄.

CandidHedgehog · 15/08/2026 18:47

hoptart · 15/08/2026 17:50

They said charcoal BBQs are banned on total fire ban days. Gas BBQs are still permitted, precisely because they pose a negligible risk.

Tell that to my sister whose gas BBQ caught on fire.

Perimenipausalmum · 15/08/2026 19:41

It only said disposable BBQ's

BBQ party tonight
Aethelred · 15/08/2026 19:45

Have people over but cook food in the kitchen.

KP93 · 15/08/2026 19:46

This thread is an eye opener. How many fires are started because of a stand alone gas/charcoal bbq!?

Get on with the bbq on a patio and as someone else said, get a hose/bucket of water nearby if you are that worried.

Wouldn’t even cross my mind that we couldn’t have a bbq in the garden..

Jllllllll · 15/08/2026 19:47

How often do your bbq’s cause a fire? A proper well managed bbq is absolutely fine. A disposable one on the grass is not. This is Covid mentality again.

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 19:54

Definition of 'like covid all over again': someone somewhere taking a precaution I don't think is necessary or don't want to think might be necessary.

Northernladdette · 15/08/2026 20:08

Drench the grass around it and go ahead 🙂

MildlyMoist · 15/08/2026 20:16

Perimenipausalmum · 15/08/2026 19:41

It only said disposable BBQ's

It says ‘any activity that could cause a fire’, including disposable barbecues.

A charcoal or gas barbecue is also an activity that could cause a fire.

MildlyMoist · 15/08/2026 20:17

Amazed at the lengths people will go to in order to justify setting fire to stuff in their garden so dad can play billy big bollocks marinading his steaks and wearing a comedy apron.

Right up to the point at which they’re calling the brigade to put out their burning fence before it reaches the house.

Thestealer · 15/08/2026 20:22

It's like covid all over again.

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 20:42

By way of an update, we had the BBQ, my cousin who is a firefighter was present, as was my great uncle who is a retired chief fire officer, no fires were caused and this will make you all feel reassured. It rained.

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 20:44

CandidHedgehog · 15/08/2026 18:47

Tell that to my sister whose gas BBQ caught on fire.

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My mum's car caught fire, should we not drive either?

EasternStandard · 15/08/2026 20:56

MildlyMoist · 15/08/2026 20:16

It says ‘any activity that could cause a fire’, including disposable barbecues.

A charcoal or gas barbecue is also an activity that could cause a fire.

I think a better defined system such as the Aus one is a good idea.

Floppyearedlab · 15/08/2026 21:06

Do not bbq. It isn't necessary. Have some respect for those who have lost their homes.

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 21:10

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 20:44

My mum's car caught fire, should we not drive either?

Not in that car, no. Seems obvious tbh.

amraa · 15/08/2026 21:12

Disposable bbqs have all been taken on the shelf in stores and overheard another customer being told that they aren’t allowed to sell any. I would’ve thought a proper bbq would be fine but I think I’d avoid it but as you’ve already arranged it, I would use it as it isn’t those ones we need to worry about but at the same time I like to stay cautious

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 21:20

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 21:10

Not in that car, no. Seems obvious tbh.

She didn't know it would catch fire until it did

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 21:22

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 21:20

She didn't know it would catch fire until it did

Well no.

But cars don't involve open flames by design, only by accident. And driving is a lot less optional than cooking food on a barbecue.

MsCrawford · 15/08/2026 21:29

We were going to have a little bbq for tea tomorrow as ds11 had asked for Bbq sausages - when we had the alert (and finally the English version arrived, as we couldn’t read the first Welsh one, so presumed Armageddon was approaching!) we just said we will leave it this weekend and do it again when we can. It’s not a big deal to delay bbq’ing til safe surely.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 15/08/2026 21:47

There’s nothing wrong with using a bbq in your garden just not near a fence. We’ve gone camping and have used a raised gas cooker

LoyalAquaAnt · 15/08/2026 21:48

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 15/08/2026 21:47

There’s nothing wrong with using a bbq in your garden just not near a fence. We’ve gone camping and have used a raised gas cooker

What could go wrong on a campsite ...

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 15/08/2026 22:32

LoyalAquaAnt · 15/08/2026 21:48

What could go wrong on a campsite ...

It was very responsible honestly

Nonunifiedworkerworking · 15/08/2026 22:38

Perimenipausalmum · 15/08/2026 19:41

It only said disposable BBQ's

Are you missing the part It says including disposable, that actually means all BBQs anything that could ignite things not just disposable or BBQ things.