Partner using pictures of AI women and himself

[JammyJoggers]

ive jsut found out that my partner has been using pictures of himself on chat gbt and writing the caption ‘put me next to a beautiful woman’ and ‘put me next to a beautiful woman with big boobs blonde hair’ etc you get where I’m going.

we’ve had issues in the past but I really thought this time he’d really changed. I know it’s not cheating but it’s really disrespectful and we’ve got loads of pictures together, am I not good enough he has to put himself next to really beautiful woman who by the way look nothing like me 😭 he’s saying I’m over reacting and being ‘sad and pathetic’ cos there not real women. Why doesn’t he see where I’m coming from ??? If this was me I’m sure he’d be devestated

Aibu ?????

Apperently he was joking

a) It wasn't a joke because it isn't funny
b) He is gaslighting you
c) He is a pathetic, immature wanker

Some women put themselves next to AI version of famous actors. People can dream.

It might sting that his dream women are completely out of his league, but it's not that different from watching a movie and dreaming you are married to the character in it, or having a crush on some famous actor or singer.

I think you are completely over-reacting,

You would be outraged if he was reading your diary, if there was such a thing anymore, going through his online musing is the same. Unless he left all his history on a family account and then he's an idiot.

He’s probably attacking you out of his own embarrassment. If I had done something like this and my partner found out I’d also be mortified, but instead of admitting that it sounds like he’s doubling down.

Regardless of that, it’s not “normal” behaviour for a grown adult man to be engaging in imo. I’d be pretty angry that this his how he’s deriving his sexual gratification, no I know it’s not physical or emotional cheating and it’s literally made up women but they’re not his ruddy wife and it doesn’t sound like they even resemble her and so I would feel hurt too.

Sorry OP, what a weird and gross thing to come across. If the activity itself isn’t relationship ending, his reaction to you finding out could well be but I see you’ve got children too so I’d say take some time to reflect and decide where your boundaries are.

Honestly, is he 13? What a childish thing to do.

I’ve seen a lot of marketing from ChatGPT recently pushing their ‘easy’ photo editing functionality, maybe he’s just got caught up with this and as he’s bored in bed he’s just testing what it can actually do to entertain himself.

He's saying he prefers those attributes @JammyJoggers I would tell him to crack on and leave.

It’s of course incredibly immature of him but ultimately it does demonstrate a pre-occupation with women, which doesn’t bode well for your relationship. Good for you for booking a holiday. It will give you time to think about what he’s really adding to your life.

I do t really understand kind of actual functional man does this.

i couldn’t stand that sort of idiotic behaviour. Its a ltb for me.

There is no way that OP is coming across as a bit nuts. She is understandably really pissed off that her partner is an immature arsehole with the mental age of a pre-adolescent boy.

Op I do wonder if you’ve realised what this is, as your posts seem a little, well off beam. This isn’t so he can picture himself with different more attractive women,

this is his wank bank, he gets ai to generate these images, then he wanks off fantasising that’s his partner or he’s pulled her and what he will do,

It makes him look like a sad twat. I'm sure you can do better.

It's not cheating but it's something I'd expect a kid of about 11 to do. Not a grown man.

Is he the father of your children? He sounds about 12.

I would have lost all respect for him. Have a great holiday!

The fact that he has done this in a way that you can see is a way of upsetting you
the fact that he gaslights you and turns it around on you when you’re upset cements this

what is the rest of the relationship like I bet not great

Calling someone else twelve or immature when your username is literally “Swiftie” is hilarious. Your response is painfully childish. You’re probably twelve yourself.

???

I kind of agree with you. Wanking off to ai pics in itself is not a sackable offence, I mean it’s no one’s business what anyone else wanks off to.

but there is something so icky about this. I don’t think I’d be able to stop side eying him and his reaction making out the op is the sad and pathetic one. When he’s the one getting computer generated images of him next to hot women, as he can’t get near any in real life.

op. No lots of men are not doing this.

"Am I not good enough?" is the wrong question.
You are being used and abused.
What a twat and a bastard.
I'd say: absent yourself asap.

he’s saying I’m over reacting and being ‘sad and pathetic’

This is the reason you should leave, not only because hes a sad pathetic wanker, but because he invalidates your feelings, he doesnt take accountability.

You're not over reacting. He is a sad pathetic loser who has the emotional age of a slug.

The act of making these photos is in itself childish and disrespectful. I could potentially forgive it but no way would I accept his response. For me it's time to get away from him

'Why doesn’t he see where I’m coming from ??? If this was me I’m sure he’d be devestated'

Why does any of this matter. Why is it even a question?

Have you not just simply gone off him after finding out how pathetic he is?

Really think about what he's done. Imagine him doing it. Still fancy him?

Christ what a fucking loser he is, unless he’s the one that’s 12 years old? Like a PP the second hand embarrassment would have me running for the hills.

Gather your self-respect OP and get rid of him.

The question is not about you being good enough.
The question is what you do now, since you know he's not good enough! After all, you didn't do a skeezy immature thing... He did.

@JammyJoggers

He sounds like an absolute bellend!!

Have a lovely holiday while (you reflect and work out if you want to stay with him).

This.

And this!!