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Andrew Tate, I just don’t get it?

87 replies

Thenightwemet13101 · 23/07/2026 14:07

How is there anyone on this earth looking up to this specimen?

I hasn’t really heard of him until about a year ago but my gosh. I’ve seen a few interviews with him and he can’t even speak properly, he just shouts constantly. He says that men who have sex without the intention of impregnating the woman are gay.

I know he can’t help with way he looks but he’s ugly with a bald head and no chin and have you seen his arrest pictures with that ridiculous outfit with the purple shirt and the women’s shoes?

Well if you hadn’t you have now?

How is there a single person alive thinking that this cretin is something to aspire to, not to mention how he’s found a woman willing to have sex with him.

Andrew Tate, I just don’t get it?
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HoldMyWine · 23/07/2026 19:34

ExtraOnions · 23/07/2026 14:20

Gollum cos-playing as Gail Platt

Omg that is so funny. I don’t think I can read the rest of the thread after that triumph!

MarmaladeorJam · 23/07/2026 19:57

Thenightwemet13101 · 23/07/2026 14:07

How is there anyone on this earth looking up to this specimen?

I hasn’t really heard of him until about a year ago but my gosh. I’ve seen a few interviews with him and he can’t even speak properly, he just shouts constantly. He says that men who have sex without the intention of impregnating the woman are gay.

I know he can’t help with way he looks but he’s ugly with a bald head and no chin and have you seen his arrest pictures with that ridiculous outfit with the purple shirt and the women’s shoes?

Well if you hadn’t you have now?

How is there a single person alive thinking that this cretin is something to aspire to, not to mention how he’s found a woman willing to have sex with him.

He says that men who have sex without the intention of impregnating the woman are gay.

Presumably he has lots of children then?

Like, lots and lots and lots....

Lampzade · 23/07/2026 20:00

Mochudubh · 23/07/2026 17:30

Absolutely this! The worst homophobes are men in denial about their own sexuality.

Exactly
I have always thought that he was a gay man who hates himself

Lampzade · 23/07/2026 20:02

Happyjoe · 23/07/2026 17:42

He is a prize cunt who makes money out of desperate incels and preys on their weakness and plants unrealistic and frightening ideas in their heads.

He's also (allegedly) a sex monster, a pimp, people traffics, a rapist and looks like he's also into children. Pure vile, every single part of him. I hope he is finally locked up soon with his brother and all the people that aided him.

He is demonic . Evil bastard

Persephonia1966 · 23/07/2026 20:04

Monty36 · 23/07/2026 17:34

Seriously, you are. Everytime he is posted on a red top. Everytime a younger person comes across something about him on social media ( Mumsnet - don’t assume only women read it or join) is an advert. They might go more closely and especially young men, get influenced by their vile ideas.
The less the red tops go on about them, the less they can ‘hook’ young men on social media the better. The best way to do that is not to talk about them in general terms. By all means say they have been arrested etc. But a general chat about them. No. They rely on it.

Except that he's a man who has been accused of quite terrible things. I know that's all alleged now. But it feels like saying "don't talk about Epstein and Prince Andrew because you are giving publicity to the awful men" "don't talk about grooming gangs because you are just giving the awful men who do those awful things attention"

I bring the grooming gangs and Epstein up deliberately because what they actually did, and what Tate is alleged to have done (and what he boasted about doing/offered courses in) are pretty much the same thing. It's just that the reaction to it by some men (eg Farage, SYL) has been quite different. It's depressing because you would think, after the awful details of grooming gangs were made public people wouldn't have the attitude that "girls know what they are getting into" or that it's somehow funny/cool to befriend vulnerable teenagers and manipulate them into aex work and (allegedly but Tate described doing this on his podcast) locking them up, not allowing them to access their money so they can't go, hurting them so they continue to work for you. But no....

Persephonia1966 · 23/07/2026 20:07

Also, I do think he was massively signal boosted and it wasn't all that organic. I don't mean so much by people getting upset at his videos etc and arguig against them/writing articles/posting about him like on here. I think that helped. But I really don't think his rise to the public zeitgeist just happened. At the very least he had help learning how to use algorithms to his advantage. That's my conspiracy theory.

Longdistance · 23/07/2026 20:16

Not too sure myself. I was a student on placement at a school he was at as a kid. He was a miserable little sod then too. Always had a face on him. I’m sure it’s to do with his upbringing. Don’t remember his mum or dad.

Shergill15 · 23/07/2026 20:17

ExtraOnions · 23/07/2026 14:20

Gollum cos-playing as Gail Platt

Brilliant!

Theyreeatingthedogs · 23/07/2026 20:17

DontrockthecaravanGeoffrey · 23/07/2026 14:25

"How is there a single person alive thinking that this cretin is something to aspire to"

Farage does.

"Nigel Farage has praised the misogynist influencer Andrew Tate for being an “important voice” for the “emasculated” and giving boys “perhaps a bit of confidence at school” in online interviews that appear to be aimed at young men"

But he's a cunt too!

DontrockthecaravanGeoffrey · 23/07/2026 20:19

Theyreeatingthedogs · 23/07/2026 20:17

But he's a cunt too!

Absolutely true. Cunts of a feather flock together.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 23/07/2026 20:34

He's an odious man. Love that he put on his best Bonmarche crops and blouse so he looked extra glam for his arrest. 3% elastane for comfort in custody.

regista · 23/07/2026 20:39

My son as a young teenager told me that Andrew Tate had a lot of positive things to say. And as per a previous poster there is some truth in that - on the surface he had a work hard and achieve message, he had this aspirational lifestyle, self made man, nice cars, he also appealed to young men as he fed them a victim narrative- the world is against men etc. but scratch the surface and he was saying some really vile things. It’s interesting to see clips from his paid for courses surfacing now where he is talking about how to charm women then coerce them into working on webcams to make your money for you and how he moved to Romania because they don’t act on rape allegations so he feels free. My son worked it out at some point, he didn’t even realise he had been arrested and laughed his head off at the outfit, hasn’t paid any attention to him in a long time.

I watched a YouTube video of him around this time. He told the story of how his dad abandoned his mum and she gave her everything to bring him up. He didn’t seem to have a lot of respect for her. Massive daddy issues. I wonder what his mum thinks of him.

Unfortunately I’m sure he still has followers out there who will believe he has been framed and it’s all a conspiracy etc. I don’t understand how people can’t see how nasty he is.

HoldMyWine · 23/07/2026 20:56

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 23/07/2026 20:34

He's an odious man. Love that he put on his best Bonmarche crops and blouse so he looked extra glam for his arrest. 3% elastane for comfort in custody.

This thread is hilarious. There are some b witty MNers out there

Persephonia1966 · 23/07/2026 21:23

The positive message thing is quite normal for scammy life coaches/cults/influencers...

"Eat well, do lots of exercise, tidy your room, your mum and all other females are whores who are incapable of love, avoid blue light like computer screens an hour before sleeping, give me all your money, put soda crystals in your washing machine to stop it breaking"

It's always a mix of vague positive affirmations, practical but common sense advice and the completely batshit and harmful. There's nothing innovative about his formula.

babyproblems · 23/07/2026 21:29

Isn’t he inside on rape and sex trafficking charges? In which case we can absolutely say that no one wanted to have sex with him.

He’s a disgusting person and I honestly wonder what his mother must think. I feel very sorry for her on a woman to woman level

OtherS · 23/07/2026 22:12

I never understood it. If lost, 'emasculated' boys were seeking an impressive role model who could teach them how 'be a man', to be attractive, get a girlfriend etc, you wouldn't think they'd look to some scrawny rat-faced incel who admits the only way he can get girls is to promise them money. And even after being offered millions they still think it isn't worth it, so he has to physically force them to not dump him and run away, shuddering. Weird sort of idol. And terrifying that apparently there are boys who have been so utterly conditioned to believe they don't want/can't obtain a healthy relationship that think this seems like an entirely reasonable plan B.

Monty36 · 23/07/2026 22:13

No. I am saying don’t advertise and by doing so promote him.

Dexternight · 23/07/2026 22:30

Conman.
Hope he gets a taste of prison.

Elsvieta · 24/07/2026 08:51

Lots of teens and young men looking up to him, sadly. Because they think he has lots of money and gets lots of women. Because the more free and powerful and independent girls become, the more misogynistic some boys get, especially the ones who are low-achieving or have poor social skills. It's a big problem.

Echobelly · 24/07/2026 08:55

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 23/07/2026 15:53

He’s a prick but bring his looks into it is hardly fair.

It’s not his fault he looks like a Peparami…

😆😆😆

SadiraOfTyr · 24/07/2026 09:05

Elsvieta · 24/07/2026 08:51

Lots of teens and young men looking up to him, sadly. Because they think he has lots of money and gets lots of women. Because the more free and powerful and independent girls become, the more misogynistic some boys get, especially the ones who are low-achieving or have poor social skills. It's a big problem.

Not any more according to DS15 (who has always seen him for what he was).

Sadcafe · 24/07/2026 09:08

As a man, can I just say, AndrewTate is not representative of most of us, sadly he is of some, he is about as vile a person as you are likely to find and how anyone aspires to be like him is absolutely beyond me, social media at its worst

MagpiePi · 24/07/2026 09:11

Separated at birth..

Andrew Tate, I just don’t get it?
Optimisticdramalarma · 24/07/2026 09:23

Nothing and nobody will convince me he's not gay

He doesn't want to be gay,the idea repulses him and he's taking it out on women as he's found a formula that makes him money and status

Somebody on the net said 'its a mlm for stupid men and he's at the top'

I'd love him to be sent to prison and then to be ignored forever

Lalgarh · 24/07/2026 10:01

He's now whining about not having access to the outside.

because he is in a detention centre

https://nitter.net/Cobratate/status/2080251986008547676#m