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To feel annoyed I have to pay?

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Babablacksheep12 · 20/07/2026 22:17

Cleaner…

We have a cleaner who does every 2 weeks. She’s lovely and does the house well.

I have been in hospital for a few weeks following an operation that was planned.

I messaged her to cancel a clean whilst I was in hospital, ages ago - way more than the required notice time. I cancelled it as she cleaned the day I went in and then my house has been empty with me being in hospital so it’s perfect and not been touched and no one’s been in it so there would have been nothing to clean since she was last in.

In my contract I am allowed to cancel 2 cleans a year and she allowed 2, without payment which is very fair.

I got back from hospital today and noticed from my ring door bell that she’d been and cleaned despite me cancelling it , as per the contract and her acknowledging the cancellation.

I emailed her to ask if she had been , thinking she’d say no she was just dropping something off type thing and she just said yes, whoops she’d got confused. So now I need to pay. I’m slightly upset. I’m very short this month as I’ve had to have unpaid time off work to recover from my op so I don’t have the spare money and I feel like I’m literally throwing away money I don’t have when the house didn’t need cleaning.

There was also no apology just an oops type thing.

I value her so much so I know I will pay but I feel slightly miffed about the lack of accountability and that it’s on me to just pay.
I mean I know id pay as I respect her time and work but If it was me I would have said … I’m so sorry it’s my mistake please pay half etc and I would try and find the money to pay it all. But it was the lack of apology and just dizziness of whoops

OP posts:
Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:36

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:34

@Tinahowls also you are aware I’ve posted this differently to not out me?! My name is not sally and her name is not Laura- a lot of the small details in my thread that have no relevance to the problem are changed - I wouldn’t come on here and out myself- that’s mental 😂 it’s the internet ! Core Problem is still the same. But I don’t share my details with strangers and I change things on purpose . I couldn’t risk people knowing who I am.

And regardless- people have every right to earn money , spend it how they see fit and budget correctly to live the life they want too - especially when they are funding it themselves. Like we do!

I was annoyed I cancelled my cleaner and she came anyway. The outcome was I have not paid her and have got a new cleaner as it was iffy as anything.

You seem to be joining the dots that I would throw money at something because we have money for other things? Both can be true- we can be well off and not want to pay for someone’s mistake

But you have made out repeatedly on this thread that you’re on the bones of your arse 😆

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:36

Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:35

But to be posting about foreign holidays, private schooling, theatres trips, dinners out… and then here making out you are so short this month you can’t afford to pay a cleaner for two hours is… interesting

Ah so you’re the mum of 7 who has benefits

it is interesting isn’t it! We have a lovely life ! I had cosmic surgery as well- let that sink in to you a😂😂

OP posts:
Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:37

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:36

Ah so you’re the mum of 7 who has benefits

it is interesting isn’t it! We have a lovely life ! I had cosmic surgery as well- let that sink in to you a😂😂

Come again?
I am on that thread saying how appalling that op is

over and over again 😆

Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:37

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:36

Ah so you’re the mum of 7 who has benefits

it is interesting isn’t it! We have a lovely life ! I had cosmic surgery as well- let that sink in to you a😂😂

Cosmic?

Someone is getting a little agitated and tapping out furious posts

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:38

I’m going out for dinner now with my friends 😘
all the best

OP posts:
Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:40

Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:37

Cosmic?

Someone is getting a little agitated and tapping out furious posts

❤️❤️❤️❤️

OP posts:
Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:40

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:38

I’m going out for dinner now with my friends 😘
all the best

Early dinner

MsPrufrockk · Yesterday 16:19

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:36

Ah so you’re the mum of 7 who has benefits

it is interesting isn’t it! We have a lovely life ! I had cosmic surgery as well- let that sink in to you a😂😂

Are you drunk? 😂

Tinahowls · Yesterday 16:28

MsPrufrockk · Yesterday 16:19

Are you drunk? 😂

well about to get some food in her tummy with a very early dinner!

HGHGHG · Yesterday 16:42

Babablacksheep12 · Yesterday 15:34

@Tinahowls also you are aware I’ve posted this differently to not out me?! My name is not sally and her name is not Laura- a lot of the small details in my thread that have no relevance to the problem are changed - I wouldn’t come on here and out myself- that’s mental 😂 it’s the internet ! Core Problem is still the same. But I don’t share my details with strangers and I change things on purpose . I couldn’t risk people knowing who I am.

And regardless- people have every right to earn money , spend it how they see fit and budget correctly to live the life they want too - especially when they are funding it themselves. Like we do!

I was annoyed I cancelled my cleaner and she came anyway. The outcome was I have not paid her and have got a new cleaner as it was iffy as anything.

You seem to be joining the dots that I would throw money at something because we have money for other things? Both can be true- we can be well off and not want to pay for someone’s mistake

I didnt realise you had got rid of her.

Did you give her the chance to explain why she was still prepared to charge you for her own mistake - what did she say when you got rid?

BertieMartini · Yesterday 16:46

Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:37

Come again?
I am on that thread saying how appalling that op is

over and over again 😆

You have told a single mother of 7, how appalling she is? 'over and over again'.

Does that satisfy you?

Tinahowls · Yesterday 16:49

BertieMartini · Yesterday 16:46

You have told a single mother of 7, how appalling she is? 'over and over again'.

Does that satisfy you?

Maybe read the thread

and no… I didn’t say “appalling”. An error on my part

keepincool · Yesterday 17:24

Tinahowls · Yesterday 15:36

But you have made out repeatedly on this thread that you’re on the bones of your arse 😆

No she hasn't. She's explained she's been on sick leave without pay, leaving her short this month. You carry on troll hunting though...

Tinahowls · Yesterday 17:26

keepincool · Yesterday 17:24

No she hasn't. She's explained she's been on sick leave without pay, leaving her short this month. You carry on troll hunting though...

someone who on another thread this morning is saying how they send their children to private school; take multiple foreign holidays a year; regularly dines out and goes to the theatre is not going to be so “very short on money” that paying a cleaner for 2 hours is really difficult

PinkEasterbunny · Yesterday 17:35

someone who on another thread this morning is saying how they send their children to private school; take multiple foreign holidays a year; regularly dines out and goes to the theatre is not going to be so “very short on money” that paying a cleaner for 2 hours is really difficult

Maybe the OP has run short this month, due to being off sick, and by the time she has paid school fees etc, there is not much left? But this thread was about the principle of paying for a service you had previously cancelled.

And a reminder to us all about name changing regularly and changing small details - trying to catch posters out is really poor

BertieMartini · Yesterday 17:36

Tinahowls · Yesterday 16:49

Maybe read the thread

and no… I didn’t say “appalling”. An error on my part

I have. The OP has an issue with her cleaner, who despite being told not to clean, cleaned.

Seems there are many errors on your part. Maybe go back to your day.

Tinahowls · Yesterday 17:58

BertieMartini · Yesterday 17:36

I have. The OP has an issue with her cleaner, who despite being told not to clean, cleaned.

Seems there are many errors on your part. Maybe go back to your day.

Whereas you’ll stick to mumsnetting? Sure ok. Is not mumsnetting something to be upset about?

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