Neighbours child

[managingexpectations]

would you let your child shout on a neighbour over and over again?
now I might be hot tired and being a grump but next doors child is bugging the life out of me.
just got through the door from a long day at work, the open the back door as the kitchen is hotter than the sun and I needed to make dinner.
as soon as the door was open next doors 7 year old child is bellowing on me. Shouting my name over and over again, standing on the fence to look in the kitchen window and shouting “I know you can hear me”
I did eventually go out, once dinner was cooking and I had 5 mins to spare.
He’s out in the garden with both parents, little sister and his gran! I relatively politely said please stop shouting on me I’m trying to sort tea, what do you need me for?
turns out he didn’t even want to speak to me he just likes being loud and annoying
it’s becoming a regular issue, if I go out to hang washing=shouting, pottering in the garden=shouting, sitting having a coffee=shouting.
tonight I am a bit hangry so I did say to his parents, can you try to keep that to a minimum please it’s a bit annoying. Seems to have fallen on deaf ears as he’s still going.
would I be unreasonable to send a follow up message to his mum (have each others numbers for emergency use and we’re not texters) We’re friendly but not friends, have the odd neighbourly conversation if we pass in the street etc or would that ruffle feathers and just cause an atmosphere?

Take up the bagpipes and start practicing everytime he starts yelling.

@JLou08 surely it’s not my responsibility to teach him how to socialise though? Thankfully he did stop after being told he was being rude however his parents still didn’t say anything but as far as I can see they never do.
I don’t have kids so maybe I’m not as tolerant as some but I can’t be bothered listening to him shouting at me for no good reason.

Or the tin whistle!

@managingexpectations I have kids and it would bother me but I would have let a roar already - at the parents. Fucking imbeciles allowing their little darlings do whatever they want so they dont have to parent themselves.

Absolutely LOVE this idea! 😂

I think you need to say something to the parents about being entitled to enjoy your own garden without being harassed by their kid.

Record it and report ? Noise nuisance?
or ignore and hope he gets bored

If the parents were also in the garden when you asked him to stop shouting then they already know he's doing it, and they don't care. There's probably no benefit to sending a text, they still won't care and they may try to use it against you.

If you really do want to send a text I'd be very careful about how it's worded. They already know he's shouting repeatedly and for no reason. They may take any perceived criticism of their child/their parenting badly.

Yes, I'm afraid a text would be pointless. They know what he's doing. Unless they're stupid, they also know that you don't like it. They simply don't care, and texting only risks making things worse. If they take a dislike to you, they may well encourage him in his annoying behaviour.

As others have said, ignoring him is probably best. Headphones on and pretend you don't know he exists. The more boring you become, the less interest he'll have in trying to engage you in conversation. It may take a while to take full effect, though, so be prepared to be annoyed for a while.

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Yep, just ignore. Stop feeding his attention. What an annoying brat, and even worse parents.

If they ever say anything, tell them you were so fed up hearing your name constantly screamed by their annoying kid, you changed your name. So sadly you can't answer anymore.

Actually no, this is better 😂

Of course his carers are being rude and completely in the wrong. As they won't do anything to stop this, do put on noise cancelling earphones and ignore him completely.

@SpaceRaccoon
It’s this sort of attitude that is why.

Some people seem to think it’s unkind to discipline or tell off children and that they should be able to do what they want because they are “just being kids”.

In the past kids would have been told to stop when they were screaming, pestering neighbours, interrupting, touching things in shops etc.
Now they get left to do as they please or get an ineffective request to “stop that now please” in a mild mannered voice.

It’s everyone else that suffers from poor parenting and then there is uproar when people state a preference for child free trains and buses or restaurants or complain about them running round supermarkets screaming!

If you get too desperate you can always tell the parents that you''ll have to call child services if they don't parent their child and stop him. I bet he never is allowed to do it again.

This is my daughter to a tee . She has complex sen needs . We have tried relentlessly to maker stop and it's exhausting constantly trying to police a child who does not have the same understanding of social boundaries as other children her age . We usually bring her in BUT she's a human being too op and sometimes we ignore because it's a bit of a losing battle ,weather re done with neighbours ignoring her as she usually will get bored with no response.

And for all the tell them little arseholes to shut up brigade
These are little ppl give your heads wobble .

He's looking for a reaction and you are giving it.

100% ignore and it'll stop

One word, hosepipe.

I'm (pleasantly) surprised that no one has yet posted, oh he must be ND, ADHD etc.

Oh, actually they have, I missed it.

If he starts shouting for you and his parents are in the garden, I would not respond.
I would however play very loud music, on repeat, next to the fence, until he stops.
He is annoying you....you annoy his parents.

A couple of posters have mentioned the hosepipe- most kids would love having the hose turned on them and you’d give them even more reason to keep shouting!

ignore ignore ignore- kids like this are attention seeking.

Can you get one of those single-strand electrified wires to put along the top of the fence?