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“Please make cheques payable to”

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asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 06:37

I went for a private healthcare appointment recently and just got the invoice in the post.

It says that the preferred payment method is a cheque! I’m in my 20s and have never written a cheque before. AIBU to think they need to update their payment terms?

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Alondra · 17/07/2026 08:49

You've spent more time on MN opening a thread and whingeing than making a quick call and pay the invoice by card.

<shaking head>

Growlybear83 · 17/07/2026 08:50

WerewolfOfLoudon · 17/07/2026 08:41

Not at all. Out of that list only a disqualification means someone shouldn't be driving!

Thats another fair point. We have to ring the underwriter each year when our buildings insurance is due for renewal because of a historical claim for subsidence 30 years ago.

Bikergran · 17/07/2026 08:50

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:32

It wouldn’t be his personal details would it ? It’ll be a private limited company

Why? I was a medical secretary for years and only one of the consultants I worked for ran a limited company, and that was because his private practice was so large he employed other people. Most simply ran a separate normal current account for consultation fees. Usually it is a sideline to their NHS practice. The very first rule every bank tells you is not to give out your account details.

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:51

Bikergran · 17/07/2026 08:50

Why? I was a medical secretary for years and only one of the consultants I worked for ran a limited company, and that was because his private practice was so large he employed other people. Most simply ran a separate normal current account for consultation fees. Usually it is a sideline to their NHS practice. The very first rule every bank tells you is not to give out your account details.

No it’s not 😂

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asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:52

Alondra · 17/07/2026 08:49

You've spent more time on MN opening a thread and whingeing than making a quick call and pay the invoice by card.

<shaking head>

The hospital doesn’t open until 9!!!!

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DeftGoldHedgehog · 17/07/2026 08:52

notatinydancer · 17/07/2026 08:32

You can pay in cheques in your mobile banking app. Clear in a couple of days.

Yes, I did that. 👍

Bjorkdidit · 17/07/2026 08:53

Lorrymum · 17/07/2026 08:42

I still send my Auntie a cheque for Christmas.
Cheques were brilliant when I was young and skint. They always took a lot longer to process before they actually took the money from your bank. It gave me breathing space at the end of the month.

Yes it used to be well known cashflow management a couple of days before pay day. You could buy food, pay for other essentials or cash a cheque safe in the knowledge that you would have been paid by the time the bank took the money.

However, I once got caught out by this during a period of extreme financial difficulty and I still don't know how it happened#. I posted a cheque by second class post to pay for council tax and the bank tried to take the money the very next day when of course it bounced and got me into all manner of trouble because they then moved on to the next step in their aggressive recovery tactics.

#well I do but I'm still annoyed about it because it meant that 1. a second class letter got to it's destination in one day and 2. the council must have had the same bank as me for the cheque to clear the same day, but I know that, if someone else had been posting me a cheque by second class post, it would have been at least a week before I could actually spend the money, instead of the next day.

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:53

For those in doubt:

Payment is being made to a limited company.

I have to call the hospital accounts department, which opens at 9.

“Please make cheques payable to”
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Alondra · 17/07/2026 08:54

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:52

The hospital doesn’t open until 9!!!!

You need to check first if the number to call is their accounts section which usually opens earlier.

I frankly don't see what the drama is about.

DrBlackbird · 17/07/2026 08:54

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 06:37

I went for a private healthcare appointment recently and just got the invoice in the post.

It says that the preferred payment method is a cheque! I’m in my 20s and have never written a cheque before. AIBU to think they need to update their payment terms?

I’ll bet M&S wished people still paid by cheque when the firm lost hundreds of millions in the cyberattack that stopped all card transactions last year. Electronic payments are great until the technology breaks. IMO, we’d be crazy as a society not to keep cash and low tech forms of payment like cheques. The latest LLMs are sophisticated to the point of concern.

TeenLifeMum · 17/07/2026 08:55

GottaBeStrong · 17/07/2026 07:11

It was still common to use cheques in the 2000s. There was no widespread mobile banking. I was at uni from 1998 to 2002 and we had to use cheques to pay for things like uni fees and accommodation fees.

Anyway, I don't see what the problem with calling up and paying over the phone is.

I was at uni from 2000 and never wrote cheques for these things. We had a cheque book early 2000s but very rarely used it.

Negroany · 17/07/2026 08:56

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 17/07/2026 07:53

My daughter got a six thousand pound tax rebate two years ago from HMRC. By cheque. Too large to pay over the app (I don't know whether they've changed this since as I've not had another cheque that big!) and we live somewhere where banks are like hens teeth.

It took a ridiculous amount of organisation to get that money put into her account, Some places are still operating as if it's the 1980s. I'm due a tax rebate from HMRC next year and I'm looking forward to seeing how it arrives, particularly since they have my bank details already...

HMRC is one of the biggest users of cheques.

You can post them to your bank, with a note with your account number etc. To a branch, any branch will do.

I'm having issues with some inheritance I've got to distribute, the beneficiaries don't want cheques and I can only send £25k per day from my bank, so it'll take twelve days to make all the payments. Unless I use CHAPS, which has a cost and from my previous experience of it, can be quite tricky!

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:57

Negroany · 17/07/2026 08:56

HMRC is one of the biggest users of cheques.

You can post them to your bank, with a note with your account number etc. To a branch, any branch will do.

I'm having issues with some inheritance I've got to distribute, the beneficiaries don't want cheques and I can only send £25k per day from my bank, so it'll take twelve days to make all the payments. Unless I use CHAPS, which has a cost and from my previous experience of it, can be quite tricky!

CHAPs is very easy.

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EskarinaS · 17/07/2026 08:59

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 07:19

Nope, at a private hospital. I asked at the front desk because I was surprised too and they said that they’d send me an invoice, which has come from the surgeon and not the hospital. So I’m guessing it’s tax or something.

I also didn’t expect it via post! I expected it all to come electronically

It's not necessarily obvious to patients, but surgeons at private hospitals aren't usually employed by the hospital. The arrangements are a bit complicated, and it's partly to do with liability, but private surgeons are almost always self-employed.

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:59

I’m in my mid-20s. As I’ve said multiple times I CAN do it. I will do it. I just find it fucking infuriating. If they caught up to the times, it could’ve been sorted by now, but instead they’re living in the 80s.

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mimbleandlittlemy · 17/07/2026 09:03

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 07:19

Nope, at a private hospital. I asked at the front desk because I was surprised too and they said that they’d send me an invoice, which has come from the surgeon and not the hospital. So I’m guessing it’s tax or something.

I also didn’t expect it via post! I expected it all to come electronically

The surgeons at private hospitals are usually self-employed so payment doesn't go through the hospital but via their private office. The majority of people going to private hospitals will have private health care which settles direct with the surgeon. Whilst I agree cheque is bonkers, it isn't hard to pay over the phone and, as others have said, is standard for things like car insurance if you are paying it in a lump sum.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 17/07/2026 09:04

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 07:02

Probably because they’re from the 80s! The only two options are cheque or over the phone, both of which just strike me as very odd and old fashioned

Very helpful for older people, who are confident with both those methods. DF recently transferred a lot of money to the wrong place, using a banking app. All gone. Couldn’t have happened with a cheque or phone call.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 17/07/2026 09:04

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:59

I’m in my mid-20s. As I’ve said multiple times I CAN do it. I will do it. I just find it fucking infuriating. If they caught up to the times, it could’ve been sorted by now, but instead they’re living in the 80s.

I have a friend who won't use internet banking and does everything over the phone. It drives me unreasonably mad when she does the whole 'phoning up and reading out her card number over the phone' thing, so I understand your infuriation. It just seems so unnecessary in this day and age.

Alondra · 17/07/2026 09:05

EskarinaS · 17/07/2026 08:59

It's not necessarily obvious to patients, but surgeons at private hospitals aren't usually employed by the hospital. The arrangements are a bit complicated, and it's partly to do with liability, but private surgeons are almost always self-employed.

This. Not only surgeons but anaesthetists are also self employed byprivate hospitals and send their own invoices separate as well.

Usually invoices have a 30 day payable due date which gives the patient plenty of time to pay it.

Another2Cats · 17/07/2026 09:07

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 08:12

Why though? Cash is dirty (literally! It’s filthy) and inconvenient

"Cash is dirty (literally! It’s filthy)"

Really? I've just now had a look through some of the notes in my purse and i can't see any dirt or filth on them. Likewise with the coins.

May I ask, do you have any sort of issues around fear of germs or dirt?

HarshbutTrue2 · 17/07/2026 09:08

asatelliteisnttoofarright · 17/07/2026 06:37

I went for a private healthcare appointment recently and just got the invoice in the post.

It says that the preferred payment method is a cheque! I’m in my 20s and have never written a cheque before. AIBU to think they need to update their payment terms?

Have you got a cheque book?
Being able to write a cheque is a useful life skill.
Can't remember last time I wrote a cheque though.

Growlybear83 · 17/07/2026 09:09

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 17/07/2026 09:04

I have a friend who won't use internet banking and does everything over the phone. It drives me unreasonably mad when she does the whole 'phoning up and reading out her card number over the phone' thing, so I understand your infuriation. It just seems so unnecessary in this day and age.

My best friend won’t use a debit or credit card, let alone use telephone or internet banking. She pays for everything by cash.

ConverselyAttired · 17/07/2026 09:09

We have some clients pay by cheque (funeral homes) and it is such a faff. I have to record the invoice as paid, fill in a payment slip including their bank details from the cheque, write on the back of the cheque, put it in an envelope that also needs filling in, go to the Post Office and wait 2 weeks. I hate it. I understand them not having a business debit card but they all have bank accounts.

formigas · 17/07/2026 09:10

YANBU at all. In my very limited experience of private healthcare it was normally very efficient so this is a bit surprising, and annoying. I don't think I've written a cheque for about 15 years and I have paid in only a few in that time. One of the banks I bank with (Chase) won't let you pay in cheques at all by any method.

There are some driving licence changes that cannot be done online, only via a D1 form and for which you can only pay DVLA by cheque or postal order. And a £20 postal order costs £22.50 and must be paid for in cash, not even a debit card is accepted.

Backedoffhackedoff · 17/07/2026 09:10

HarshbutTrue2 · 17/07/2026 09:08

Have you got a cheque book?
Being able to write a cheque is a useful life skill.
Can't remember last time I wrote a cheque though.

Being able to write a cheque is a useful life skill?! How is writing values and dates a life skill?! 🤣