AIBU to think his parents should collect him after he was sick?

[Jorge14]

My son has a friend over after school, i gave him some money for the journey home from school so he could get him and said friend an ice cream or something. They’ve got back, had some water and played football and the friend has gone to the loo and been sick. He called out to me that he feels ill & can I phone his parents. I did just that and no answer, he came out the loo & said I feel better now it’s fine and is denying he vommited but I heard him. His dad phoned back and I explained & he said he can’t have a lot of ice cream it makes him feel a bit ill because of the milk so can he stay. I spoke to the boy to say he should have chose something else & he said he can have ice cream and has it all the time. He’s clearly not well and said he’s not hungry but he won’t admit he’s ill and the parents have gone out for a meal so me taking him home is inconvenient. I’m going to leave it & drop him back at 7 as arranged and just hope for the best but honestly, am I being unreasonable to think they should think picking him up is the right thing to do. I’m totally perplexed.

It’s not a big deal either way I guess. I think I was just shocked at the response as I would’ve gone immediately. Anyway, the boy does seem fine. Fingers crossed not a bug though

You are def not being unreasonable. If that was my child I would have been straight around,

how old are the boys out of interest?

I volunteer for a youth organisation and I am no longer shocked by the response of some parents to stuff like this.

they are 13 - year 8 at school. I dropped him home to his brother as his parents still out & his mum text me saying thanks, sorry etc & he seems fine and she thinks it was the ice cream. Either way I’ve had a good clean of the loo’s etc & changed my sons bed as they sat on it (some will say I’m OTT but I’d do the same if it was my own kids just in case). I guess it’s not a big deal, I think i had a panic as it’s nearly the holidays and we’ve been looking forward to it. I’ll update tomorrow if it was a bug 😂

Some parents amaze me. I would have done the same as you

My daughter has a lactose intolerance and regularly eats what she shouldn’t!
He ‘vomit’ is reflux and not like a true purge, she calls them mini pukes.
I would do the same in this instance because we are used to it.

I'd say something like "I understand, DC throws up all the time too - violent and projectile - and we never know when its coming! So next playdate at your house?"

How old is the boy's brother, OP, if the parents are off on a jolly? If he's old enough to be left with him, I wonder why they didn't ask you to drop the boy home when he became ill.

What do you mean you’d do the same? You’d refuse to pick up a child when the parents wanted you to? I wouldn’t do that even if I thought the parents were being completely ridiculous! If someone called me and said “your child sneezed and I don’t want a cold in my house so please collect her” I would go. Not because I think it’s rational, but because they no longer want my child in their house and you can’t just insist someone continues to look after them for you.

He’s an adult & it’s fine. Parents are home, they’ve text me.

If another parent asked me to pick my child up early due to sickness , it would be no questions asked, even if I had made plans already.