AIBU to think his parents should collect him after he was sick?

[Jorge14]

My son has a friend over after school, i gave him some money for the journey home from school so he could get him and said friend an ice cream or something. They’ve got back, had some water and played football and the friend has gone to the loo and been sick. He called out to me that he feels ill & can I phone his parents. I did just that and no answer, he came out the loo & said I feel better now it’s fine and is denying he vommited but I heard him. His dad phoned back and I explained & he said he can’t have a lot of ice cream it makes him feel a bit ill because of the milk so can he stay. I spoke to the boy to say he should have chose something else & he said he can have ice cream and has it all the time. He’s clearly not well and said he’s not hungry but he won’t admit he’s ill and the parents have gone out for a meal so me taking him home is inconvenient. I’m going to leave it & drop him back at 7 as arranged and just hope for the best but honestly, am I being unreasonable to think they should think picking him up is the right thing to do. I’m totally perplexed.

It probably is just a case of over heating and icecream but that’s not the point.

If someone calls and asks you to pick up your ill child you say “of course be there as soon as we can”

‘Disinfect the house’?
because he vomited once in the toilet.

come on.

Agreed.

I’m in the minority but I don’t think it’s a big deal.

He sounds like he shouldn’t eat ice-cream. If he’s otherwise well, it wouldn’t bother me.

If he was really miserable, I’d feel sorry for him, but it still wouldn’t bother me if the parents didn’t come till the agreed time; I’d just have him rest up / look after him.

I also never worried hugely about my DC getting sick in those situations, if it happens, it happens.

If he was v sick & the parents were nonchalant about that, I’d find that strange & upsetting for the poor guy, of course. But it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.

It may be the ice cream, it just be the heat, I hope it is that and not a bug because it will ruin my sons last week of school. Anyhow it can’t be helped now, I would disinfect if my own kids were sick so I’ll definitely be doing that anyway. I think I was just shocked as I know id have cancelled my plans and picked my child up, the phone call felt like I was being inconvenient to them. Update, dad phoned back “hi you called me earlier” I said “yes it’s jacks mum I’ve spoken to you already”, he said “oh ok sorry I didn’t know who this was” he didn’t even ask for an update 😱 and he said bye and hung up. Oh well, my sons having a great time, and it is what it is.

He initially asked you to call his parents, so I'd guess the "I'm OK" stuff came once he realised his parents wouldn't come get him and he wanted to reassure you that he wouldn't be any bother since he had to stay, or avoid you pushing the parents as he might have thought that would lead to larger issues. If the parents are out together locally, it seems like at least one of them could pick him up and stay with him if he's too young to be home alone. But the dad seems to think it's not serious, for whatever reason.

Rude entitled arsehole parents! Normal polite people with manners KNOW the normal thing is to pick their child up because if another parent who is looking after them has phoned you they clearly want them picked up!

Reminds me when my mum took my brother and friends to the cinema for his 10th birthday. 1 boy vomited in the middle of the cinema and mum couldn't contact either parent. The boy then said he'd hit his head really badly that morning had a small cut on his head, but his dad (who he was with that weekend) said it was still fine to go to the party! It wasn't and he ended up have a skull fracture!

I don’t literally mean the whole house!! I mean the bathrooms & where he sat

Wow, poor kid. I mean that is extreme. I don’t think I’m dealing with anything on that scale

My most pressing question is who the hell is out for dinner at 4:45pm?!

Yeah there's always one, and it's often that one!

They were out about 3:30 when I first called. I think they’ve been out all day tbh

No more playdates for this child. The dad was a cheeky fucker. I'd have followed up immediately with a text. You need to collect your child now. He's ill. It's not a discussion.

I mean, that’s awful. And totally different to this situation!

Ah ok! Fair enough 😀

So is he allergic to milk - cmpa ? Or that’s an excuse

I wouid have thought if he was at his age he should know what he can and can’t eat

I’m sure all will be well. Worst case scenario you and DS will also vom. Not the end of the world. However now you have the measure of the parents who used you for babysitting and manipulated you into holding onto their pukey DS when you clearly wanted him collecting.

Sounds like going out was more important. Might if he has an allergy letting you know too

It doesn’t matter whether it’s the heat, the ice cream, or a sickness bug tbh. If your child is at someone’s house, and they call for you to pick them up early, that’s what you should do. You might be annoyed and think they’ve called you unnecessarily, but you still pick your child up.

When they called back how did you not respond with “please come and pick up your sick child, he’s not well.”

This sounds bad, but if he's sick every time he eats ice cream he might genuinely not feel ill, be contagious, and feel fine afterwards.

My eldest gets carsick. She'll throw up and then just carry on as normal

he said he’s not allergic to milk & has ice cream most days

They are out and said they couldn’t.

Without knowing how old he is, it might be that he has dairy free ice cream at home and doesn't realise. But more likely, kids have a tendency to lie, deny or play things like that down in front of friends. I've had extremely sensible children in my house choose to eat things their parents have said they know full well they can't have, kids do stupid things with their friends, hoping they will be fine.

If ice-cream is an issue, it may be that he is lactose intolerant and parents didn’t want to make a big deal about it by telling you in advance. Would be worth checking when he goes home - if he is you will know for next time.

TBF kids often get sick when over-excited.running around like loons, and if he seems otherwise fine - no repeat sickness, no pain, not pale, appetite normal, etc - I’d take the parent’s explanation at face value.