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AIBU to not understand why I am facing disciplinary at work for such a non-issue?

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Scarlett9004 · 11/07/2026 15:01

Hello,
My situation is this. I work in a UK company where all staff are trained to perform every role, yet in practice, particular individuals are consistently assigned only physically hard or only easy tasks-sometimes for many months in a row. I am usually given the harder ones and recently started feeling burned out by the daily grind, so a few days ago, I vented to one colleague, saying that this allocation is unfair given that we all receive the same wages, and mentioned several people who exclusively perform the easier tasks, including one Polish lady (let's call her Annie).

Yesterday, Annie’s husband (let's call him Tommy) approached me during the shift and shouted angrily, "Listen carefully! It's not your business why Annie never does physically demanding jobs. Stop gossiping about this or I will report you!" Offended by his tone, I retorted that I can speak whatever I like and that freedom of speech still exists. He turned bright red, walked away and reported me to the management. They launched an investigation, which I feel might lead to disciplinary action.

Aibu to not understand why the management are taking this so seriously? Can they really punish me even though I haven't been abusive or violent, but just complained about something that is bothering me? In Poland, Tommy would be told to bugger off with such rubbish-I know because I grew up in a neighbouring country! Also, I must note that Annie cannot be pregnant now as her duties, albeit quite light, are not pregnancy-friendly and all pregnant employees are always moved to office roles; this means she is provided with easy work purely due to favouritism.

OP posts:
OldCrohn · 12/07/2026 16:25

People that can meet the metrics when they're in the monitored roles progress to tasks that need less supervision.

Argue your own case but not by targeting Annie.

Jc2001 · 12/07/2026 18:37

Soontobe60 · 11/07/2026 16:14

She didn’t - she mentioned several of the employees who seem to have been given a lighter, more favourable job, than her.

So she mentioned individuals then.

Restlessdreams1994 · 12/07/2026 18:44

Picture this the other way around: you have a disability which means you cannot do physically heavy work, so your manager agrees to give you light duties as a reasonable adjustment. Understandably, you want to keep your disability private.

A colleague decides to start bitching to other colleagues behind your back about the fact that they perceive their workload to be heavier than yours. They don’t raise their concerns to a manager in the correct manner, nor do they speak directly to you.

How would you feel if you were Annie?

It sounds like your managers are being proactive in stamping out workplace bullying and for that I applaud them.

maxslice · 12/07/2026 18:47

Maybe she’s on lighter duties because, as you said yourself, she has previously excelled and proven herself valuable enough to be assigned where management thinks she’ll be best placed to meet their objectives.

x2boys · 12/07/2026 18:49

Freedom of speech doesnt mean you can say what you want without repercussions.

TheGreatDownandOut · 12/07/2026 18:52

Regardless of the nuance and whether or not it was unreasonable of you to complain to your coworker, I absolutely do not think you should received any disciplinary action for voicing your opinion at work. That’s madness.

Oftenaddled · 12/07/2026 20:14

Scarlett9004 · 12/07/2026 15:48

Hi again,

Thank you all for your replies. This is gonna be quite long, so I hope you have enough patience to read. As I already said, discussing reasonable adjustments is futile because the company doesn't do them: if you bring a sick note saying 'amended duties', you are sent home until it expires, as they claim they have no alternative work for you. Annie used to do the harder tasks just... immaculately, so was moved to the easier ones as a reward. Yes, she proved the hard ones are not impossible to achieve... but they are achievable for her, not for me! I am not like her, I lack stamina, physical strength and struggle with speed and motor coordination since childhood. The management see it, but they want us all to meet the standards and are forcing me to do something I am simply not capable of.

This is why I got frustrated and resorted to whingeing to a colleague. Also, however absurd it sounds, I've even started dreaming to get pregnant just to get a long break from all the graft, because then the company will have a duty to move me to a desk job... I haven't shared it with anyone because people will think I'm bonkers! But I'm not, I'm just tired, exhausted, desperate and envious.

The industry I work in is logistics. The harder duties involve picking various goods into cages, and the lighter duties are transporting full cages to the loading areas. When picking, speed and quantity are strictly monitored, but when transporting cages, there are no performance metrics, so you don't have to constantly rush; simply not being too lazy is enough! I really dislike this unfair difference, because if you underperform in picking, they start putting you on improvement plans and can eventually dismiss you.

I think that you should join a union, OP, or get a rep involved if you are already in a union. If the workplace can make reasonable adjustments they must do so.

But - if you take them on over this, stay focused. Don't dilute your case by complaining about individuals - even a few of them - or cultural differences. Hope you get somewhere.

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