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AIBU to feel uneasy after seeing nursery staff handle my toddler?

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Pinkstuffs · 08/07/2026 20:43

Went to collect DS 2YO from nursery this evening as usual. He was playing outside, I stood on the decking for a second watching him playing to see if he would notice me. When I was watching a staff member who had her back to me snatched the toy he was holding in a really rough way and yelled at him to share in a really nasty voice. She took the toy over to another girl who was playing with something else and was shaking her head at my DS and saying something I couldn’t hear.

AIBU that this has made me feel really uneasy? Generally the nursery seems good and DS is happy about going but they have had a lot of staff changes recently. The staff member I think knew she was wrong, when she noticed me there and realised I had witnessed the whole thing she went red and turned her back to me, didn’t say anything else. I know DS is not perfect and he needs to share but it was tone of her voice and roughness when taking the toy off him that surprised me. I’m not sure how and if I should approach it with the nursery staff either?

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99problems99 · 13/07/2026 16:48

Pinkstuffs · 08/07/2026 20:43

Went to collect DS 2YO from nursery this evening as usual. He was playing outside, I stood on the decking for a second watching him playing to see if he would notice me. When I was watching a staff member who had her back to me snatched the toy he was holding in a really rough way and yelled at him to share in a really nasty voice. She took the toy over to another girl who was playing with something else and was shaking her head at my DS and saying something I couldn’t hear.

AIBU that this has made me feel really uneasy? Generally the nursery seems good and DS is happy about going but they have had a lot of staff changes recently. The staff member I think knew she was wrong, when she noticed me there and realised I had witnessed the whole thing she went red and turned her back to me, didn’t say anything else. I know DS is not perfect and he needs to share but it was tone of her voice and roughness when taking the toy off him that surprised me. I’m not sure how and if I should approach it with the nursery staff either?

I would have went straight over and asked her why she thinks it’s acceptable to speak to him like that. There are ways to teach young ones right from wrong. And that’s not the way. I’d ask to put in a formal complaint.

NoisyMonster678 · 13/07/2026 17:28

She is an absalute disgrace, and she should be reported, she went over the top with discipline, and she was cruel and nasty.

You little boy is only 2 and her lack of patience and tolerance is extremly concerning.

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