AIBU to report a colleague after a child with allergies was given milk? Update!

[Pinkpony123]

So Update

Been just over a week since the incident. A couple days ago got pulled into the managers office about it (been waiting all week for this). The person who gave the milk went to management saying I had said all this awful stuff to and about her (I never directly engaged with her about it or said anything about her) She wrote this full statement about what had supposedly happend (I didn't read it but my manager told me about the key things I had supposedly said). She claims the person has been dealt with separately for giving the child milk. I was told I was not in trouble (the way she was talking I defo am though) but I don't think she believes me for the fact that I didn't say any of this other stuff.

The member of staff who gave the milk has decided to leave and not come back don't know if it was related to this or if they decided it just wasn't for them.

Is there another post about this? Can you link it if so?

If the other person left then there shouldn’t be anything to worry about. If there was a formal investigation into “your” words then that should’ve been made clear.

You should've just updated the previous thread.

It's going to be hard to remember the exact details of it.

I like an update but you have to link it or post on the original thread. We're not all here poised for over a week about some milk-related incident at your work and you post makes little sense without the context.

I don't know how to do that sorry 🙈it's called the exact same thing posted about a week ago!

I didn't realise I could do that.

Why have you started a new thread on this? No one cares that much. Just comment on your old thread. Exactly the same as how you’re commenting on this new one 🫤.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5547797-aibu-to-report-a-colleague-after-a-child-with-allergies-was-given-milk

Here we go! The original post

You didn’t realise you could comment on a thread already running? You have a thread. You comment on it. Exactly like you’re commenting on this new one you’ve weirdly started.

Also forgot to add on the end luckily the child who was given the milk has been fine and not seemed to have any ill effects from the milk.

This is my first time using mums net so have no idea what the done thing is! Lesson learnt.

Anyway, to get back to the matter.

The person is leaving so that should make things less awkward for you.

Why didn't you read the statement considering it had accusations about you?

Who pissed in your cornflakes this morning??

I didn't think I was allowed to have never had someone write a statement against me before!

Sorry you got such harsh comments about your thread. Some people here are very bored.

Glad the child is ok and the situation resolved by the person leaving. Must of been stressful for you.

I didn’t see your other thread. But it sounds like alls well now.

Yes very seeing as I seem to being made to feel like I'm in the wrong about it (atleast the other staff in my room are speaking to me again)

If the person is leaving and not coming back then what's done is done. All there is left for you to do is reflect on how you handled it. Do you feel like you overstepped when it was being dealt with by someone more appropriate or was this person being too sensitive?

Thanks for the link. So the kid is fine, the person has left (which I'd think would be about this, as they'd been there months but left within a week of this incident), your manager says you're not in trouble and everyone's okay with you. So who is making you feel like you're in the wrong about it? Seems like it's over.

Just the way my manager was talking to me she literally said she doesn't 100% belive that I didn't say those things.

Have you joined a union yet?

No I haven't no idea where I would start with that!

The person was defo being over sensitive I wasn't even directly speaking to her as I didn't know who had given the milk

Oh come on.

You don't need Mumsnet to tell you how to do everything.

You're a nursery practitioner. I'm sure you can Google the best union for you.

If this place is as bad as you say it is, I strongly advise you to do it.

I'm not asking mums net to tell me just stating I'd have no idea where to start with it.