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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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Ketzele · 29/06/2026 19:58

GracieGinny · 29/06/2026 19:32

The hotels and HMOs are on my doorstep and I’m not objecting.

Agreed! I've already said my mum lives on the same street as one. I used to live there, too - I'm not even sure when it changed use.

I do wish people would drop the 'do-gooders' trope. Some of us are offering the benefit of our actual experience, but clearly there are those who prefer to travel blind.

CantFallAsleep · 29/06/2026 19:59

I would hate this OP. By my daughter’s college there is a hotel housing asylum seekers and groups of the men stand outside being antisocial, commenting inappropriately about the girls, shouting at them etc. They have approached girls and won’t leave them alone when asked. The girls feel intimidated and have to plan to always be in a group to walk past them. We drop and pick our daughter up on a couple of days when she can’t be with friends as she doesn’t feel safe due to previous incidents.

The college are aware but are helpless other than telling the kids to stay in groups and to report any incidents. The police have got the men to go inside the hotel before but nothing else is done.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:00

Anyahyacinth · 29/06/2026 19:51

You are incorrect it houses 300 asylum seekers and we have had no problems at all and live streets away…the indigenous population though..we have lots of criminality and problems with them..this is statistically typical for asylum seekers versus local indigenous offending …only prejudice makes anyone think differently

So what happened on that NYE in Germany when 1200 women were sexually assaulted on one night by a mob of men of 'North African/Arab appearance' many of whom were asylum seekers?

It's not exactly out of character either. Mob sexual assaults are common in places like Egypt. Read about what happened to Lara Logan and a fair few other journalists. It's even got a name, translating to either 'the circle of hell' or 'the rape game'.

Western men are not sexually assaulting hundreds of women in feral mobs.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 20:00

EleanorMc67 · 29/06/2026 19:57

Not that dissimilar to when it was an occupied army base, then ...

Another one who doesn't understand the military world.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 20:01

EleanorMc67 · 29/06/2026 19:57

Not that dissimilar to when it was an occupied army base, then ...

British men and women who decide to protect their country and families by joining the army, are compared to illegal male migrants who have no documentation. Some are rapists and murderers and this has been proven. Many come from countries which do not treat women well at all. Comparing British army personnel to these in omers is disgusting

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/06/2026 20:01

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:00

So what happened on that NYE in Germany when 1200 women were sexually assaulted on one night by a mob of men of 'North African/Arab appearance' many of whom were asylum seekers?

It's not exactly out of character either. Mob sexual assaults are common in places like Egypt. Read about what happened to Lara Logan and a fair few other journalists. It's even got a name, translating to either 'the circle of hell' or 'the rape game'.

Western men are not sexually assaulting hundreds of women in feral mobs.

It was hushed up. Many lives could have gone saved had they taken action back then but here we are.

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:02

Littlebitpsycho · 29/06/2026 16:27

Should be in closed camps until such time as its absolutely certain who they are, where they're from and whether they have a criminal record 🤷‍♀️ safety of the local population first

You’d think…..

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 20:02

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 20:01

British men and women who decide to protect their country and families by joining the army, are compared to illegal male migrants who have no documentation. Some are rapists and murderers and this has been proven. Many come from countries which do not treat women well at all. Comparing British army personnel to these in omers is disgusting

It certainly is but that's how desperate they are to protect these unvetted men.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 20:03

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Tauranga · 29/06/2026 20:03

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:00

So what happened on that NYE in Germany when 1200 women were sexually assaulted on one night by a mob of men of 'North African/Arab appearance' many of whom were asylum seekers?

It's not exactly out of character either. Mob sexual assaults are common in places like Egypt. Read about what happened to Lara Logan and a fair few other journalists. It's even got a name, translating to either 'the circle of hell' or 'the rape game'.

Western men are not sexually assaulting hundreds of women in feral mobs.

Most of the replies which are saying" they are wonderful and nonproblem" are paid foreign men sitting in Iran. Or similar.

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:03

EleanorMc67 · 29/06/2026 19:57

Not that dissimilar to when it was an occupied army base, then ...

Vile comment

OneWarmHazelQuail · 29/06/2026 20:04

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 16:24

"The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 "

This is a really unhelpful way to look at it and it kind of speaks to an 'us and them' mentality op. That part I would say really isn't a fair thing and is your exposure to stereotypes speaking. I've worked extensively with single asylum seeking males and ALL of them bar none have been nothing but respectful individuals who were really keen to learn English, learn our culture, build a home and a life for themselves so they could get female or elderly relatives to safety. Most of them were strongly opposed to any sort of extremism which is what they were often running from. I have never ever felt unsafe working with them in the way I have with some local men.

Aside from that I think you are right to be concerned about the impact on community infrastructure which is a totally separate issue. I'd be asking council for their plans around access to healthcare and services that promote health, wellbeing and inclusion.

What I would also say is that for a small village this will likely bring a lot of money to your local shops, volunteers for local charity groups and probably new visitors to your local churches. So your community, if they approach this right, will have the benefit of people with free time and skills/ abilities to lend which is
in real decline in the current climate.

I don't doubt your experience but...

Anyone who is in a new environment which has a different culture and language, no family and no money will likely be under a lot of stress. People respond to this kind of stress differently but you'll likely have a lot of men with a lot of issues who are all contained in one space.

It's not about "them vs or us". It's about bringing a large number of people who are all under considerable stress to one small town.

I'm from an immigrant family and I would be concerned if this camp was in my village.

ilovebrie8 · 29/06/2026 20:05

Best hope OP is that a Reform/Restore govt. get in and they say that they will deport millions. Let’s hope so.

The more this happens to small communities the more support they have.

Be like Poland just say no.

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:05

CantFallAsleep · 29/06/2026 19:59

I would hate this OP. By my daughter’s college there is a hotel housing asylum seekers and groups of the men stand outside being antisocial, commenting inappropriately about the girls, shouting at them etc. They have approached girls and won’t leave them alone when asked. The girls feel intimidated and have to plan to always be in a group to walk past them. We drop and pick our daughter up on a couple of days when she can’t be with friends as she doesn’t feel safe due to previous incidents.

The college are aware but are helpless other than telling the kids to stay in groups and to report any incidents. The police have got the men to go inside the hotel before but nothing else is done.

What do the virtue signallers say to this?

Ketzele · 29/06/2026 20:05

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Just reported you as I can't get near enough to put your matches where the sun dont shine. Love, daughter of immigrants.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:06

I just don't understand the logic....

100 British women murdered annually by their partners = "It's not all men but we don't know which are the bad ones so we have to treat them all with caution".

1200 women sexually assaulted in one night by asylum seekers = "Well, I've not seen anything like that. Must just be prejudice/stereotyping".

🤔

MightyDandelionEsq · 29/06/2026 20:06

Absolutely amazes me that so many women on here or the loudest feminist will openly scorn and slag off white men saying we don’t need them or they’re dangerous.

Then their mental gymnastics to overwhelmingly support and invite thousands of single young men into our communities from countries where women are treated like scum. It feels like there is a gang rape or child rape from an ‘asylum seeker’ in the news daily because of the ‘be kind’ brigade.

Truly remarkable stupidity. I don’t want any more men added to the country irrespective of their background, but I especially don’t want men from countries like these men are. Do you think they arrive and suddenly think women and girls are equal? Pull the other one. Adding tens of thousands of these men into our communities will not make women and girls any safer. Anyone who has lived near one of these hotels (I have) know how these men go around in packs shouting and leering at females and making us uncomfortable.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 20:06

ilovebrie8 · 29/06/2026 20:05

Best hope OP is that a Reform/Restore govt. get in and they say that they will deport millions. Let’s hope so.

The more this happens to small communities the more support they have.

Be like Poland just say no.

Does Poland have clans of liberals preventing tough measures in the name of diversity? Clearly not. Well done Poland.

Dollymylove · 29/06/2026 20:07

CantFallAsleep · 29/06/2026 19:59

I would hate this OP. By my daughter’s college there is a hotel housing asylum seekers and groups of the men stand outside being antisocial, commenting inappropriately about the girls, shouting at them etc. They have approached girls and won’t leave them alone when asked. The girls feel intimidated and have to plan to always be in a group to walk past them. We drop and pick our daughter up on a couple of days when she can’t be with friends as she doesn’t feel safe due to previous incidents.

The college are aware but are helpless other than telling the kids to stay in groups and to report any incidents. The police have got the men to go inside the hotel before but nothing else is done.

They all need to start carrying tins of deep heat. Perfectly legal. A quick spray in the mush might make em think twice!!

MightyDandelionEsq · 29/06/2026 20:08

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:06

I just don't understand the logic....

100 British women murdered annually by their partners = "It's not all men but we don't know which are the bad ones so we have to treat them all with caution".

1200 women sexually assaulted in one night by asylum seekers = "Well, I've not seen anything like that. Must just be prejudice/stereotyping".

🤔

Because VAWG is acceptable if tackling it threatens multiculturalism. We are sacrificed along with our children on the alter of diversity when it makes for an uncomfortable conversation.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 20:08

ilovebrie8 · 29/06/2026 20:05

Best hope OP is that a Reform/Restore govt. get in and they say that they will deport millions. Let’s hope so.

The more this happens to small communities the more support they have.

Be like Poland just say no.

The OP will not admit that she wants this to happen. She will not admit it because she has fallen for the old Refor/ Restore are evil Nazi.

People have to grow back ones and understand that Labour, and Lib Dems do not have our interest at heart. Think for yourself.

Look up Fabians.

BIossomtoes · 29/06/2026 20:09

Oh good another immigration thread. 🙄

MightyDandelionEsq · 29/06/2026 20:09

Dollymylove · 29/06/2026 20:07

They all need to start carrying tins of deep heat. Perfectly legal. A quick spray in the mush might make em think twice!!

My fear is it’s going to get to the point where British women and girls will need to walk around with a British male escort.

Some will scoff at this notion but how else do you fight off a pack of men?

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 20:09

Ketzele · 29/06/2026 20:05

Just reported you as I can't get near enough to put your matches where the sun dont shine. Love, daughter of immigrants.

I did too!

DeftGoldHedgehog · 29/06/2026 20:09

Believeitornot · 29/06/2026 19:45

I don’t understand why the government does not employ more staff, process everyone’s claims asap, and then allocate accordingly. I’m sure these people don’t want to be holed up in camps either.

They are doing that. It just takes more than two years to turn around the shitshow that the Conservatives left us with.

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