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LittleMissClutter · 21/04/2026 18:32

Ahh the good old Mumsnet 'friend'.

A breed apart from any other 🤣

I'd hate to think how your enemies act...

Monty36 · 21/04/2026 18:33

Don’t be surprised if she taps you for money next.
What precisely does she do in terms of work for your DH?

GarlicFind · 21/04/2026 18:36

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 16:04

you said your mom has money but what if the people she said this to were having financial problems?

also what she said doesn’t seem like little hint. If she said you guys thought about renovating? That’s one thing but the way she said it

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When photos of the inside of Princess Anne's house were published a while back, there were long threads on here with people arguing about whether her home was shabby, messy, out of date 🙄

More appropriate terms would've been comfortable, relaxed, heritage ... There are people whose only understanding of quality is brand-new and shiny. An original 16th century table just looks old-fashioned to them, second-hand.

Comfortable, relaxed and second-hand is a perfectly good look, whether it's been in your family for 20 generations or someone else's for 2. Your 'friend' is shallow, narrow minded, self-centred and is not your friend. She stole your time, effort and attention.

There are lots of books on how to say No. Get one!

Shinyhappyapple · 21/04/2026 18:36

She doesn’t sound as if she is actually a friend. She’s someone who employs your husband? Maybe you should have suggested she needs to pay your husband more so you can afford nicer things!

Contrarymary30 · 21/04/2026 18:37

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:34

Your comment makes me realise what a horrible push over and pathetic i am

we always have people over staying because I can’t tell them this

this was Saturday, we had nothing going on. Hubby had broken leg so nothing to do. (He was in another room) But still I was getting tired of her and wanted her to leave.

“Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in.”

See I can’t say that. I don’t know why or what’s wrong with me. I’m totally socially awkward and I worry too much about sounding rude.

i can never in a million years say that

i know I should of, it’s my fault I know

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I'm the same . I think it's a lack of confidence for me . I've never been able to stand up to bullying types . I would just avoid this person , she's nasty .

andthat · 21/04/2026 18:37

ThejoyofNC · 21/04/2026 15:16

Is she right?

Who cares? She’s fucking rude!!

andthat · 21/04/2026 18:42

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:34

Your comment makes me realise what a horrible push over and pathetic i am

we always have people over staying because I can’t tell them this

this was Saturday, we had nothing going on. Hubby had broken leg so nothing to do. (He was in another room) But still I was getting tired of her and wanted her to leave.

“Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in.”

See I can’t say that. I don’t know why or what’s wrong with me. I’m totally socially awkward and I worry too much about sounding rude.

i can never in a million years say that

i know I should of, it’s my fault I know

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@Yourgurlmaddie if you find it difficult saying in the moment then try setting expectations ahead of time. In this scenario you could have sent a text to say ‘be greet to see you but just managing expectations.. we are only free until Xpm’

As for the friend… she’s no friend. You didn’t ask for her option and so she shouldn’t have given it. I hate the ‘I’m just being honest’ bullshit to cover for being mean. Ditch her.

Hawkinsresident · 21/04/2026 18:44

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 16:53

i actually mastered up the courage at one point hours to say

“Omg fridge is empty, I really need to go get some food”

she replied “ I’ll be here when you get back. I’ll keep your hubby company. Or you can order a takeaway!”

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Have you responded to the text?

if I was you, I’d plead bankruptcy and ask for a big loan. Then keep the money just to piss her off … hahahaha

she will bad mouth you amongst friends but then she is telling everyone you are poor anyway so 🤷‍♀️

But you deny your friends anything like that happened and drag it for few years. Make her miserable

june7836 · 21/04/2026 18:45

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:31

Why are you so sure this never happened?

im actually interested

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I know this will be deleted but because you asked:

1)Who would actually say those things, adding the clothes etc makes it sound more farcical.
2) it happened a while ago and you’re just discussing it now on a Tuesday
3) you know it’s unacceptable, if someone said this it wouldn’t be framed as clickbaoot fodder, it would be more about discussing a friend you’re having a difficult time with.
4) your user name is try hard.

Bonsatater · 21/04/2026 19:02

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:34

Your comment makes me realise what a horrible push over and pathetic i am

we always have people over staying because I can’t tell them this

this was Saturday, we had nothing going on. Hubby had broken leg so nothing to do. (He was in another room) But still I was getting tired of her and wanted her to leave.

“Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in.”

See I can’t say that. I don’t know why or what’s wrong with me. I’m totally socially awkward and I worry too much about sounding rude.

i can never in a million years say that

i know I should of, it’s my fault I know

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Don't dare blame yourself we all have our strengths and weaknesses. This is not a true friend shes extremely rude .

Meteorite87 · 21/04/2026 19:03

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:25

I feel like it’s none of peoples business how others live

and unless people ask no one needs your “honesty”

If people are living like this they have their reasons, maybe they like it or it suits them

I think a lot about other people lives but you’d never catch me saying it out loud

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So she complains about the way her son spends money, then tells you that you are not spending enough. Unbelievable.

People who finish their opinion with "I'm just being honest" usually enjoy making digs at others.

JustSawJohnny · 21/04/2026 19:08

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 16:30

I texted some old mutual friends (we used to hang out in one big group years ago) about this. They told me a while ago they no longer speak or hang with her. I didn’t ask at the time because I felt like that was their business and between them but I did this time

they replied. This is why

she told friends 1 daughter that her mom “does not look good” and “don’t tell her I said this tho lol ok hehe”. Her daughter obviously told her
Friend two said she began praising PUTINS confidence and ability to stay calm under pressure. Said he is her role model and she wants to be like that and is “studying” to be like him. This friend is UKRAINIAN

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This is not a friend.

This is a BITCH.

If you haven't already, you'd be doing yourself a favour blocking her.

If you feel you really need to reply, I'd go for something like 'No, I don't appreciate your 'honesty' and would remind you that your opinions are neither desired nor required. please pay DH then lose my number'.

She's pestering you on a Saturday night because she has nobody else to spend it with.

I wonder why that could be?!!

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Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 19:10

june7836 · 21/04/2026 18:45

I know this will be deleted but because you asked:

1)Who would actually say those things, adding the clothes etc makes it sound more farcical.
2) it happened a while ago and you’re just discussing it now on a Tuesday
3) you know it’s unacceptable, if someone said this it wouldn’t be framed as clickbaoot fodder, it would be more about discussing a friend you’re having a difficult time with.
4) your user name is try hard.

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well obviously I can’t prove to you this happened, but for me, I’m glad you think what she said and how she said it is so ridiculous and absurd it’s unbelievable you can’t believe someone would say it

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june7836 · 21/04/2026 19:13

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 19:10

well obviously I can’t prove to you this happened, but for me, I’m glad you think what she said and how she said it is so ridiculous and absurd it’s unbelievable you can’t believe someone would say it

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It’s ok you don’t have to, I was just answering why some people will think it is fake as you asked.

MMUmum · 21/04/2026 19:17

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:15

This friend said she has a lot of work for dh. (He freelances). I told her dh broke his leg and unable to travel so she said I’ll come to him!

i never had this friend over before. (And she the kind of person who talks for hours and hours about herself only never asking how you are or letting you talk) and I don’t like having people over but it’s for work reasons so I agreed.

She comes, brings nothing! Just one document and says she forgot rest at home.

She then sits in our home for 7 hours! Playing music, chatting, talking about herself. From 1pm to 9pm

she then only leaves because her son calls her some kind of issue at home

she invites me for coffee few weeks later and she was complaining about how her son in bad with money, wastes all his money and has no savings etc

says “I don’t get it”

she then says “I don’t get you guys either. Your home and furniture are awful. So tatty, unattractive and old. when was the last time you had renovation? Your clothes too, when was the last time you went shopping? You live like poor people. I mean you live Like you are in poverty. To be honest I don’t get it either.”

she later texts me saying “ don’t get offended, I was just being honest, what kind of friend would I be not to tell you the truth xx”

wtf!

Friend? Cheeky bugger, nasty bitch, heartless mooer, definitely, friend? Definitely not

katepilar · 21/04/2026 19:21

AttentionPlease · 21/04/2026 15:32

Because no one agrees for a friend to come over with work for their husband which it turns out they forgot anyway, and then lets them sit around for seven hours . You’d just say ‘Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in. Nice to see you’ after the work was done. I mean, no one has a spare seven hours to devote to a random playing music in your living room.

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Not everyone is like you, or the way you like to think you would be in that situation.

WonderingWanda · 21/04/2026 19:23

Send her a message saying that you did find her rude and offensive and stating that she was just being honest doesn't excuse her behaviour. And then give her a wide berth from now on.

NotThisShitAgain121 · 21/04/2026 19:25

Time to fuck this bitch off.

MMUmum · 21/04/2026 19:26

GarlicFind · 21/04/2026 18:36

When photos of the inside of Princess Anne's house were published a while back, there were long threads on here with people arguing about whether her home was shabby, messy, out of date 🙄

More appropriate terms would've been comfortable, relaxed, heritage ... There are people whose only understanding of quality is brand-new and shiny. An original 16th century table just looks old-fashioned to them, second-hand.

Comfortable, relaxed and second-hand is a perfectly good look, whether it's been in your family for 20 generations or someone else's for 2. Your 'friend' is shallow, narrow minded, self-centred and is not your friend. She stole your time, effort and attention.

There are lots of books on how to say No. Get one!

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I remember the carpets at Holyrood palace being threadbare😃

user1471453601 · 21/04/2026 19:28

ThejoyofNC · 21/04/2026 15:16

Is she right?

if she's right isnt, I think the point.

If the opening poster had asked for her opinion on her home, furniture and clothes, one could make an argument that the friend possibly only told the truth.

But the comments weren't requested. To my mind she was very rude to the opening poster.

Spirallingdownwards · 21/04/2026 19:36

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:25

I feel like it’s none of peoples business how others live

and unless people ask no one needs your “honesty”

If people are living like this they have their reasons, maybe they like it or it suits them

I think a lot about other people lives but you’d never catch me saying it out loud

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Yes and I do agree. However I wasn't really sure what you were looking for from posting the thread was what I meant.

Idrathertalktomycat · 21/04/2026 19:55

ThejoyofNC · 21/04/2026 15:16

Is she right?

That's not really the point is it.
Most decent human beings wouldn't say those hurtful things despite what they thought inside their silly little heads.

Lotsofsnacks · 21/04/2026 19:58

Why the hell did you invite this total nasty piece of work into your home?!! Please do not engage with her again, she’s no friend!!! Get DH to get the money from her for the hours of his time, and then avoid!

Horses7 · 21/04/2026 20:17

Drop this awful woman and book yourself on to an assertiveness course. You really ought to get a grip and stand up for yourself and your husband!

agentmarmalade · 21/04/2026 20:18

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:34

Your comment makes me realise what a horrible push over and pathetic i am

we always have people over staying because I can’t tell them this

this was Saturday, we had nothing going on. Hubby had broken leg so nothing to do. (He was in another room) But still I was getting tired of her and wanted her to leave.

“Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in.”

See I can’t say that. I don’t know why or what’s wrong with me. I’m totally socially awkward and I worry too much about sounding rude.

i can never in a million years say that

i know I should of, it’s my fault I know

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I don't think your a horrible push over and pathetic, you might just be a bit of a people pleaser. Your probably quite kind and unlike this "friend" would be devastated to hurt someone's feelings. It's not helpful to tell someone their home and stuff looks poor and ugly, unless they explicitly asked for an opinion/a no holds barred roast and were able to either laugh about it or use the ermmm "feedback".
You might get to a point in the future one day (like I did) when people pleasing is no longer do-able and you start getting comfortable enforcing boundaries. Your friend does sound a bit insufferable! Maybe tell her that!!