Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Friend said my home, furniture and clothes are UGLY AND POOR

213 replies

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:15

This friend said she has a lot of work for dh. (He freelances). I told her dh broke his leg and unable to travel so she said I’ll come to him!

i never had this friend over before. (And she the kind of person who talks for hours and hours about herself only never asking how you are or letting you talk) and I don’t like having people over but it’s for work reasons so I agreed.

She comes, brings nothing! Just one document and says she forgot rest at home.

She then sits in our home for 7 hours! Playing music, chatting, talking about herself. From 1pm to 9pm

she then only leaves because her son calls her some kind of issue at home

she invites me for coffee few weeks later and she was complaining about how her son in bad with money, wastes all his money and has no savings etc

says “I don’t get it”

she then says “I don’t get you guys either. Your home and furniture are awful. So tatty, unattractive and old. when was the last time you had renovation? Your clothes too, when was the last time you went shopping? You live like poor people. I mean you live Like you are in poverty. To be honest I don’t get it either.”

she later texts me saying “ don’t get offended, I was just being honest, what kind of friend would I be not to tell you the truth xx”

wtf!

OP posts:
Fuchvyghfdmu5464 · 21/04/2026 23:34

angelfacecuti75 · 21/04/2026 22:41

"Well THANKS!" in am annoyed/offended tone works wonders.
I would have said , "well who asked for your opinion anyway?". But i am a gobshite

I think being a gobshite is fine if the other person has just been incredibly rude. Quid pro quo.

Endorewitch · 21/04/2026 23:42

Spirallingdownwards · 21/04/2026 15:19

She was rude but noone here can she whether she was being honest or just snarky because we don't know what your house is like and what clothes you wear.

No ne of her business to comment.
OP obviously likes her furniture and clothes.. That is all that matters

Supersimkin7 · 21/04/2026 23:49

Silly rude woman.

You’re either one of those people who costs others on an internal spreadsheet or you’re not.

We know who we prefer.

Moveoverdarlin · 22/04/2026 00:50

I would reply

Well I was offended Sarah. Extremely offended. Don’t bother me again.

Sess249 · 22/04/2026 03:10

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:34

Your comment makes me realise what a horrible push over and pathetic i am

we always have people over staying because I can’t tell them this

this was Saturday, we had nothing going on. Hubby had broken leg so nothing to do. (He was in another room) But still I was getting tired of her and wanted her to leave.

“Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in.”

See I can’t say that. I don’t know why or what’s wrong with me. I’m totally socially awkward and I worry too much about sounding rude.

i can never in a million years say that

i know I should of, it’s my fault I know

Edited

I don’t care if someone thinks im rude for saying this? They were rude first by turning up and then not leaving?

what does it matter if someone thinks you are rude? Especially a “friend” who’s basically awful and not kind

DreamTheMoors · 22/04/2026 03:31

FK HER AND THE BROOM SHE RODE IN ON.

Whettlettuce · 22/04/2026 05:53

That was rude and uncalled for, ignore her amd don't have her round again

ruethewhirl · 22/04/2026 12:08

june7836 · 21/04/2026 18:45

I know this will be deleted but because you asked:

1)Who would actually say those things, adding the clothes etc makes it sound more farcical.
2) it happened a while ago and you’re just discussing it now on a Tuesday
3) you know it’s unacceptable, if someone said this it wouldn’t be framed as clickbaoot fodder, it would be more about discussing a friend you’re having a difficult time with.
4) your user name is try hard.

What are you on? What exactly is 'try hard' about OP's user name?

godmum56 · 22/04/2026 13:20

JohnThomasOnAFloralBedspread · 21/04/2026 17:37

What do travellers have to do with this?

quoi???

Spirallingdownwards · 22/04/2026 14:47

Endorewitch · 21/04/2026 23:42

No ne of her business to comment.
OP obviously likes her furniture and clothes.. That is all that matters

I never said she should be commenting. If you reread I said she was rude. However I said we can't say whether she was correct because we don't know which is totally different.

Tryagain26 · 22/04/2026 15:02

Spirallingdownwards · 22/04/2026 14:47

I never said she should be commenting. If you reread I said she was rude. However I said we can't say whether she was correct because we don't know which is totally different.

It's a subjective opinion though. One person's old fashioned and dated can be another person's traditional and timeless.
Whether we agree with the OP's friend or not isn't really relevant it's not for her to comment on someone else's taste

Spirallingdownwards · 22/04/2026 15:09

Tryagain26 · 22/04/2026 15:02

It's a subjective opinion though. One person's old fashioned and dated can be another person's traditional and timeless.
Whether we agree with the OP's friend or not isn't really relevant it's not for her to comment on someone else's taste

Which I totally agreed with and said she was rude 🤷‍♀️

Endorewitch · Yesterday 21:41

Tryagain26 · 22/04/2026 15:02

It's a subjective opinion though. One person's old fashioned and dated can be another person's traditional and timeless.
Whether we agree with the OP's friend or not isn't really relevant it's not for her to comment on someone else's taste

Exactly. That was my point. Who is she to comment?Tastes are subjective. Obviously OP likes her clothes and furniture.
Incredibly rude and ill mannered.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread