To have ran upstairs in case I smelt of burger

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Just now

Treated myself to a Big tasty meal on the way home from work. Happily driving along in the dark and rain, listening to 90’s tunes 🤣
Dropped the bag evidence in the big bin round the corner from my house, getting soaked in the process, but all worth it.
Had to do the quick check of the car and car seat for any random bits-there was shredded lettuce-got rid.
Came in the house, coat off and Ddog smelling my hands, so I ran upstairs saying to Dh and Dd that I was tired 😂

In bed feeling satisfied, but wondering if I smell of burger

Omg you are overthinking this!! Have you never savoured somthing on your own? Even a coffee, or a cold beer?

Never in secret, never lied & covered up, and never not shared the experience of a treat with my immediate family.

This was much more than enjoying a cup of coffee solo. Which I’d never do without offering a coffee either.

The reason I don't buy my son McDonald's as often as he'd like is because it's unhealthy, not because of the cost. And my example is not of an extra treat for me but of me treating myself at a different time.

But also secretly. It’s all hush hush.🤐

That is one of the issues. The secrecy. The lying.

😂😂😂

So which friends character did you collect?

Aha, give the family a trough full of dry pesto pasta and sneak out for a burger. Crikey, yeah, you do well to cover that one up

All my life as a a kid I would want to eat all types of fast and junk food and would dream about buying it all as an adult whenever I wanted.

Now I can buy it anytime but have to watch my health and am in heart attack years. I’m not able to casually grab a burger on the way home for dinner, whether it was to eat alone or with the family. It sounds lovely though, OP.

She was actually able to ran up the stairs.

Rookie error - keep a bottle of water in the car

It's not having to think about anyone or deal with the whining of why didn't you get me some, can I eat your chips.

Mothers get very little time when they can do something just for them and not have to consider everyone else's wants and desires. A cheeky burger all to yourself can be that moment just to themselves.

A Costa coffee drunk in my car in the car park when I've done all the food shopping for the family is it a itreat. It's peaceful just sitting there listening to music for a few minutes sipping on it. So yes it's a treat.

Why is anyone ‘scared’ / bothered about their family finding out they’ve eaten a fucking burger?

If their family found out they've eaten a fucking burger - without at least waiting for it to finish fucking - they might conclude that this is some kind of weird kink.

Seriously though, I live alone, but sometimes do enjoy a sneaky, "secret" supper. Usually just a little plate of cheeses, olives, fancy crackers etc., but I have been known to walk in on myself tucking into a whole roast chicken in the kitchen at 3am.

Why do I keep these treats secret from myself? Well, it saves some degree of guilt and admonition, but mostly it just makes it seem more fun.

Hit the nail on the head.

Who is everyone else, your husband and children?

Either the family would feel cheated because they didn't get anything or they have opinions, loud opinions, about her diet. Or maybe about anything she does.

I’m not saying you lot of secret eaters have eating disorders, but you definitely think like someone with an eating disorder.

Rubbish! I think, for a lot of people, it demonstrates a healthy relationship with food. My diet is clean and I exercise every day. Once in a while I will go through the ritual of devouring a creme egg, stuffing the foil wrapper behind a sofa cushion. It it one of life's great pleasures for me.

I think because it seems shame based and that’s not good for mental wellbeing. It probably makes some of us, who’ve lived in a situation where being shamed was the norm, feel a bit uncomfortable. It’s also a bit I’m a woman so I have to hide treating myself in case someone calls me greedy or comments on what I’m eating which I am sure a lot of us have had men do.

as you were though, appreciate it’s a lighthearted thread !

It’s not the cream egg that’s the problem though, it’s why on earth wouldn’t you want anyone to know you had it?

What are you avoiding? Judgment? Ridicule? Jealousy? Why can’t family see that you ate one item of chocolate?

I do this with pork pies 😂

Why would either of you have to keep it a secret you ate a pork pie or sausage roll on the way home.

the only reasons I can think of are seriously controlling partner or some shame over food choices or feeling greedy,

I’ve been all sorts of weights, and never once thought I have to lie and hide evidence of what i consumed.

For the excitement of feeling like a secret agent.

Unwrap the tiny instruction: Eat a pork pie on the way home. Destroy this message immediately.

...and then carrying out the mission.

You feel like a secret agent as you eat a pork pie in the car and lie about it?