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AIBU?

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I never want to host again

54 replies

flutterby4 · 24/12/2025 23:00

I am just utterly knackered. Weeks and weeks of rushing around, organising gifts, wrapping gifts, buying endless food. Today we have hosted people for a buffet and spent all day cleaning the house, preparing food, cleaning up after them and by that time it was bedtime. There’s been no opportunity to just chill.
Tomorrow we are hosting family for lunch and it will be much the same.
I like to see people at Christmas and I don’t mind buying and doing the food but it just leaves no time for lounging about or taking the day as it comes, popping out for a walk if you fancy it or whatever.
I kind of feel that Christmas will always be a bit like this while the kids are young because we will of course always do dinners and gifts for them. I would just love some time alone at home to relax and enjoy it how I want to.
Oh and I can’t even blame Dh for not helping because he’s been rushed off his feet too and will be doing the majority of the cooking tomorrow. Gah!

OP posts:
TheaBrandt1 · 26/12/2025 16:27

Flutter the Monday poster is hosting one adult son and one adult daughter 🙄. Hardly in your league.

Thunderdcc · 26/12/2025 18:18

I must admit I think 2 days in a row is easier. House is clean, table is already extended - stuff goes in the dishwasher then straight back on the table! If we had a break in between the house would get untidy again 😉

RecordBreakers · 27/12/2025 00:17

TheaBrandt1 · 26/12/2025 16:26

How can 30% say yabu! You are not op ! And Christmas 💐to all you other Christmas hosts of large groups out there you are the super stars of the nation.

I can't speak for everyone, obviously, but I think she IBU because she has agreed or offered to host big parties twice in two days even though she feels it is stressful.

I would have found it stressful when I was still working and looking after dc, so I recognised this and only every offered to 'do my bit', and never to do it twice in one year - well, twice in two days. That is why OP IBU IMO.

Thewovenform98 · 27/12/2025 00:26

Thunderdcc · 26/12/2025 18:18

I must admit I think 2 days in a row is easier. House is clean, table is already extended - stuff goes in the dishwasher then straight back on the table! If we had a break in between the house would get untidy again 😉

Even more convenient is to invite everyone for one big event. We did this because I couldn’t face doing two! It went well!

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