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He's going under the patio

75 replies

RessicaJabbit · 12/12/2025 17:53

DH bought the wrong bacon...cheap watery crap 😭😭😭

OP posts:
bizmum1 · 13/12/2025 07:21

PinguWoe · 12/12/2025 18:00

'He's going under the patio'

Why do I keep reading this on MN?

Do you realise it derives from the real life murders of multiple women by a sadistic and prolific paedophile?

Is it funny to joke about the abuse and murder of women and children now? Or even 'play threaten' to kill our partners for minor inconveniences?

I'm fully prepared to be told to lighten up or its just a joke but I bet if there were likes to a predominantly male chat forum 'joking'about throttling their wives or murdering them for not making dinner etc, there would be uproar.

You really do need to lighten up

Evaka · 13/12/2025 07:22

PinguWoe · 12/12/2025 18:00

'He's going under the patio'

Why do I keep reading this on MN?

Do you realise it derives from the real life murders of multiple women by a sadistic and prolific paedophile?

Is it funny to joke about the abuse and murder of women and children now? Or even 'play threaten' to kill our partners for minor inconveniences?

I'm fully prepared to be told to lighten up or its just a joke but I bet if there were likes to a predominantly male chat forum 'joking'about throttling their wives or murdering them for not making dinner etc, there would be uproar.

Lighten up

RessicaJabbit · 13/12/2025 08:11

RealEagle · 12/12/2025 19:58

Right back to the thread ,was it unsmoked bacon? because if it was i’m with you.

It was 😭😭😭

OP posts:
RessicaJabbit · 13/12/2025 08:13

Ijwwm · 13/12/2025 01:12

I’m having work done in the garden. It’s halted for winter, but have a new patio that needs to be done in the Spring. Maybe give him a couple of months to redeem himself - ‘it’s the season and all that. But if not, I may be able to offer space if needed.

Re the bacon, I’m very particular. Needs to be smoked. And needs to be medallions, all the bacon and non of the gross fat/rind. Anything less and my patio is readily available (space permitting).

I can't risk another incident, not this close to Christmas. Won't anyone think of the children?

What if he ruins Christmas morning with his soggy offerings???

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pictoosh · 13/12/2025 08:15

PinguWoe · 12/12/2025 18:20

There are 5 adults in my household right now (visiting)

I just asked them what does 'going under the patio' means.

Ages range from 18 to 52.

All said the Fred West murders.

I didn't know about Brookside either.

ALL of them? Gosh. That's surprising.

You've got dozens here telling you otherwise. I didn't even watch Brookside back then and I know where it comes from. It was a big storyline at the time...massive viewing ratings and sparked much discussion and a catchphrase.

MidnightPatrol · 13/12/2025 08:18

My DH also prone to buying the cheapest available version of whatever he’s been asked to pick up from the supermarket.

Muffsies · 13/12/2025 08:26

Gallivant · 12/12/2025 18:12

Eh? It's Trevor Jordache under the patio and he totally had it coming.

👍 I knew that and I didn't even watch Brookside.. apart from the lesbian stuff which my best friend was obsessed with - slight clue for me there.

Muffsies · 13/12/2025 08:29

RessicaJabbit · 13/12/2025 08:13

I can't risk another incident, not this close to Christmas. Won't anyone think of the children?

What if he ruins Christmas morning with his soggy offerings???

My eldest son prefers thin cut bacon, and I still haven't got over it. Other than that he seems normal, but I've got my eye on him.

ArcticGrass · 13/12/2025 08:32

it’s Brookside. It’s dark humour. fFS.

IngridBurger · 13/12/2025 08:39

Muffsies · 13/12/2025 08:29

My eldest son prefers thin cut bacon, and I still haven't got over it. Other than that he seems normal, but I've got my eye on him.

Sorry to hear this. What a shock for you. I have one who doesn't like pork crackling - can you imagine?! Parenting is so hard. Flowers

pictoosh · 13/12/2025 08:41

Can I just chip in and say I've got one who doesn't like gravy. Wtf?

NutButterOnToast · 13/12/2025 08:46

I feel embarrassed for the person ranting about Fred West. Fred West killed women, not men.

And Trevor Jordache deserved it.

RealEagle · 13/12/2025 09:00

RessicaJabbit · 13/12/2025 08:11

It was 😭😭😭

i’ve got my shovel ready 😭tell me where and when.

suburberphobe · 13/12/2025 09:01

Never heard of "Brookside". Don't watch tv.

Have heard of Fred and Rosemary West.

I find it odd that women on here joke about murder.

I'm with you @PinguWoe

bigboykitty · 13/12/2025 09:02

PinguWoe · 12/12/2025 18:00

'He's going under the patio'

Why do I keep reading this on MN?

Do you realise it derives from the real life murders of multiple women by a sadistic and prolific paedophile?

Is it funny to joke about the abuse and murder of women and children now? Or even 'play threaten' to kill our partners for minor inconveniences?

I'm fully prepared to be told to lighten up or its just a joke but I bet if there were likes to a predominantly male chat forum 'joking'about throttling their wives or murdering them for not making dinner etc, there would be uproar.

It relates to Brookside, as it goes

LivingDeadGirlUK · 13/12/2025 09:11

I actually get that sulphate free bacon these days which is a bit more expensive but really delicious.

Ponoka7 · 13/12/2025 10:03

I was ill last year, really wanted a BLT. He was off out for a paper. He walks past Morrissons, goes to Heron and buys a Chicken and Bacon abomination. I still remember that dark day.

fuzzyduck1 · 13/12/2025 10:11

have you been watching to much brookside?
anyway you can’t do it now they will catch you from this post.
just have an egg sandwich and get over it.

LoveSandbanks · 13/12/2025 11:17

I’ve got some spare patio slabs if you’re short.

PocketSand · 13/12/2025 13:31

The reference is to a Brookside story line where the abused wife finally snapped after her husband sexually abused their younger daughter and killed him. She and her older daughter buried him under the patio. It was gripping and spawned a catch phrase. The serious side was highlighting the way the law treats women who kill their abuser.

It has become a theme on MN where women use black humour to suggest this is a suitable reaction to ‘minor’ infringements by non abusive husbands. Abusive = WA and LTB. Non abusive and making a light hearted thread = bury him under the patio.

Nothing to do with later cases of abusive men killing women.

PhoenixReincarnated · 13/12/2025 13:48

Muffsies · 13/12/2025 08:29

My eldest son prefers thin cut bacon, and I still haven't got over it. Other than that he seems normal, but I've got my eye on him.

My son doesn't like bacon at all 😱

OP is definitely referencing Brookside. I watched Brookside on and off but I remember that storyline well.

Alconleigh · 13/12/2025 14:09

PinguWoe · 12/12/2025 18:00

'He's going under the patio'

Why do I keep reading this on MN?

Do you realise it derives from the real life murders of multiple women by a sadistic and prolific paedophile?

Is it funny to joke about the abuse and murder of women and children now? Or even 'play threaten' to kill our partners for minor inconveniences?

I'm fully prepared to be told to lighten up or its just a joke but I bet if there were likes to a predominantly male chat forum 'joking'about throttling their wives or murdering them for not making dinner etc, there would be uproar.

Mmm like everyone else said, this is a Brookside reference. If you’re going to be this sanctimonious, it’s best to be sure you’re right first.

AStonedRose · 13/12/2025 14:12

Another poster here pretty uncomfortable with the domestic violence and murder bantz.

Not cool. There are other ways of making the joke. If nothing else, it's thrown in our faces when we call out men for doing the same.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/12/2025 14:18

Some of us, inc. me, will never have watched Brookside, but we still get the joke!

TheBewleySisters · 13/12/2025 14:36

LivingDeadGirlUK · 12/12/2025 17:57

Not to be confused with BLT, which would be sub par anyway with your crap bacon.

We need a laugh emoji!!!

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