Friend offended by my opinion

[outlanderish]

Friend is seeing someone who isn't her 'usual' type. Met him once. But I bumped into him when we went to a local bar in our hometown and he looked awful, and I did say to her 'does it not bother you that he goes out to a nice bar in oversized cargos and an adidas zip up jumper and doesn't make an effort for you and I think she found it quite offensive, but he looked an absolute state...

AIBU?

I don't blame her. Your opinion is unwanted and unimportant.

YABU. That was just an objectively rude, unkind and judgmental thing to say. Is this a reverse?

You're very rude.

You were rude to be fair, sound very judgemental.

Why did you say that? What were you hoping to achieve?
It obviously doesn’t bother her, or she wouldn’t be with him.

Well, you were very rude.
And not a very nice friend.

Stop being so careless with your friendship.

Well yeah that's just objectively rude and also a stupid thing to say, loads of people go to bars in cargos and hoodies, not like he was wearing a bin liner in the Savoy is it?

"I said something rude, bitchy and judgemental to my friend and she's upset for some reason? What did I do wrong?" like surely you're not actually this socially inept?

I guess she’s seeing you for who you are now.

It was a trashy thing to say. No wonder she was pissed off.

Wow that was rude of you. No one wants to hear negative unasked for opinions

Wow! I expected you to say something completely different... like something actually important! Instead you commented, rudely!, on his fashion sense.

You are rude. I'm not surprised she was offended by your unasked for opinion.

Also, you come across as so shallow. I couldn't be friends with someone like you.

Waiting for this to be a reverse, but yes, that was rude and judgemental.

Yeah right

Rude and cunty. HTH.

YABU- that was a really rude thing to say and she didn’t even ask for your opinion!

You sound really quite resentful.

Feeling left out OP?

What did she say?

Wow. I'm struggling to believe this. Really? I thought you were going to say you saw him out (without her) and he was a drunk mess / with puke down his front / doing something awful.

Wearing clean decent clothes? What is the matter with you??

She probably thinks you're a judgemental cow 😳 why does it matter what he's wearing?!

No, YANBU, because this is a reverse, and you are the friend.

The OP posted fairly recently that she has problems with her own clothes due to weight loss after getting on the jabs.

Although the amount lost differed quite a lot between posts.

So probably projection.

OP get you judgmental head out your own arse and stop being stuck up.
I wear oversized jumpers and baggy bottoms so you would judge me and call me unkept.
Im sure MN are trying to see it from your view but none of us can get our heads up our own arses.

Or fake.

Could you post a picture of yourself OP?

Then see how you feel about our opinions.