Dodgy texts on husbands phone - please help

[SunJess]

I’ve got cheating suspicions of DH and looked at his phone as a result. I didn’t find what I was looking for (messages from a specific woman) but I did find what appeared to be dodgy messages from an unsaved number earlier this year. He has deleted his texts so I don’t know what he sent. I don’t know why he’s not deleted their messages either, I assume because he doesn’t think I would have ever looked.

I took a photo and have written out what it says:

Price list

Massage 80 / 130
FS 110 / 180

EXTRA’s

HE massage +20
FS C twice +20

There was then a separate message which said:

’No, SO not included, +40 must b clean’

I realise this is obviously a massage parlour, but haven’t a clue about the other abbreviations (other than HE probably being happy ending). Does anyone have an idea? I want to be able to confront DH factually as I know he will try and explain this away.

Hi OP. I'm guessing FS is Full Sex. Not totally sure, but seems to fit. I'm so sorry you're in this position. 💐

Full sex, cum twice?

Suck off?

I think FS is full service, I just googled to try to find out!

Ugh. What are you going to do now, OP?

I believe HE stands for happy ending massage, I'm sorry

Apologies didn't read the entire thing before commenting. FS would be full srrvice, HE happy ending, C would be cum?

I'm sorry that must be a shock for you. It's grim.

Happy Ending, Full service, cum twice (also can be called MS for multi shots), strap on

It’s a massage parlour aka a brothel

How grim!

I think it means - (it's likely 30mins/1hour)

Massage 80 / 130
Full Sex 110 / 180
EXTRA’s
Happy Ending (wank) massage +20
Full Sex Cum twice +20

There was then a separate message which said:
’No, Suck Off not included, +40 must b clean’

So sorry op, that's disgusting/heartbreaking to have to see and think about.

You don't need to know, you know enough already to know you're with a cheating scumbag. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Thank you, the above would make sense and I was prepared for it to be something horrid.

Ive checked the date, it wasn’t anything significant, it was a normal week in March. His work gives him plenty of flexibility and he goes to the gym after work most days. I’ve googled the number and nothing comes up.

I’m sorry OP, grim behaviour from your husband.
I’d ring the number so you’ll have the confirmation.

What are you going to do?

I’d keep your powder dry for the moment op. Other more experienced posters will advise you about ‘getting your ducks in a row’ if you’re thinking that way. Revenge is a dish best served cold.

I don’t know what to do right now, I can’t get any more concrete ‘proof’ because aside from bills, we have separate accounts for our finances and I would struggle to get into his online banking (he doesn’t get paper statements). I am going to see my best friend later to try to work out what to do.

Yes I definitely can’t stay with him, and to be honest it has been going in this direction for a while now but I don’t know how best to proceed yet

You should get an std test. If he's sleeping with prostitutes then he's put you at risk

I'm guessing SO is strap on as it's an extra charge and 'must be clean'

Would their services not be protected usually? That’s one thing I have read on and seems fairly clear that it’s a strict requirement

Nope. You can pay extra for ‘bare back’. I’m sorry OP

I think it’s Suck off and refers to the penis needing to be clean. It’s grim.

I think it could be strapon. It’s something I’ve been badgered for and am not comfortable with, because I’m ’too vanilla’ apparently..

This in itself is enough to end a relationship surely. Being badgered for a type of sex you are not into is horribly sad, never mind the rest of it.

I'm so sorry OP. Post here for support or to get your thoughts and plans straight.

Do you have children?