We've been together for 10 years now. Things got very tough at one point but he promised to change (and did change to some extent) so we got back together. Fast forward and I am 21 weeks pregnant. Baby very much wanted. However, my husband has a problem with drinking. He was controlling it well before I became pregnant but he seems not to care anymore. He's not violent or anything like that but I just can't stand it anymore. I don't want to spend the rest of my life where half of it is wasted by him being drunk. I just can't stand it anymore. I am tired of talking to him and explaining what impact it has on me. It's pointless as no actions are being taken.
The problem is, I have no family support whatsoever (they're all abroad). The house is in his name. I literally have nowhere to go. I do have financial means to get me through but moving all my stuff and settling in a new home at this point I just don't think is practically do-able or safe given I am not able to drag stuff around, build furniture etc.
I am thinking I need to wait till the baby is safely out and I can start making plans then. In the meantime I could have some legal consultation to see what's the best way to go around it.
Has anyone done this? Am I right thinking I need to wait till the baby comes first? Where do I start?
I might be more emotional because of hormones but seriously I'm just done. I love him when he's sober but I am not ready to sacrifice my life.