To report an NHS worker five years down the line?

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Over 2018-2019 I was attending a lot of hospital appointments (like up to 4 a week)

Woke up one morning to an fb message sent at 3am from a male I didnt know, saying something along the lines of "Every time you've come in I've been amazed, I think you're beautiful!"

At this point in my life I didnt go anywhere really; work, food shopping, medical appointments, that was it. So I was flummoxed as to who this guy was, where he'd seen me, or how he'd found me on fb (I have an unusual and hard to spell surname, so not easy to find on SM)

It made me feel a bit paranoid tbh, like some weirdo was watching me go about my daily business

His fb profile was private so all I had was his name and small profile pic. I didnt reply, just took screenshots of the message and profile in case I could work out who he was, then blocked him and tried to shrug it off, creepy as it was.

Fast forward to today, I was scrolling through my old phone and came across the screenshots.
Just googled his name (didnt think to do this at the time!) and found his LinkedIn profile; he's a fucking admin assistant from the hospital!
100% the same guy; I've zoomed in on his face on multiple photos and its definitely the same guy who messaged me, same name, same hospital, everything.

So basically he'd seen me at the hospital, looked up my full name on the NHS system (must have written it down because its that hard to spell), and then used it to send me creepy stalkerish fb messages at 3am -WTF?

How do I know he didnt also take my address down? How do I know he didnt go noseying around the system about my DC / family? What kind of creep uses your personal NHS info to stalk you on SM, like how fucking inappropriate and unprofessional is that?

I'm furious, but do I really have the energy to deal with the notoriously useless PALS? Is it even worth the hassle of reporting him now, given it was five years ago?

Do it

Absolutely do it.

Absolutely do it. Just copy what you have posted here and include the screenshots in an email to them.

Yeah, you have to! That's beyond creepy from hospital staff!

Id slow down a bit. He is admin assistant. When you came in for your appointments did you tell a parson your name when you arrived? Could he have overheard it?

Wouldnt waste my time. How would you even remember some admin guys face from 5 years ago?

He worked on reception in the dept I was having my appointments, so either booked me in, or overheard my name being called out. Either way, still a bit weird no?

I've got the screenshot of his face from when he messaged me, and theres photos on his LinkedIn

Are you sure he was even working there then?

Just wanted some other opinions because I'm too annoyed to make a decision right now

Like how do I know he doesnt still do this to other females who have appointments at the hospital? I could be just one of many people he's creeped out

Also, he's an admin team leader; supposed to be championing GDPR etc..

Yes theres dates of what job he was doing and when on his linkedin

Let it go! It was years ago.

But what if he is doing it to other women?

Weird or not you said in your initial post that he must have looked up your name on medical records. Now you have admitted he could have overheard your name. That is two different issues.

First you are accusing him of breaching gdpr by looking at your records. If he just saw you and overheard your name then messaged you on fb that's a bit iffy but not breaking gdpr.

If you complain you need to state the facts not assume

Op it was 5 years ago.. maybe he's grown up since them.. It' really isn't the most serious thing in the world . He didn't do anything further after you blocked him which maybe indicates he took the hint and isnt a serious pest. He probably just liked you and made a mistake of contacting you. He may not have looked you up on the system, just made a note of your name. I'm not condoning this in any way but I'm thinking 5 years on really if he's turned into a serial nut case I'm sure someone else has flagged this man by now... you may be wrecking someone's life over an innocent one off error of judgement.

I would. He massively overstepped boundaries and you're likely not the only one.

It was 5 years ago, if he is doing this to others I'm sure someone has reported him by now.. or it was a one off and he's grown up and since then he's married with kids. It was a FB message not turning up at her house and once op blocked him he took the hint. Not condoning his actions but the current evidence doesn't point to wrecking this person's life.

Its not two different issues really though is, NHS code of conduct does not permit sending patients weird SM messages at 3am

He wouldnt be able to spell my name without looking it up. Thought I made it clear l have an unusual surname thats really hard to spell

So either he heard my name being called then looked up the spelling, or he just went straight to looking up the spelling

Either way he would of had to copy it down off the system or off his appointment list, theres no way anyone would remember how to spell it hours / days later at 3am

NHS clinician here. Pretty sure this is gross misconduct.
Cant believe some of the people saying “let it go”. If you want our NHS full of creeps, weirdos & unprofessional boundary-crossers then deffo let it go.

Or ignore the morons on here and report it. It may form part of a bigger jigsaw puzzle in terms of other reports on his conduct.

Agree with @StringTheory1 As a healthcare professional I would strongly advise you to report this. Deeply unprofessional behaviour and this individual could be a risk to others.

NHS staff should not seek out & contact any patients under any circumstances.

Doesnt matter a flying fuck how this creep got her name - he came across her in the cause of his job and set about making an unwanted advance on her outside of work. End of.

Always makes me laugh when females who tell the truth are "wrecking some poor guys life" 😂

Doubt I'd be wrecking his life by telling the truth, just his career

And how about this, maybe I dont owe some random creep any favours, and maybe he wrecked his own life / career with his strange and unprofessional actions..

Hear hear 👏🏻

I worked in the NHS and im Information Governance. Write an email/letter send to Pals and send to the Reception Manager and also to the site manager. You can find contact details in the website for the Trust. Have you still got all the evidence?

THANK YOU! 🙏