People who knock and don't stand visible by the door

[Springchickenonion]

Im not waiting for a delivery or anyone to arrive. I was having nap, Maybe I'm just in a grumpy mood. But why do people do this? Bang on the door/ring doorbell the sender out of view of the eye view thing or camera. Had it just now. Banging the door..ring the bell. Can't see them. I thought it was my husband as allbi could see was side of jumper arm. So I opened the door.

No. It was a delivery driver wanting me to take a neighbours parcel. That's fine. But why hide your self? Happens a lot! we have mNy delivery drivers. Male and female. The female drivers never do this.

They're not hiding, they're just not bothering to think of the best position to be in. I think that's fair enough, they're always in a hurry and presumably most people answer the door anyway. Female and male drivers do it in our porch, if I was the kind of person who worried about such things I'd wind the Ring footage back a few seconds before opening. Or speak through the doorbell.

I wonder if your doorbell isn’t in the best place?

How are they meant to know where you want them to stand?

Without knowing the layout of your door/entry/porch it’s very difficult to say but people ring my bell then step back as otherwise they are looming up on me when I open the door ( it’s a small open porch. )

Had a rare Jehovah’s Witness pair ringing the bell recently - I opened it as I thought it was a delivery and not sure who was more alarmed by my involuntary shriek- me or the 6’6” suited man filling the doorway. (He was v apologetic )

The doorbell is in the middle high up face height (average height) its just a path. Nothing behind them they need to get away from. They can just step back a little so they are visible. They move to the side out of the way. Literally no reason ti do this.

I am grumpy though. I haven't slept well in ages and was in a deep sleep nap and it woke me up. To have a neighbours package thrusted in my face.

I don't have a doorbell camera or an eye hole thingy, so I just have to open the door without seeing who is on the other side every single time. It's never occurred to me that I need to know who is on the other side before I open the door.

@mrsm43s fair enough. We get a lot of jehovas witnesses, people selling things etc in my area. I don't want to speak to them. So I look who it is first.

But what if it's a tiger?

On Mumsnet, it's a sin to knock on anyone's door, without giving three months' notice. The fact that you are delivering something ordered by the householder is irrelevant.

I know what you mean, though. The blurry outline of a hi-vi, a clipboard, a lanyard, or two callers at once is often a caller you don't want.

Could you position your doormat so that people kinda end up in the right position? I think people tend to stand on doormats if not too close to an opening door and that could then act like your stand here indicator!!

Why would you expect them to even notice or care that you've got a camera, let alone consider the best angle for your requirements? It's a front path, not a film set with crosses taped on the floor for the actors to hit their marks.

@scalt no problem with people knocking and normally I just answer but I wasn't expecting anyone/thing and just feeling rubbish and didn't want to deal with anything unnecessary. But they kept knocking and ringing. Neighbour was out. But because my car was there they said I must be have been home... 😐 I would have ignored it if they didn't keep banging

@KreedKafer alright love. I have a peep hole too. It's not about the camera. It's about not making yourself visible when your knocking at someone's house when they aren't expecting you!

You need to check your ring doorbell. Mine has 180 vision. It's impossible not to be seen on it unless you are Spider-Man.

In the book About a Boy, it's noted that at first, Will looks at empty space when he opens his front door, because his caller (young Marcus) is a good foot shorter than the average hawker selling J-cloths, so he wasn't standing in the right place.

They move to the side out of the way. Literally no reason ti do this.

There is. You've literally just said why. So that they're out of the way if the door opens outwards or somebody steps outside.

@thedendrochronologist it's not a ring one. Just one from amazon. I don't use it to answer the door. It's more because someone broke into our car twice. I check the peep hole before opening really.

@KrisAkabusi no out of the way as in out of the way of view. There's nothing to get away from. No flower pots, no fence nothing

I doubt he was intentionally hiding from you. You're overthinking this, especially with the "female drivers never do this" comment.

I work for one of the utilities never even accrued to me to make sure I was in range when I knock on a door

I'm not over thinking it. It happens alot.@sophi1995

Fair enough. I'm unreasonable. I accept that.

Invite him in for tea.

People do this at my door. I don't have a ring doorbell though. My front door is on the side of the house with steps going up. For some stupid reason people like to knock the door & then stand at the bottom of the steps, so I basically have to come out of my house to see who it is. Utterly pointless & drives me mad.

I've never had an eye view thing or s camera. I just open the door. If it were Jehovah's Witnesses or something, I'd politely tell them I'm not interested and close the door again.