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Dick pics on Partners phone

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Theyreallthesame · 27/02/2024 03:25

I was right next to my partner as he got me to look at something on his phone, we were out with friends. As I was flicking through, I somehow got his photos up, of which there were some dick pics from 2 months ago. It's his dick.

He was turned Away when they came up and I was so shocked I gave him back his phone and we went home shortly after.

He knew something was up so I told him to get his photos up on his phone so we can look through them.

He did so where I couldnt see initially. Then very obviously deleted said photos, and tried to tell me he doesn't know what's wrong.

He's a crap liar so his game was over in less than a minute.

The fact he tried to cover it up amd tell me he didnt know what i was talking about has pissed me off more than the pictures.

As background he's insecure of the size of his manhood and puts himself down alot. It's smaller than average, but I've never made an issue of it and we've had a good sex life.
He sometimes gets a bit of ed. He's had a much more sheltered sex life than me, and can be quite shy talking about that stuff.

Anyway, he then tried to tell me its not like he's cheated. I told him that makes him sound guilty.

He tried to say he was embarrassed, so that's why he deleted them.

But if he was that embarrassed why not delete them in the first place.

The only other pics I saw in the brief moment were of semi naked women, one which was screenshot yesterday, so I'm guessing they're pics he looks at on his own iykwim. The others are dated before the dick pics. They're very tame tbf. Famous celebs, posed type thing.

So, is it unreasonable to think these dick pics have been sent to others, or is it as he says, he forgot they were there / doesn't know why he took them, he just did.

We've been together almost 8 months. He's Been very kind, generous, loving, supportive always listened if somethings bothered me and never tried to Gaslight me about anything before.

OP posts:
Josette77 · 27/02/2024 03:34

So he has pics of his dick and naked celebrities?

The naked women are definitely not people he knows?

If that is definitely the case I'd think he just took pics of his dick because he's hung up on it.

I don't love anything of this though... Something seems off.

KnowledgeableMomma · 27/02/2024 03:41

I don't know of any other reason why he would have a picture of his dick on his phone unless he was sending it to someone?

Theyreallthesame · 27/02/2024 03:50

Josette77 · 27/02/2024 03:34

So he has pics of his dick and naked celebrities?

The naked women are definitely not people he knows?

If that is definitely the case I'd think he just took pics of his dick because he's hung up on it.

I don't love anything of this though... Something seems off.

None of women he knows.

OP posts:
Theyreallthesame · 27/02/2024 03:50

KnowledgeableMomma · 27/02/2024 03:41

I don't know of any other reason why he would have a picture of his dick on his phone unless he was sending it to someone?

Same.

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MillshakePickle · 27/02/2024 04:41

Did he send you any at any point?

Theyreallthesame · 27/02/2024 04:45

MillshakePickle · 27/02/2024 04:41

Did he send you any at any point?

No he's never sent anything like that to me.

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thebestinterest · 27/02/2024 04:45

See the naked women pics pics on his phone would bother me. Celeb or not 🤷🏽‍♀️

Garlickit · 27/02/2024 05:02

There are boards on Reddit where men compare the size of their dicks 🙄 At a stretch, he might've submitted some photos so the other men could tell him he's not that small. Or maybe took selfies to compare in the privacy of the bathroom. Or even consulted an online doctor about his willy?

I agree with @Josette77, though. While there are not-very-alarming potential explanations for your finds, the whole thing feels a bit off.

Lwrenn · 27/02/2024 05:22

8 months? Nah. Already he's not trustworthy if he's trying to lie. Chuck him back.

Calamitousness · 27/02/2024 05:30

It just all sounds quite eepy cray and all of it gives me a definite ick. Why have dick pics and not delete after whatever he took them for. And semi naked pics of random women. Yak.

Rewis · 27/02/2024 06:41

You take pics of your junk either to send someone or for medical condition.

Thetraitor · 27/02/2024 06:45

Rewis · 27/02/2024 06:41

You take pics of your junk either to send someone or for medical condition.

I don’t agree with this. Some men are very strange and take photos of it to ‘see what it looks like’ etc it isn’t always about sending them to someone else. Some men are just obsessed with how it looks

C1N1C · 27/02/2024 06:46

If I'm insecure about something, then last thing I'd do is take a picture of it and / or send it off.

Zyq · 27/02/2024 06:50

Ask to check his emails and WhatsApps to see what he is sending and to whom.

badwolf82 · 27/02/2024 06:50

I would bet money he’s posted them on some Reddit forum for men who are insecure about their size. He may have genuinely meant to delete or hide them. I have some somewhat personal photos I took to send to my doctor after minor surgery on my thigh and I hid/archived them in Apple photos. I did not realise that they were still completely visible in Google photos - I have both apps - until I opened that up a few months later.

Maray1967 · 27/02/2024 06:55

Thetraitor · 27/02/2024 06:45

I don’t agree with this. Some men are very strange and take photos of it to ‘see what it looks like’ etc it isn’t always about sending them to someone else. Some men are just obsessed with how it looks

This. Given what OP says about his concerns I think it is quite likely he’s been photographing himself to see what it looks like.

iwiporangi · 27/02/2024 06:55

I was born before smart phones and the internet.
At no point was it a thing to take phoos of your dick, get them developed at Boots, then pop them in a stamped envelope and into a post box.
Why do people do this? Why take photos of any of your bits? No part of reproductive anatomy is picture worthy!

Stupidliefromfriend · 27/02/2024 07:24

I don't think this sounds like cheating. Obviously I don't know but that was my gut reaction. And assuming it's not, then I think it's his private business - his body, his phone.

BeakyBlinders · 27/02/2024 08:28

At this point I'd ignore what I'd seen on the phone, as you shouldn't have been looking in his photos. They are his private photos. I have taken questionable pics of myself before, to either see what something looks like, or thinking oh this will look great I'll send to my DH and then realising the pic looked shit. Never cheated on my DH never would. But my camera roll is my business. You'd also find the odd screenshot of a certain celeb semi naked, if I've seen something as I was scrolling and thought ooohhh fit. Doesn't make me a cheat. I wouldn't care him seeing any pics on my phone, but I'd be fuming if he went scrolling. Also, if I'd have only been with him 8 months and he looked through my phone and found those I'd be so embarrassed so I'd delete them too. I'd be more fuming about someone going through my phone though.

EBearhug · 27/02/2024 08:34

iwiporangi · 27/02/2024 06:55

I was born before smart phones and the internet.
At no point was it a thing to take phoos of your dick, get them developed at Boots, then pop them in a stamped envelope and into a post box.
Why do people do this? Why take photos of any of your bits? No part of reproductive anatomy is picture worthy!

Men are obsessed with their dick, though, and they absolutely would have been taking pics of them and taking them to be developed in Boots if it wouldn't have been for Boots complaining about it.

Allfur · 27/02/2024 08:37

Why though, are men so obsessed with their dicks? It's ridiculous- no pun intended!

Nori10 · 27/02/2024 08:50

Because you've said he’s hung up on his size, I do genuinely think he could have taken these photos to further analyse himself. I have done this, taking photos of my body (in particular boobs) to see if they look uneven in photos or if it's in my head type thing. Would never EVER dream of sharing them with anyone. It is just for me to look at and they either make me feel a bit better or worse than when I look in the mirror.

The naked celebs could just be wank bank material.

If he didn't have this specific insecurity, I would probably 100% think the only reason to take dick pics is for shady reasons, but I think in this case it could be innocent. His gaslighting you isn't a good look either way though. Deleting them and then making out you’re imagining things isn't on.

iwiporangi · 27/02/2024 08:50

@EBearhug 🤣🤣🤣 Boots complaing!
Genuine laughing, not some weird sarcastic laugh.
Yes, they are obsessed. If all the short male dictators in the eorld were told their penises were 9" long, they wouldn't be do insecure!!

Twiggylet · 27/02/2024 08:51

its 8 months. Don’t settle for this. Naked images on women, the lies and the very reasonable suspicion that he’s sent this to other women. If he was taking it to look at his size…why delete the pic and not just say?

don’t settle for this.

SpeedyDrama · 27/02/2024 08:58

EBearhug · 27/02/2024 08:34

Men are obsessed with their dick, though, and they absolutely would have been taking pics of them and taking them to be developed in Boots if it wouldn't have been for Boots complaining about it.

Ah this gave me a good laugh, but it’s absolutely true. I used to work in a pharmacy which did photo development and ‘You’re Banned Mr Picnic-Chipolata’ would definitely have been a post-it on their envelope….

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