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Commando

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LylaLee · 13/12/2023 09:21

Met up with friend in a cafe for a catch up - the last one was before COVID. Her DP came to pick her up after.

He was wearing joggers but he very clearly was not wearing anything underneath. Outlines of everything. I didn't say anything but AIBU to think it's grim to go out in public like that?

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Babla · 13/12/2023 14:36

There are people who put their toilet brush in the dishwasher.

🤢

shitsuit23466 · 13/12/2023 15:24

Isn't there also a benefit to not wearing underwear and "letting it breath"?

mottytotty · 13/12/2023 15:26

Why did your eyes even go to his crotch?

sunlovingcriminal · 13/12/2023 15:31

shitsuit23466 · 13/12/2023 15:24

Isn't there also a benefit to not wearing underwear and "letting it breath"?

Yeah, under the polyester and elastase of the grey trakkie bums, I'm sure his wangle was gasping the fresh air like Julie Andrews prancing around Untersberg Mountains in the Sound of Music.

bilbodog · 13/12/2023 15:34

Its difficult not to see when things are waving at you ……

justteanbiscuits · 13/12/2023 15:41

There is a man who lives locally who wears tracksuit trousers with no undies and is, well, very very generously endowed by all appearances! So much so that I completely understand the no pants and loose trousers thing. It's a regular subject for discussion amongst the mums when we meet for coffee 😂

Heyhoherewegoagain · 13/12/2023 15:48

mottytotty · 13/12/2023 15:26

Why did your eyes even go to his crotch?

If she was sitting and he walked towards her, here eyes could easily be at crotch level depending on the chair

mottytotty · 13/12/2023 15:49

Heyhoherewegoagain · 13/12/2023 15:48

If she was sitting and he walked towards her, here eyes could easily be at crotch level depending on the chair

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It’s polite to look up, not down.

Lavender14 · 13/12/2023 15:50

I think there's a big difference between boobs and penises... boobs are generally cleaner and more hygienic.

That would give me the ick too op.

cruisebaba1 · 13/12/2023 15:50

NoNoNanette · 13/12/2023 09:42

A banana would be worse, but seriously - I think it's creepy and so does DH (I just asked him). I'd be thinking, not of the manly meat and two veg, but rather of the skid marks and pooh-y sweat at the back and piss leaks and dick smell at the front. Underwear was invented for a reason.

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blabla2023 · 13/12/2023 16:05

I hope you were all covered up and in loose clothes? I don’t want to see anybody’s breasts on full display, yet i have to daily. Double standards go both ways. As long as he is wearing something, its fine.

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LylaLee · 13/12/2023 16:10

blabla2023 · 13/12/2023 16:05

I hope you were all covered up and in loose clothes? I don’t want to see anybody’s breasts on full display, yet i have to daily. Double standards go both ways. As long as he is wearing something, its fine.

Yes, in the middle of winter my tits were out. Basically Moll Flanders.

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NoNoNanette · 13/12/2023 17:36

Feellikedancingcrying · 13/12/2023 12:12

But it waved at her!

I like it when they dance a little jig.

NoNoNanette · 13/12/2023 17:37

I think there's a big difference between boobs and penises

Who says the age of profound wisdom is dead?

ThisisgroundcontroltoMajorTom · 13/12/2023 17:47

I agree op. He needs to put the mouse back in the house.

Most people do not go around looking for things like this. Humans eyes are automatically drawn to movement 😃 (not kidding) we are very good at detecting it.

I don’t think men look particularly good in jogging pants anyway unless they are an athlete or personal trainer or something.

Achildbelongstoitsmother · 13/12/2023 17:49

Sauvblanctime · 13/12/2023 12:52

Why were you looking at his penis???

Why shouldn't she?

Her eyes, her choice.

Hellenika · 13/12/2023 17:51

When you are seated, crotches are at eye level...

But how? What sort of cafe was this that his crotch would be at the same level as your eyes?

RestingCatsArseFace · 13/12/2023 17:54

Sometimes the eyes can just get drawn to an area.

Commando
DiegosMomHasGotItGoingOn · 13/12/2023 18:03

It’s a whole thing, I am surprised you have never noticed the grey sweatpants phenomenon before.

Hohofortherobbers · 13/12/2023 18:03

RestingCatsArseFace · 13/12/2023 17:54

Sometimes the eyes can just get drawn to an area.

ShockShock

CaroleSinger · 13/12/2023 18:09

Great, now im going to spend the rest of my life thinking about Terry Wogans moose knuckle! 🤮

dontforgetme · 13/12/2023 18:13

Tis the grey sweatpants season Grin

RestingCatsArseFace · 13/12/2023 18:32

CaroleSinger · 13/12/2023 18:09

Great, now im going to spend the rest of my life thinking about Terry Wogans moose knuckle! 🤮

I realised too late about the sensitive content option. Hope you get over it soon.

ArcticBells · 13/12/2023 18:35

LylaLee · 13/12/2023 11:03

How did I know he wasn't wearing underwear? Well, maybe he was wearing silk or chiffon light knickers, but it did nothing to obscure the clear outline of his genitals.

How did I see? When you are seated, crotches are at eye level...

Chiffon knickers GrinGrinGrinGrin

iklboo · 13/12/2023 18:35

Why were you looking at his penis???

Why shouldn't she? Her eyes, her choice

You'd be happy with a bloke staring at your boobs / crotch then would you? Because it's 'his eyes, his choice?'