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Original poster

Teachers and assistants seem to suck up to Dd

36 replies

Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 22:04

There were some issues with Dd, 4 at the start of school, I desperately didn’t want to be *That mum, so dealt with it nicely and respectively and am always polite and friendly at school.
I've noticed the teacher and assistants (especially assistants) seem to make a big fuss of Dd when I’m around,
I might be being paranoid as I used to be a teacher and know how it is inside some schools.
Do they think I'm *That mum and want to keep me sweet but secretly think i’m a pita?
I really don’t want to be seen that way 🙈

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MissWings · 15/02/2023 22:08

You are the problem. Completely paranoid. Your daughter is 4, I assume they are in the job because they like children? no doubt if they were unpleasant you would also be concocting some stories in your head.

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Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 22:12

@MissWings okay…

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Iknownononono · 15/02/2023 22:18

MissWings · 15/02/2023 22:08

You are the problem. Completely paranoid. Your daughter is 4, I assume they are in the job because they like children? no doubt if they were unpleasant you would also be concocting some stories in your head.

This.

LucyWhipple · 15/02/2023 22:21

Maybe they’re just kind and nice people who make a fuss of all the children they teach?

or maybe you are ‘that’ mum and they’re all terrified of you blowing things out of proportion. Like the fact they are nice to your child🙄 I mean, really, listen to yourself. How exactly could they win, in your view??

HaveANiceFuckingDay · 15/02/2023 22:21

Are you taking the Mick ? I'm a SEN TA on Midday money
I have 2 SEN children 1:1.
ON MIDDAY MONEY
A cleaner at the Wetherspoons gets more PH than me
It's half term tho I relish posts like this .

Newrumpus · 15/02/2023 22:24

How does one ‘suck up’ to a 4 year old?

Sherrystrull · 15/02/2023 22:27

What were the issues?

Easternext · 15/02/2023 22:28

The teachers are nice to your child as they probably are to all the children, I doubt they would put on a act just for you. The only issue here seems to be your paranoia.

Veryverycalmnow · 15/02/2023 22:31

Haha! I have heard it all. Teaching staff being kind to your child? Best complain about it.

Butchyrestingface · 15/02/2023 22:31

How does one "suck up" to a 4 year old? Confused

I feel sorry for these poor teachers. They can't do right for doing wrong. Usually the complaint is some teacher or TA is picking on OP's precious little angel. Now the complaint is they're too nice.

Veryverycalmnow · 15/02/2023 22:33

Maybe they do think you're a PITA, maybe they just make sure they show they are taking care of your child when you're there.

MelaniesFlowers · 15/02/2023 22:35

Why wouldn’t they think you’re a PITA? You’re suspicious of them being nice to your child ffs.

AnyFucker · 15/02/2023 22:37

Well, I think you are a PITA and I haven’t even met you

Emmamoo89 · 15/02/2023 22:42

Yabu

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Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 22:53

@Veryverycalmnow Why would they do that though

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VirtualRealitee · 15/02/2023 22:54

You really used to be a teacher?

Redglitter · 15/02/2023 22:56

AnyFucker · 15/02/2023 22:37

Well, I think you are a PITA and I haven’t even met you

😂😂😂

Megjobethamy · 15/02/2023 22:58

Respectfully?

strawberryandcreams · 15/02/2023 23:00

Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 22:04

There were some issues with Dd, 4 at the start of school, I desperately didn’t want to be *That mum, so dealt with it nicely and respectively and am always polite and friendly at school.
I've noticed the teacher and assistants (especially assistants) seem to make a big fuss of Dd when I’m around,
I might be being paranoid as I used to be a teacher and know how it is inside some schools.
Do they think I'm *That mum and want to keep me sweet but secretly think i’m a pita?
I really don’t want to be seen that way 🙈

What were the issues op?

SandyY2K · 15/02/2023 23:03

Sometimes teachers are nice whenever they see the parents of a child. It may not be the same when you're not there.

I've seen teachers speak in a way to kids that they would NEVER if they knew any parent could see or hear them.

I was helping out at the school and the teacher in question, didn't know I heard her.

Cocobutt · 15/02/2023 23:03

So there were some issues that you didn’t like.

Now there are no issues and you’re still trying to find fault.

Would you prefer they ignored your child?

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Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 23:04

@SandyY2K Yes, that’s exactly true and what I’ve witnessed over the years, majority of the time, great, kind teachers and assistants

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Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 23:06

@strawberryandcreams Nothing too drastic, Dd was quite unhappy and took a while to settle. She was angry each time she came home, we weren’t saying that was the school etc, just had a meeting as were shocked by the change in her, obviously the big change of school and her age likely had an impact.

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VirtualRealitee · 15/02/2023 23:08

Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 23:06

@strawberryandcreams Nothing too drastic, Dd was quite unhappy and took a while to settle. She was angry each time she came home, we weren’t saying that was the school etc, just had a meeting as were shocked by the change in her, obviously the big change of school and her age likely had an impact.

So why do you think they're now kissing your arse and keeping you sweet?

Makes no sense unless you think yours is the only child in the world to have trouble settling in?

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Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 23:13

@VirtualRealitee Just the way they act I suppose, just a vibe I get

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