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Teachers and assistants seem to suck up to Dd

36 replies

Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 22:04

There were some issues with Dd, 4 at the start of school, I desperately didn’t want to be *That mum, so dealt with it nicely and respectively and am always polite and friendly at school.
I've noticed the teacher and assistants (especially assistants) seem to make a big fuss of Dd when I’m around,
I might be being paranoid as I used to be a teacher and know how it is inside some schools.
Do they think I'm *That mum and want to keep me sweet but secretly think i’m a pita?
I really don’t want to be seen that way 🙈

OP posts:
strawberryandcreams · 15/02/2023 23:15

Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 23:06

@strawberryandcreams Nothing too drastic, Dd was quite unhappy and took a while to settle. She was angry each time she came home, we weren’t saying that was the school etc, just had a meeting as were shocked by the change in her, obviously the big change of school and her age likely had an impact.

Sounds to me like you were being a mum and putting your daughter first op. And communicating with the school to help DD. There is no reason for them to judge you and think you're difficult for that.

Btw- it took for my child to be in year 3 before I gave no fuks and I go in a lot these days. Because no one else is going to fight for my child other than me.

So do what you need to do, and if they give your child extra attention because of that then that's a good thing!

Icecreamandapplepie · 15/02/2023 23:19

What the heck are you on about? Your lo struggled to settle, you had a meeting, your lo has now settled and the teacher/ lsa is happy with them/ you?

Nothing special here?

I'm a former teacher too btw.

I smell bs with this post.

wnaksr · 15/02/2023 23:25

IF this is true it sounds like you're just looking for problems OP. Honestly who complains someone is too nice to their child, get a grip 😂

ILiveInTornadoAlley · 15/02/2023 23:36

This has got to be the 3rd or 4th post I've seen today that seriously can't be serious. There's just no way this is a real issue in someone's life.And if it is,then it truly concerns me for the children in these situations.

Makemetry · 15/02/2023 23:40

If it’s anything at all, it’s that they know you are concerned about her being ok at school so they are offering you a bit of reassurance that she’s fine.

TortolaParadise · 15/02/2023 23:42

Tneninetieswereadreamland · 15/02/2023 22:04

There were some issues with Dd, 4 at the start of school, I desperately didn’t want to be *That mum, so dealt with it nicely and respectively and am always polite and friendly at school.
I've noticed the teacher and assistants (especially assistants) seem to make a big fuss of Dd when I’m around,
I might be being paranoid as I used to be a teacher and know how it is inside some schools.
Do they think I'm *That mum and want to keep me sweet but secretly think i’m a pita?
I really don’t want to be seen that way 🙈

Yes. 'That teacher' and That Ta' also exist and they have the radar to spot 'That Parent'. 😏

SandyY2K · 15/02/2023 23:50

It's very possible that they're trying harder with your DD. If the school know you're the type parent to challenge and make further enquiries (which I think is the right thing to do) then they try harder.... and I'm sure they want your DD to be happy and settle.

I always believe as a parent, you need to advocate for your kids.

I've seen it happen quite a bit. "

CarpeVitam · 16/02/2023 00:03

AnyFucker · 15/02/2023 22:37

Well, I think you are a PITA and I haven’t even met you

🤣

Mumof3teenagers · 16/02/2023 00:11

If your dd was having trouble settling in and you brought this to the teachers and ta’s attention, I’m
presuming they are making a fuss of her to make her feel comfortable and supported in school…. Not sucking up to her and not trying to impress you.

I think most people would be happy that the teacher is being nice to their child.

keeprunning55 · 16/02/2023 00:21

I expect they’re keen to be seen making an effort with your dd after your discussion. I doubt they do it all the time as it’s difficult with lots of children in the class.

I work with a teacher who is completely over the top with the child when the parents are there but during the school day treats them with disdain-more so when the parent has raised an issue or complained.

Companyofwolves · 16/02/2023 02:06

Do they know you used to teach? Maybe they feel they’re being scrutinised because you can’t be fooled kind of thing & go into overdrive rather than being natural. Some people feel awkward when one of their own sees them do the job IYKWIM. Maybe the feel a bit awkward because you queried things re your DD. They shouldn’t & it’s not your issue I don’t think.

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