Why the fuck is my DP taking SO long with this job?!

[whatthefuckityfuckfuck]

Just need to vent. DP does this often. He's a "faffer". Jobs that would me 10 mins, take him 20 or 30... and so on.

He has nipped to the butchers (2 miles away - 5 min drive tops), and is also going to the co op right next door to the butchers for a few veg items (literally carrots, potatoes and peas).

So far he has been gone almost 50 minutes. I mean..... really?! Am I being unreasonable/ inpatient?! Or is this just ridiculous? 🤷‍♀️

Typical

He's reading the magazines, mooching through the alcohol, having a chat with the staff 😂

Maybe hes browsing? Does he know you are in a rush? Maybe its busy since its saturday morning. Maybe hes bumped into a friend.

To make you do it for him, as will get fed with him and do it yourself.

Try to ignore him and just get on with what you doing.

It’s really busy in all the shops…

So 20 mins in each shop, a couple of weeks before Christmas. The butcher will have a queue, he might have met someone to chat to, he might be doing a good deed or have had an accident!

Why does it matter so much?

It’s Saturday morning in December- 2 weeks before Christmas. Perhaps parking is tight and there are queues.

‘What is this life, if, full of care, we have no time to stand and stare?’

Not everything in life is a time trial.

I'd really struggle to live with someone like you! Why are you timing him?

Does it actually matter ? Maybe he has bumped into someone and having a chat
I would hate if my dh timed me when I was out

Wow. It was a lighthearted vent. Some of these replies 🤣

He's just called and said he queued for 20 mins in the co op and the butchers was a nightmare too. So there's my answer. He's on his way now.

No I don't usually "time" him ... 🤣🤣

But we do have somewhere to be soon yes, hence my worry that we might be late!

Do you think he does it deliberately to avoid the family?

Because you never appreciate his efforts to do These Important Jobs.....
😆He needs to make sure you know he totally accomplished his mission
.. Hours and hours he will be yet.
Harvesting those veggies and slaughtering that meat...

@Sprouttreesareamazing

😂😂😂 that made me laugh out loud

If he’s like me he’s sat in the car eating a twirl and browsing the web.

The wanderer has returned! Looking a tad stressed I might add. By all accounts it was carnage out there🙈

Ugh my DH is a faffer too. He was literally late to his own grandmothers funeral because he was faffing in the car

If it's the butchers near me, which is next to a CoOp, he'll be queueing.

There will be a lot of people sorting out their Christmas orders.

Can't you entertain yourself whilst he's out?

😂 No. I rely wholly on his presence to feel whole and fulfilled.

It's less an issue of entertainment and more the issue of we need to be somewhere so I needed him to hurry up! Given he has form for faffing, I assumed he would be doing faffy things. Alas, I was a little unfair to him... this time it was genuine!

My dad is usually really efficient with stuff
He went to Morrisons to get my prescription for me and I was a bit worried when he wasn't here an hour later
Got a phone call "you didn't tell me there was a giant b&m here now! It's huge!"
2hrs later... he appeared having also got KFC "I haven't had this in a decade!"

Yes he lives somewhere with no b&m

I’m the opposite. DH goes out to the shop and I hope that he takes his time, as I like a bit of ‘me’ time, and he talks for England, so it’s a bit of a break for me. In fact, he went for his covid booster last week. Should have taken an hour tops. Returned over two hours later, and moaned that I hadn’t checked on him, as he could have been ‘lying in a ditch somewhere’. It turned out he was late as he decided to call off at a diy place on the way home to pick something up for his job….

He’s the boy who cried faff! My DP has ADHD and a task as easy as putting the recycling out can turn into a mammoth mission with side projects and radio silence; it makes it hard to give them the benefit of the doubt at other times. Especially as I know he uses a supermarket top-up trip as a “hide in the park with a bun and a podcast” excuse for some quiet time.

This is my husband all over. Trip to Tesco Express 2 mins down the road takes 30 minutes minimum. Ask him to chop veg for dinner and I can have it done quicker myself in the time that it takes him to find a knife and chopping board.

My DH is a faffer and it drives me insane! His 'it'll only take an hour' means he'll be all afternoon. He also pops out about 3 times, for a simple diy job, to get bits he needs. Why can't he get them all in 1 go???