To ask what to do about neighbours loud sex?

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We live in a flat in a converted period house, so we don't expect soundproofing to be the best.

New neighbours moved in below us about two months ago. Ever since they moved in, they've been having ridiculously loud sex every weekend. It's only ever on the weekend, usually starting in the morning and then periodically throughout the rest of the day. They have woken me up on multiple occasions (I work late shifts so sleep in until 9am). Without going into too much detail, the woman is a screamer.

I'm glad she's having a good time but I'm so fed up of not being able to sleep, watch TV, or just be in my own home at the weekend without being disturbed by them. If it was an occasional thing, fine, but it's every single weekend without fail.

I've tried banging on the walls/floors and playing loud music, thinking maybe they didn't realise the sound travelled so much and once they did, they'd be quieter. It worked for about five minutes but then they were back to it as usual.

All suggestions welcome - sensible and non-sensible!!

In all seriousness, the neighbour I had that was like this was in fact a prostitute.

Drop a note through the door.

Does this impinge on anyone else in the flats?

If it is causing a disturbance then they need to know - but if it turns them on I have no idea what you do!

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This is the one !

And then go round the other neighbours with suggestions they change theirs to "So can we", "I can too", "Us too" and "Annoying, innit".

Oh please I love sex and have great sex but don’t scream like a banshee

All the advice suggesting clapping, scoring them etc - they would probably love that and it would encourage them to be even louder.

When I see thread like this, I wonder if any MNers will admit to being the ones who do it loudly in a flat or terrace. Must be some of you?

If you don't any more, eg due to kids, why did you start and why did you stop? Or did you buy a detached so no one knows?

We had this problem years ago and we're not exactly quiet either so it made us worry next door could hear us to so one day I casually approached the woman as we were just on 'morning, hello ' terms and asked her if they had settled in ok as moved in a few months after us, she said yes and said were we happy living here which was a perfect opening for me to say 'its all good apart from the thin walls.. you know? Hope we've not disturbed you at any time ' and sort of smiled and nodded and she burst out laughing saying that she was aware they could be loud sometimes like we were! We ended up really laughing and we moved our beds away from each others walls that day as realised they had basically be headboard to headboard through the wall. No and again we'd hear a bit but as we'd talked about it it just broke the ice and sorted itself out. If you can't talk to them buy some earplugs or make as much noise as you can and make a competition out of it 🤣

Upstairs neighbours definitely have the advantage, see here especially 1:19

Record it, and then play it back on repeat full volume with speakers right up against the floor every time they do it. You can wear earplugs/loud music through noise-cancelling headphones to drown it out yourself. Put them off their stride!

There's a chance it'll just turn them on further, but in that case it'll be over faster ;-)

Do they seem like they might know this song? If not just play it loud anyway 😂

Our ndn's adult ds had his bed against our wall. Assumed he was hammering nails not a lass. Bang bang bang bang bang no rhythm just banging! ..... Sent him Spotify link to Lionel Richie's All Night Long.
He actually moved out that week end. His dps were mortified we could hear them.

Or there's this classic from the 1990s but I fear it would only encourage them!

Why? It's not like it's abnormal.

You either have a word with them or deal with it I'm afraid.

After many years of various noisy neighbours, trying to speak to them reasonably, the only thing that has ever worked is waking them up in return. Figure out when they're asleep and tap on the walls/ceiling with a broom. Just enough to rouse them. Wait a few minutes so they are just falling asleep and then do it again. When their sleep is impacted they suddenly give a shit.

Part of me says write a note, another part says get a loud musical instrument, fog horn, a megaphone whatever and play something really loud everytime it hapeness

@Pinkknits2 why have you revived 2 threads about sex this morning?!

Clap loudly 😈

You could match her scream for scream inbetween the gaps. But louder and 'faker'. Even if they're set on showing off surely that would put at least one of them off their stride?