To ask what to do about neighbours loud sex?

[otherellie]

We live in a flat in a converted period house, so we don't expect soundproofing to be the best.

New neighbours moved in below us about two months ago. Ever since they moved in, they've been having ridiculously loud sex every weekend. It's only ever on the weekend, usually starting in the morning and then periodically throughout the rest of the day. They have woken me up on multiple occasions (I work late shifts so sleep in until 9am). Without going into too much detail, the woman is a screamer.

I'm glad she's having a good time but I'm so fed up of not being able to sleep, watch TV, or just be in my own home at the weekend without being disturbed by them. If it was an occasional thing, fine, but it's every single weekend without fail.

I've tried banging on the walls/floors and playing loud music, thinking maybe they didn't realise the sound travelled so much and once they did, they'd be quieter. It worked for about five minutes but then they were back to it as usual.

All suggestions welcome - sensible and non-sensible!!

Yeah why would you scream? Doesn't she know it's supposed to be enjoyable?

Pop a note through the door asking them to be quiet.

Or loudly applaud every time she finishes.

Longer many of the replies so far! OP, the female isn’t called Millie and an art teacher is she?

How about a note on Facebook/WhatsApp group from someone saying something like: “Who are the noisy performance shaggers at Mandora Flats?”- they’ll know at least that others are laughing at them and that they’re idiots.

But people like this will not be approachable or give a shit. I once mentioned to a neighbour how loud their shagging neighbours were. She shrugged and said that she and others in the vicinity were escalating through environmental health.

It was that bad, but at least they didn’t have a hot tub. I once had neighbours (and fairly mature/elderly as they were into their 70s) who got a bit frisky after a sangria or two. But at least these were detached houses and it was v seldom!

On another note I can’t think of anything I’d enjoy doing less with my weekend so maybe they’ve nothing else to do with their time or times are hard? No pun intended…

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Why is it women who make these performances noises, its unnecessary and selfish

Thank you all.

I know the solution is really to go and speak to them or leave a note, but I've put it off out of fear it will be really awkward. The suggestions about not being specific regarding the noise are definitely helpful. Hopefully they can put two and two together if we mention noise at weekends.

I didn't even consider that they might enjoy knowing other people can hear them! I think we're going to have to raise the issue with them and pray this isn't the case, given how much they're disturbing us already

They know you can hear.

Play really loud children's music and programmes and it should throw them off briefly.

Particularly love the suggestions about acting concerned about the screaming and calling the police 😂

Don’t bang or make noise back- they’ll just think it’s ok to be noisy as you are…they won’t necessarily make a connection that you hear them having sex

id just stick a note through door- saying I’m too embarrassed to face them but…

Ooooh this is a good one

Applaud 👏

Speak with them first as that is the right thing to do.

Failing that, you are the upstairs neighbour and they are being foolish to annoy you. Get your loudest pair of shoes on and start running across the floor after the event. They’ll soon get the message!

Ring the doorbell every time and ask if they need the police as someone was screaming.

Ooops, sorry, I see that wasn't an original suggestion. 😟

Brilliant!

Note under door next time:

"We hope the exorcism finally proved successful"

@RachelBosenterfer your commentary is brilliant, DP and I had a proper laugh reading it! 😂

Although on a more serious note, as much as some of the suggestions have made us laugh, we're reluctant to make too much noise back at them as we don't want to end up disturbing our other neighbours

Bang on their door frantically and loudly, scream through the letter box “Are you ok in there? Do you need an ambulance?”
Repeat until they come to the door and then innocently suggest you thought an asthmatic was being murdered.

Thing is, if they quietened down a bit the first few times you banged on the walls etc, then they know they can he heard. And they're not bothered enough to keep it down. So I'm not sure what speaking them will do!

Ring their doorbell and scarper? Should ruin the mood, anyway

Baby Shark or the Peppa Pig theme music full blast on repeat, guaranteed passion killer

Leave a note stuck to their front door so that passing people can read it "Do you know the rest of the block can hear your loud sex sessions?,please have some consideration for your neighbours";alternatively if you're cheeky enough ask the female neighbour for her business card as your friend is looking for a new prostitute to visit and you assume she sees her clients at home at the weekends?

@Devoutspoken

No, it sometimes just happens in the moment. Just because you don’t doesn’t mean others can help it