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Would you continue to date if he was on Only Fans?

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ellie09 · 02/10/2022 20:08

Okay, so first date with a guy.

He seemed quite fun, caring, kind, we seem to be on the same page.

Except he told me he is on Only Fans. He's also very active on social media to promote this.

He said he obviously gets paid for explicit personalised videos or pictures to women and that he often gets a lot of flirty comments on his social media which he also flirts back on but instinct its for "business"

How would you feel about this? Could you date someone who did this?

I feel that if I got any deeper in, I could end up getting hurt even if I do try to disconnect from that side of things?

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Libre2 · 02/10/2022 20:09

No I couldn’t.

Suzi888 · 02/10/2022 20:10

No.

Windywuss · 02/10/2022 20:11

God I feel old. No, I couldn't date someone who did this because I would have absolutely no respect for them. Any man flirting on social media and pouting and pimping himself out on the internet is clearly not someone I would share values with!

Bakereld · 02/10/2022 20:11

Oh god no! Sorry!

YellowTreeHouse · 02/10/2022 20:11

No. No issue from a moral point of view, each to their own, but I wouldn’t be comfortable with that.

SoftwareDev · 02/10/2022 20:13

I'm with @Windywuss. It would be a complete deal breaker for me.

ThreeRingCircus · 02/10/2022 20:15

Windywuss · 02/10/2022 20:11

God I feel old. No, I couldn't date someone who did this because I would have absolutely no respect for them. Any man flirting on social media and pouting and pimping himself out on the internet is clearly not someone I would share values with!

Agreed. I'd just find it embarrassing and a total turn off. So I'd move on.

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ellie09 · 02/10/2022 20:15

I asked him why he was doing this and he said its a temporary arrangement just for the extra cash. That it wouldn't last if he got into a relationship.

I took it obviously in my stride at the time but now I am contemplating if it is worth seeing him again or not?

I am quite an open person but it would worry me that I would soon not be quite so accepting seeing sexually explicit comments back and forth on social media for monetary gain

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solosunflower · 02/10/2022 20:16

noooooooo

blackbird77 · 02/10/2022 20:16

I wouldn’t touch him with a ten inch bargepole

NotVeryHopefulBeenHereB4 · 02/10/2022 20:16

Absolutely not

Badger1970 · 02/10/2022 20:16

Ew no, that's just grim.

Sunnyqueen · 02/10/2022 20:17

No thank you, definitely a deal breaker.

AnyFucker · 02/10/2022 20:18

Are you totally desperate ?

LimpBiskit · 02/10/2022 20:22

blackbird77 · 02/10/2022 20:16

I wouldn’t touch him with a ten inch bargepole

Maybe he has a ten inch bargepole and that's why he's on there😂

junkdrawer · 02/10/2022 20:23

No

PonyPatter44 · 02/10/2022 20:23

No. HTH.

blackbird77 · 02/10/2022 20:25

LimpBiskit · 02/10/2022 20:22

Maybe he has a ten inch bargepole and that's why he's on there😂

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😂😂😂 Haha! I meant 10 foot but your reply killed me 😂😂😂

Thepeopleversuswork · 02/10/2022 20:28

Nah. Naff as fuck.

JamSandle · 02/10/2022 20:30

Not for me.

Maybe snide but id want someone with a proper job.

ZekeZeke · 02/10/2022 20:33

You have to ask?

Noteverybodylives · 02/10/2022 20:35

No it would give me the ick.

However, a women posted the other day saying she used to be a sex worker and the majority said that it was none of her new partners business.

VladmirsPoutine · 02/10/2022 20:35

The good thing is you found out now, you shouldn't try to override your instinct to drop it entirely. Some people are okay with these kinds of things but you clearly aren't so don't try to convince yourself or 'rationalise' away your gut feeling.

Libre2 · 02/10/2022 20:37

I think the operative phrase here is “used to be”. He’s still doing this.

AnyFucker · 02/10/2022 20:43

However, a women posted the other day saying she used to be a sex worker

You understand about past and present tense, yeah ?