Would you continue to date if he was on Only Fans?

[ellie09]

Okay, so first date with a guy.

He seemed quite fun, caring, kind, we seem to be on the same page.

Except he told me he is on Only Fans. He's also very active on social media to promote this.

He said he obviously gets paid for explicit personalised videos or pictures to women and that he often gets a lot of flirty comments on his social media which he also flirts back on but instinct its for "business"

How would you feel about this? Could you date someone who did this?

I feel that if I got any deeper in, I could end up getting hurt even if I do try to disconnect from that side of things?

Oh its definitely not ten inch, he gave me a "sneak peak" at what is on his page and it most definitely is not.

I was a bit shocked at this revelation to be honest lol

I'm surprised he can find enough women to pay for it and make it viable.
Not saying women don't pay for sexual content, I'm sure they do, but I can't imagine it's widespread enough for a random bloke to make worthwhile money out of it.

He says he makes about £500 a month from it

I couldn’t be with a sex worker.

He can’t be very good at it. Move on and find the guy that’s making £5,000 a month.

He won't be making that for long if the rest of the male population find out you can make money sending dick pics.

I'm still highly sceptical.

You do realise he is on gay pages, yeah ?

God knows, I haven't looked lol

He has no respect for women and treats them as sex objects. You're a woman.

Sooner or later, he'll be posting pictures and comments about you.

NO bloody way. Also: sounds like a cover for him cheating. Run OP!

No 🤮

No. Tacky. Is that the best he can do?

So do women who do any form of sex work have no respect for men? To suggest that he's going to get the OP involved is ridiculous.

This is something that you need to work out for yourself OP. Personally it wouldn't bother me, unless he actually had sex with someone else.

Eurgh no.

At £500? No 😂

Depends on how much he's earning from it 😂

Has he got his own property?
Is he paying tax and declaring his earnings correctly?
What was his previous job/income?

I only ask because if in 1 or 2 years time you've got very serious and want to buy homes etc then you're going to have to consider all these things. Is his current way of earning going to detriment your wishes for the future?

I don't know how much hard work it is producing content for social media as it's not my thing at all but if he enjoys it and is earning well, I doubt he will immediately give up just for a new relationship. Can you trust that he will stop Only Fans if it's a deal breaker for you?

It's good he has been open and upfront about it. There is no harm seeing him for a bit longer to decide your own feelings about it.