I'm far more concerned about the emotional incest than the (ridiculous) amount of money she's spending. Comments about future girlfriends and whether he'll kick them out when he's still using a dummy and watching Peppa pig is just a bit ick! It's gross at any age but that just makes my skin crawl.
She's not teaching him good habits and I doubt he'll grow up respecting women if his own mother is going to sleep on a mattress on the floor in order to buy him a special tractor bed - surely a standard toddler bed (or even a single bed that will last) and second hand bed frame would have been fine too 🙄. Crying for 3 days over a lost dummy too - that was bound to happen toddlers don't have any concept of money and dummys get thrown and dropped all the time! Spending £1000 on one is just mind boggling to me.
The fact that she is on benefits is neither here or there when she's getting the money from her ex - clearly he is wealthy himself. I'd love to be able to spend a little more on my children but even if I could afford it, I personally can't understand the desire for expensive designer things that will get stained, grown out of and not appreciated as much as the paw patrol flashing trainers you can for an 8th of the price when they are toddlers.