Do you have anyone to go for an impromptu pint with?

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It's Friday

The working week is done.

The sun in shining.

There's a few quid in the bank.

Do you have anyone / the kind of friendship where you can call them up to go for a swift one?

I'm probably being sexist here but feel like guys find it easier to have these kind of friendships whereas, for me at least, going for a couple of drinks takes an enormous amount of planning and scheduling.

Therefore it's unlikely that on the odd Friday I fancy an hour out for a quick drink that I'd actually have a friends to go with.

Same for you or no?

No, but my chosen pint partner would be dh anyway tbh.

One friend who i regularly meet up for a coffee or drink after work before going home to cook dinner. We might meet at a cafe or each other's house. Not on the day, but usually a call the day before to ask if she's free.
Before we all had kids it was obviously easier.

Yes. Probably. If I wanted to. Mostly I just want to go home at the end of the day though

Fancy a drink, OP?

There that was easy

Have this issue too. Always so much planning needed even for a quick drink or coffee. I wish it wasn't the case but I guess that's just life when almost all my friends have both jobs and families.

Yeah a few locally

That’s hilarious because the person I immediately thought of is a guy 😂

Yes. But I got this way by going for drinks alone in the first place, which I'm still happy to do. Now I know lots of people in my local so don't usually even have to arrange it, just turn up, or if I want to meet someone I msg them and we usually manage to schedule ourselves within a few minutes.
I'm gay. Don't know if that makes a difference.

Yes I could ... but I rarely do because I prefer drinking in the comfort of my own home but I have plenty of friends I could invite round for a glass of wine.

No not really. My girlfriends and I are all planners so generally have plans well in advance and aren’t free at short notice. Also quite a few of my friends have moved out of London recently so it feels like there’s less people around to go out for impromptu drinks with.

I definitely feel like this more in the summer when we have lovely sunny evenings. Plus DP works long hours and Saturdays so I spend quite a lot of time at home alone. Perhaps it’s time I found some more local friends.

Impromptu is usually a drink with colleagues after work.

Completely agree and it pisses me off. Wish I had more impromptu friends

No. I have started to become friendly with a couple of local women, but one has a small baby and the other doesn't really drink, so popping along somewhere for a pint or two isn't happening! Unless it's DH. He doesn't have anyone either.

Life is hard.

No, all my friends live too far away to do anything spontaneous, we have some friends locally but not with that kind of relationship. I would go with DH but can't because of the kids.

Yep. I live in a tight knit village, I've got at least 10 options with a 100m radius.

Yes, a couple.
Is it the norm to not?

Probably not going out for a pint but a few I could invite round or meet up at their house. Mind you, I'm at that age where anything impromptu fills me with horror 😄.

Not really. Tends to need a bit of planning just in terms of other peoples childcare/work schedules etc. DP does though and they are mutual friends really so I sometimes tag along. I find it quite hard to do things spontaneously though so usually don't bother.

No. My drinking buddy died last November. Really miss his company and our impromptu pub crawls.☹

No, but I’d love to.

@Bluebellbike sorry for your loss

I can highly recommend making friends with the landlord or landlady in your local. There's always a friend to talk to when you just fancy dropping in.

Anyone in Brighton? I've had one glass on my own but im bored and fancy a chat

A couple. Rarely do it though as I don’t have much of a chance really!
Not really work colleagues as I work in a school where everyone tends to stay late and then drive back to family commitments or pick children up from childcare etc - no one really lives locally to the school.

Thank you.