Do you have anyone to go for an impromptu pint with?

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It's Friday

The working week is done.

The sun in shining.

There's a few quid in the bank.

Do you have anyone / the kind of friendship where you can call them up to go for a swift one?

I'm probably being sexist here but feel like guys find it easier to have these kind of friendships whereas, for me at least, going for a couple of drinks takes an enormous amount of planning and scheduling.

Therefore it's unlikely that on the odd Friday I fancy an hour out for a quick drink that I'd actually have a friends to go with.

Same for you or no?

Yes I do and you know what, it's so valuable it's crazy! One is my best friend who lives nearby, and the other a friend who lives in the centre who would be up for one too, mind you it would never be a swift one, it would turn into a long night out so I don't do it unless I'm willing to make it a long one! Although it is possible.

No, I don't. My boyfriend is incredulous - he has literally 100 people he could ping and say I'm on my way, let's go out. All his friends we've visited have been spur of the moment plans. He's even offered to give me the number of his friends that I've met with him, saying they are my friends now too and I can just invite them out without him. But I would feel very awkward doing that to someone I had only met once!

I don't and haven't had for some years. I always drink alone now (I'm in a pub writing this); it wouldn't suit everybody but you can go out where and when you want, drink what you want and how much and go home when you feel like it. No compromise. I always have my tablet and phone with me for company.

My female friends, I guess probably not. A male friend, probably dhs best friend. I worked in our local years ago and go to the football with them so would be easy to just go in and grab a pint with someone (mostly dhs friends though tbf).

No

Five years ago I had a big group of friends. We had a WhatsApp group called Drinks? and would arrange impromptu drinks all the time. (As the name implies)

I'm still very good friends with them, but half of us have had babies now and that makes it a lot harder to be spontaneous.

Oh I would love it so much if I had this.

Yes but it would usually be colleagues.

A couple of friends I would ring, one M one F, 30% chance they might be free.

And then there is my partner.

And failing that I would happily go alone.

Several. My brother and his husband live nearby and we often do this. Also my daughter (did it last night). Plus I am lucky enough to have a large circle of local friends. A message on the WhatsApp group asking who wants to pop out for a drink will always get at least at least one taker.

as PP have said it's great!

I do, but it's usually to each others houses for a cuppa rather than the pub for a drink. She lives within walking distance to the pub but I dont, so for me it requires some planning.

Plus kids, clubs, DH shifts, work etc can make it a juggle.

No and I wish I did
I also wish I lived somewhere where I knew ppl and had pubs and restaurants within walking distance so that any meet up isn't the massive logistical nightmare it always is

I could suggest it on our WhatsApp group (5 women including me) and see if anyone was around. They'd probably be busy at this short notice though!

I used to, but now I have DS and DH. Everyone else I know needs loads of notice. Ironically before I lived in a little village, and now live in the centre of a major city full of great pubs. I really need to get out and meet some impromptu people.

Yes, and she has now moved away 😢

I can usually persuade DH though, and the DC are now just about old enough to all be left for one drink in our local.

I do have 2 friends I can do this with currently, but they are 8-10 years younger than me (38) and due to separately move away from the area soon.
Crucially, they don't have kids yet.
Once people have kids its all over (I dont have any).
One of my good friends with two small kids lives 0.8 miles away and we last saw each other on 2nd April. We're next getting together on 25th June. I totally get it, but how hopeless is that.
Yes DH can meet up with friends easily compared to me.

I live in a village with no pub so going out for a drink requires pre planning if you want to drink alcohol. There is a sports club though where you could just rock up and probably hook up with someone you know as we've lived here quite a long time (although we're not locals ).

A couple, including a neighbour we’re friendly with now.

in a couple of months my oldest will be able to, so looking forward to that!

In the past I've felt like I have to have this deep friendship connection to meet with people but actually I think the value in having someone to have a cheeky vino with I need to settle down a bit and be satisfied with some superficial mates.

Nope. I don’t have friends like that where I live. Can’t even get a coffee spontaneously.

I have a guy friend who’d go for a beer whenever but we don’t live in the same country anymore 😔

Sometimes I do but I have male and female friends and im single.

I think it does. One of my pint buddies is gay.

DP is always up for a pint
But I have a couple of girlfriends that can normally be tempted out

There's a gang of folks I drink with so yes - could go on my own past a local pub garden - poss need to go to a second if they moved on - and end up out until the early hours
Loose interconnected groups totalling about 30 people

Yes. As well as lots of other friends, there's a local group who are ex-school gates, weeded out. It's important that it's the pub and it's pints I'm 62 🍺