Is DP BU or am I?

[IsNothingSacred1234]

DP and I have been together for 8 years and have young DC. I have a DD (16) from previous marriage. She’s been going through a hard time lately and we’ve been watching a crappy US series for an hour a night as a bonding thing.

DP got in a huff tonight because we were watching it for the fourth night in a row. We have another room he could watch TV in, or he could read, do work whatever.

We’ve just had a row because he feels that we should watch something we can all watch together every other night. I think he’s being a bit controlling and that it wouldn’t bother most people, they’d just find something else to do for that hour.

@Nightlystroll

So the bonding is just for you and your daughter and not for her stepdad?

What's wrong with that

@Byefornow

Is he in charge of the small children when you’re watching tv? Maybe that’s his problem unless they’re in bed.

I think if he was in charge of the small children that'd make him less reasonable.

It's perfectly fine for OP to spend time with DD while he looks after the others.

It's harsher that he's left out after the others have gone to bed.

I think it would depend what it is, and when it's on and what the rest of the family are doing and the size of the 'other' TV room. If it's on when the younger children are about and it's inappropriate for them to watch, as crappy to me could either be bubblegum rubbish like real housewives or graphic plastic surgery like Botched.
If everyone else has to clear out of the 'big' room would it not be better for you and DD to take over the other room for the TV time?

It's an hour! An hour. Not the whole evening. He shouldn't even be raising this as an issue.