To expect house guests to flush a toilet after use?

[Hairyfriend]

I'm sure I will be berated as its MIL, but would you expect someone that uses your toilet to flush and wash their hands after use, and also wonder why a women hasn't used toilet paper? MIL is British, barely been abroad, so its not a cultural thing that I'm aware of. We are renovating, so living in a tiny caravan- so even by staying outside when she uses the loo, its very obvious she hasn't flushed or washed hands
Thoughts?

I would expect everyone to use toilet paper, flush and wash their hands. Not just house guests.

Maybe she thinks the caravan isn't plumbed in 🤣

Thoughts?

Why have you asked when we all know that of course she should flush

Was it a poo that she did?..because maybe she did use toilet paper, and flush and wash her hands (and the poo Just didn't go away with the flush and she is blissfully unaware of the poogate she has created)

Of course she should flush but maybe she just forgot on this occasion.

Well- we wouldn't flush a wee in the interest of saving water and our poo tank, it does get flushed regularly but not for a white wee. But if we had guests we would flush. Of course she wash her hands

Is she a particularly dirty person? Or does she look clean?

I have a family member who doesn't use toilet paper. I find it odd. I remember someone saying "there's no paper in that toilet" and her replying "I don't use it anyway". I don't know if she was simply insinuating she didn't need a poo and didn't mean to say it but having shared a cubicle on many occasions, I know. 🤢 she used to never flush at home to save the environment and unfortunately people have commented on her dirty hands and having seen her show them water, I'm unsure she knows how to wash her hands. She also brags that she can have a shower in less than 4 mins.

I think hand washing is rarer than we think. I see far too many people leave public or work toilets straight after flushing.

Is she used to having a septic?. We have one & follow the rule
If it's brown flush it down, if it's yellow let it mellow

Covid taught us how people in the UK rarely washed their hands.

@Onesailwait

Is she used to having a septic?. We have one & follow the rule If it's brown flush it down, if it's yellow let it mellow

I have a septic tank. This isnt necessary.

I didn't say it was necessary I that's what we do

So what as the point in posting?
People with septic tanks use their toilets the same way anyone else does. We flush it and we wash out hands. Asking if the MIL has a septic tank has nothing to do with it because, as you say, this isnt a necessary thing for septic tanks. It is just what you choose to do.

@Onesailwait

Is she used to having a septic?. We have one & follow the rule If it's brown flush it down, if it's yellow let it mellow

We have a septic and we live on tank water in a country that often has no rain for months on end. We still flush the toilet after every use.

There are quite a lot of people who don’t flush the toilet for a wee at night, so if it’s that I don’t think it’s outrageous not to flush. Anything else is odd. Not using toilet paper is very weird. Not Washing hands is grim but not uncommon.

To be fair to her, if she didn't use toilet paper or flush she doesn't really need to wash her hands.

Flush and put the lid down.

I still think she may have forgotten to flush or may not want to make a noise with flushing if it is at night. There are also some toilets where you have to flush more than once. I don't know how you can tell that she hasn't washed her hands.

Why not just say generally, "Who didn't flush the toilet?", in a cheerful way?

She also brags that she can have a shower in less than 4 mins.

That seems pretty normal to me, unless I'm washing my hair I don't need to be in there for long.

@WhatATimeToBeAlive

She also brags that she can have a shower in less than 4 mins.

That seems pretty normal to me, unless I'm washing my hair I don't need to be in there for long.

That's what I was thinking!

wonder why a women hasn't used toilet paper

Well this bit is really none of your business but yeh it’s pretty grim to not flush or wash hands but I guess it depends on whether she thinks the toilet is properly connected to sewage pipes etc. She might have some semi logical reasoning behind why she didn’t flush or wash.

@WallpaperWonder

To be fair to her, if she didn't use toilet paper or flush she doesn't really need to wash her hands.

she'll just have wet knickers and might smell of pee a bit😂

Nowt worse than a damp undercarriage 😭

I rushed out of my toilet earlier before flushing and hand washing, because my 'phone was ringing and I was expecting a 'phone call. This thread has reminded me to go flush and wash now. Thanks.

@DropYourSword @WhatATimeToBeAlive that's including hair washing. I think she just slaps on wash and go and hopes it rains. I take a lot longer if hair washing.

Well in public toilets if the sinks don't look too clean etc I use my hand gel instead then do them properly at home or wherever, but I imagine that isn't the case with your mil. Maybe she was being absent minded, or she may have washed her hands with just a trickle of water and you didn't hear that bit. Not using paper is a bit weird though.