DH refusing Covid test

[Tooboo]

Been together 10 years and you can guarantee that DH will fall “ill” around every single holiday or event that we plan. Christmas, birthdays, vacations, events …. It’s literally every time.

So come Christmas Eve this year I was surprised to realise he hadn’t mentioned feeling unwell. I felt unwell, I felt like shit actually with a banging headache and fever. I’ve been taking LFTs every day and they’re always negative. I didn’t mention to him that I felt unwell as it would just set him off.
Christmas Day he was quiet but didn’t mention feeling unwell. Christmas evening came and he’s suddenly flushed up bright red, sweating and huddled under a blanket on the sofa saying he couldn’t get warm. Spidey senses started tingling. I left him to have a sleep. He got worse and started coughing, said his throat was killing him and he had a bastard of a headache. He took paracetamol which really surprised me as in all our 10 years I’ve known him take paracetamol twice and only when absolutely desperate.
We went to bed, he was so hot that when his skin touched mine it actually stung a little … like I was up against a radiator. He said he just couldn’t get warm yet was literally burning up.
This morning he’s back under his blanket asleep. I’ve just done a LFT and have booked a PCR. He is refusing to take either as he’s meant to be having his adult kids (25 and 26) overnight tonight and doesn’t want to have to cancel!!! I can’t get over this!! I said if it is Covid you’re going to pass it on!! Plus even without this he’s clearly too unwell to drive across the city, pick them up, entertain them all night and then drive them back home tomorrow!

AIBU here? Actually I know I’m not, just can’t get over it, the stupidness of it.

Should also add that DH has never had a LFT or a PCR since the pandemic started.

Oh course he is. What a dickhead.

@Tooboo

He’s just tested, he’s positive

What a surprise. Good thing he tested

@2389Champ

Several weeks ago, I would have been on the ‘string him up for his selfishness’ rant.

I’ve now come to the conclusion with Omicron that it’s so efficient at transmission, there’s little we can do now, and apart from letting his children know so they can make their own choices, there’s little point in testing - other than to confirm positivity to the individual taking it.

It takes around 3 days from exposure to infection. My LFTs were all negative whilst I was feeling a bit meh and were only positive once I felt better 2 days later! By then, I don’t doubt I inadvertently spread it along with millions of others.

In the last fortnight, it’s gone from a handful of friends/colleagues having had Covid over the whole pandemic to virtually everyone testing positive. All without exception, in all vax status and in all age groups, mild and not requiring medical intervention.

Trying to stop Omicron now would be like trying to contain an octopus in a string bag!

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Except it sounds like he’s got full on Delta with those symptoms rather than the ‘it’s just a cold’ omicron

@Tooboo

He’s just tested, he’s positive

There’s a surprise 🙄. How did you get him to test?

And I cannot believe 7% thought YWBU…

Except it sounds like he’s got full on Delta with those symptoms rather than the ‘it’s just a cold’ omicron

Without lab confirmation, you cannot assume by symptoms alone whether it’s Delta or Omicron, particularly as Omicron is rapidly displacing Delta. I started off with exactly the same symptoms as the OPs OH but within 24 hours had turned the corner and it evolved into nothing more than mild sniffles - as I have with many previous colds - and I was confirmed to have Omicron.

Those mentioning I get a PCR, is that to confirm it’s Omicron rather than Delta? I know I have Covid as 3 consecutive LFT’s have come back positive. I suspect it’s Omicron as colleague was unwell Tuesday evening (we worked together) and positive Wednesday and I was Positive by Friday evening. I felt awful for 2 days and today I’m feeling mostly better. Im not in the UK btw so we have a different system.

They don’t all test for omicron, not all the labs have the technology.

@2389Champ

Except it sounds like he’s got full on Delta with those symptoms rather than the ‘it’s just a cold’ omicron

Without lab confirmation, you cannot assume by symptoms alone whether it’s Delta or Omicron, particularly as Omicron is rapidly displacing Delta. I started off with exactly the same symptoms as the OPs OH but within 24 hours had turned the corner and it evolved into nothing more than mild sniffles - as I have with many previous colds - and I was confirmed to have Omicron.

I was the same with confirmed delta 🤷🏼‍♀️

He should absolutely be doing a pcr but you were unwell and only did a lft yourself?!

His children are grown adults. I am certain they will understand and rather he cancel then catch what he's got - covid or not he sounds ill and doesn't want to spread that regardless.