To not have accepted this lift?

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I was out with friends last night in our nearest city. At the end of the night, one friend's friend turned up to give her, her bf and two other friends a lift home.

They kindly offered me a lift, but it would have meant me having to sit on someone's knee and not have a seatbelt. It was also snowing, and had been on and off all day so it lying. I declined the lift and waited in the (very cold and long) queue.

I mentioned to another friend today how busy the city bad been and the length of the taxi queue, and that I'd been offered a lift. She said she'd have accepted the lift and I was over the top not to.

AIBU for refusing the lift?

YANBU.. Would have been dangerous AND illegal!

I'd have been tempted, but you were probably right. If it had been the alternative to walking home alone in the dark,that would have been different.

Thanks. I felt a bit like I had made a fool of myself by saying no because I thought it was unsafe.

Did everyone else get a lift and leave you?

Yes, @Chickychoccyegg. I was right next to the taxi rank though.

bit mean of the others to all leave you

as a teenager, definitely did this (BF with open top sports car that friends crammed in the back of) - but wouldn't now, esp with snow.

I don't think much of your friends tbh. When I used to go out (a million years ago admittedly) someone would have offered (insisted on) staying with me.
You were entirely right to refuse btw. Although I might not have.

Do you know what i said YANBU but if it was a short distance and given how cold it was I'd probably have considered it! But of course you did the right thing in the end.

It was a distance of three miles.

To be honest, I would have insisted on staying with a woman on her own, but that's another story.

I was actually really surprised that any of them thought that it was an okay suggestion to get into a car without a belt.

Always do what you feel comfortable with when it comes to risk taking. If you weren't comfortable with it, you were right not to take the lift. Personally I would have done though.

You did the right thing, when I was young I would have thought nothing of it but now it’s just a risk not worth taking.

You're good. Better that than end up squashed in an accident.

YANBU for not accepting it, if you didn't want to, but YABU to be over-thinking it like you are!!! So what if someone else would have and you wouldn't? It doesn't make either of you right or wrong; different people make different choices!

A load of drunk people cramming into a car with no seatbelts on a snowy/icy night sounds like the beginning of a horrendous public information film

I certainly would have taken the lift, unless I felt like walking. You should do whatever you want though!

This happened to many moons ago…. I was made to feel like I was being very silly to refuse and I was very disappointed/pissed off that I was left alone to wait for and get a taxi home.

I decided never to go out with those friends again!

Your gut instinct told you not to do it, you did the right thing. Cold wait for a cab but you got home safe ( and I do think a friend should have waited with you)

Seatbelts are compulsory.

I wouldn't. Isn't worth the risk.
But I also wouldn't leave you in your own waiting for a taxi! They could have at least waited until one came!

I’m surprised that every single one of them left you just to save a few quid

I'm a stickler for doing the right thing and would not have taken the lift.

OP wasn't left alone in the middle of nowhere she was in a queue at a taxi rank which means there were plenty of people around. I would have probably taken the lift rather than wait in the cold.

I wouldn't have accepted the lift. (I wouldn't be annoyed with them though for leaving me to get a taxi, unless I'd expected to share a taxi home with one of them.)

YANBU and were very sensible - but I have to admit that I probably would have taken the lift.

Incidentally, all those posters saying someone should have waited with OP, did you miss the part where she was in a long queue?