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To not have accepted this lift?

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Notavailablesoi · 28/11/2021 22:51

I was out with friends last night in our nearest city. At the end of the night, one friend's friend turned up to give her, her bf and two other friends a lift home.

They kindly offered me a lift, but it would have meant me having to sit on someone's knee and not have a seatbelt. It was also snowing, and had been on and off all day so it lying. I declined the lift and waited in the (very cold and long) queue.

I mentioned to another friend today how busy the city bad been and the length of the taxi queue, and that I'd been offered a lift. She said she'd have accepted the lift and I was over the top not to.

AIBU for refusing the lift?

OP posts:
Lammysaurus · 29/11/2021 19:32

YANBU. Fine for her to say she'd have accepted, ridic for her to try to shame you for not accepting. And I'll admit when I was a bit younger and broke I would have gone, and legality be damned. But your boundaries about your own personal safety and your values are yours alone - distrust anyone who tries to erode them. I respect you for doing what's right for you. No one else is harmed by your refusing.

Clementine8 · 29/11/2021 19:35

For a 3 mile journey i would have offered to do one run then come back for the rest. No way would i take anyone without a seatbelt never mind in the snow. I also think its shit that no one waited.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 29/11/2021 19:35

I'd have taken the lift too.

GreenLunchBox · 29/11/2021 19:38

Last week I heard of a 20 year old local woman taken to hospital with severe head injuries after being in the back of a car that crashed with no seat belt. I don't know if she was sitting on someone's lap at the time, but it doesn't sound pleasant either way. She was found in the road.

Shade17 · 29/11/2021 19:38

YANBU and the driver was an absolute twat for even considering it.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 29/11/2021 19:51

For three miles, if I was the driver I would have done two trips.

MakeItRain · 29/11/2021 21:03

No way would I have taken that lift. After all the safety films made, with un-belted passengers hitting and killing others through being thrown from their seat.. I'm really shocked to see how many people think it's OK to travel in a car on someone's lap. I feel like I've stepped back into the 70's. You did the right thing. Sad though that you were left on your own to wait for a cab.

Ludo19 · 29/11/2021 21:06

You did the right thing. Shocked at some saying they would take the risk. I've seen first hand this scenario ending in a crash and it was horrific.

AllaboutMary · 29/11/2021 21:08

You did the right thing. Very shitty of them to leave you on your own. I would've expected one of them to get a cab with you.

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