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[MrsRobbieHart]

Can everyone stop asking for handholds!

That is all.

The phrase or the request for support?

I only see this when someone is going through a genuinely traumatic experience. You don't have to read the threads if you don't like the concept.

The phrase! No problem with requests for support.

@ArblemarchTFruitbat

I only see this when someone is going through a genuinely traumatic experience. You don't have to read the threads if you don't like the concept.

It’s in the thread titles

Why does it bother you?

No idea. It just does.

How would you prefer people phrase it?

Not sure, I’ll have a think on it and get back to you.

😁 not that anyone will change it, I'm just curious.

Bad timing really though, considering a devastated woman is in active convos asking for a handhold as her life has turned upside down

not that anyone will change it

Oh

Not directed at anyone in particular. The phrase just rankles.

Right, so, what you'd prefer is that, when someone is in the the throes of a traumatic life event, and would like to seek support from their chosen online community, is if they could find some other form of wording, instead of reaching for the shorthand that all other users will recognise? Whilst they're dealing with god knows what in real life.

You know when a thought runs through your head? Sometimes, for kindness, it's better to leave it in there.

YABU for using a rubbish, completely uninformative title to complain about other people's titles that at least offer a clue as to what they are about.

Right, so, what you'd prefer is that, when someone is in the the throes of a traumatic life event, and would like to seek support from their chosen online community, is if they could find some other form of wording

Well no, they don’t have to replace it with anything surely? “My bedroom fell off the house” is sufficient to accurately portray that they need support, no?

Do you mean…. #bekind?

Damn. Forgot to paste. I was responding to

You know when a thought runs through your head? Sometimes, for kindness, it's better to leave it in there.

@MrsRobbieHart

not that anyone will change it

Oh

Not directed at anyone in particular. The phrase just rankles.

Lots of things irritate people though. We just get on with it.

I feel sorry for people who have meltdowns over bad grammar or phrases they don't like. It must be a nightmare.

I think we should invest our energy getting upset by the shitty things people do, rather than someone's use of words. Words really are a minor thing to fret about.

I feel sorry for people who have meltdowns over bad grammar or phrases they don't like. It must be a nightmare.

Yes, that must be really hard for them. Having a meltdown is a very extreme reaction to bad grammar or a phrase. I would imagine if someone was actually having a meltdown for that reason, they must have other stuff going on for them to react so badly. As opposed to just being irritated by it…

If hand holding is banned can we also ban hubby/hun please. DH is fine enough.

@scully29

If hand holding is banned can we also ban hubby/hun please. DH is fine enough.

Yes we absolutely can.

Very entitled of you to think people should stop using a word on a public forum simply because it annoys you, especially one used when people are at their lowest.

Agree with hubby/hubs. Boak!!

@Sparklfairy

Very entitled of you to think people should stop using a word on a public forum simply because it annoys you, especially one used when people are at their lowest.

To be fair, It’s also used for nonsense threads. I think that’s where the irritation comes from tbh.

It's one of those annoying 'only seen on MN' phrases, which no one says in real life or on other online forums.

@MolyHolyGuacamole

It's one of those annoying 'only seen on MN' phrases, which no one says in real life or on other online forums.

Yes it is. I’ve never heard it anywhere else.

Pretty sure hand holding with strangers is just not ok any more due to covid anyway to be fair.