Lockdown and domestic abuse

[SummerHouse]

Sorry not an AIBU but, traffic…

From Thursday we all go into lockdown. Many places already have restrictions. But there is a vital exemption - you are able to leave your home to escape injury or harm. If you need to leave your home to protect yourself, the restrictions will not apply to you.

These restrictions are tough on most people but terrifying if they keep you trapped with an abuser and cut off from your usual escapes and support. I have found mumsnet to be a source of help in times of need so thought I would put together some links in case it helps someone somewhere.

I am thinking of you and feeling like a chocolate fireguard at the moment. But please let someone know if you are worried. Please have a look at the links below in case they might help.

Call the Police on 101 or 999 if it’s an emergency. If speaking would put you in danger, use the silent solution - you can call 999 and press “5 5” – this lets the police know you need help.

Here are details about having a Safety Plan

Safe Spaces are available in pharmacies including Boots, Superdrug and Morrisons and other independent pharmacies. Just go to the healthcare counter and ask for the safe space. There will be a phoneline and support available in a secure environment for you.

The National Domestic Violence Helpline is a 24hr Freephone available on 0808 2000 247 operating 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Galop is the national LGBT+ anti-violence charity. The number for them is 0800 999 5428.

The Men’s Advice Line is for male victims of domestic abuse and can be reached on 0808 8010327.

If you are the abuser, you can get help to change. Call the Respect helpline on 0808 802 4040

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[ISaySteadyOn]

Bumping esp since domestic abuse cases have now topped 100,000 this year as a result of lockdown.

This needs to be at the top.

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[SummerHouse]

Just bumping. And thank you to others for bumping. You have all made me feel slightly less pointless

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It's the hardest thing you'll ever do if you're in it but once you're out the otherside and you learn all the lessons you need to learn to never go through it again life is so beautiful ❤️

[SummerHouse]

@Mebeline

It's the hardest thing you'll ever do if you're in it but once you're out the otherside and you learn all the lessons you need to learn to never go through it again life is so beautiful ❤️

Beautiful comment.

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[Kazza53]

I live in Essex and I am unable to get any help in short my boys have a social worker ( dads behaviour) which has been turn on me I have finally got my decree nisi but refuses to sell the house we are all still here together !! He had affairs et. But says it’s my fault I wasn’t a good wife !
I have been told it’s narsisist and also using gas lighting which the social workers ( we have had several) totally go with he has told them I’m not right in the head our boys (16) go along with this I wash clean cook shop clean up after all 3 and get nothing but abuse regularly told to F/off I’m a whore slag etc .
He is clever as this is all done though the boys and not him even in the past told s/ worker he was frightened of me I have a tecording of his brother threatening me as well
Social worker also told husband I was intending to divorce him !!
I have tried so many places and can’t get any help
Even Nicole Jacobs who is the commissioner for domestic abuse ! She offered to help and then weeks later said she couldn’t

[SummerHouse]

Kazza have you contacted Safer Places .

They have a women's center in Essex. To contact the Rosie Centre please email [email protected] or call our helpline 03301 025 811 and quote 'The Rosie Centre'

I hope they can help. Your situation sounds horrible.

[timetochangeagainforever]

What a great thread (unfortunately needed). Thank you.
I'm in Kent and happy to help anyone who needs to escape

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This thread should be revived at Christmas time.

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Thank you bumpers!

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Bumping today as many of us find we are entering tier three.

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