My DD is just 3 (last week) and still has a dummy, she pretty much only has it at night when she goes to bed, I am softer than DP and also let her have it when shes really tired and just sitting watching tv or something, if she gets up to play she gives it me back and it's pretty much her only comfort item.
DP hates it and keeps asking me when we are getting rid of it, telling her shes a baby and "losing them" and it's really pissing me off. We are in the process of giving up naps and she gets really tired some days she has been busy today and we just went for a big walk and came in and sat down on the sofa together and put a film on and she asked for her dummy so I said yes and DP came down stairs and was immediately like what's that in your mouth your not a baby give it to me. I told him no and I said she could have it and shes fine. He huffed off.
AIBU to let a 3 year old have a dummy when shes tired?